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LuckyStar
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Kids and TV
I work in an office of 5 women with children and I am the only one who allows their child to watch tv.
She’s allowed a half hour after school while I cook dinner and an hour or 2 on weekends. She is not allowed to watch in restaurants or at family functions. I’d be lying if I said we never went over 2 hours on weekends, sometimes she’ll watch an extra show or a movie. These are all age appropriate shows/movies. She isn’t watching showgirls.
In contrast, I don’t think I’ve ever seen DH’s nephews’ eyeballs because they are glued to their iPads. Not judging, just laughing because my coworkers would die.
My other SIL will cover her kid’s eyes if there is a screen in the room, but she’s a whole different bag of crazy.
I personally do not feel moderate tv watching is detrimental to a child in any way and in many cases can be beneficial.
Just wondering what the tv rules are in everyone else’s house.
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We have a simple rule.
There is no rule.
I honestly don't have it in me to police everything little she does. I was never one for rules, in any aspect of life, though.
As long as her homework is done, her reading is done, her grades are good, and she does what we tell her in terms of picking up after herself, etc. she can watch whenever she wants.
To be honest, she has lost interest in TV in the last few years anyway- because she is now addicted to the damn tablet.
But she also still likes to play independantly, draw, do crafts, do 5000 handstands and back walkovers a day  , etc., so I'm not too concerned.
I doubt she'll be a serial killer because she watched The Loud House and Victorious unrestricted.
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DD is 3 and is better at working the YouTube app than I am. I don't really concern myself with her TV/tablet use because she is so active and imaginative otherwise. A lot of times she'll start a movie while she's eating and then when she's done she'll leave to play with her toys or chase the dog around the house or whatever other activity. I feel like making it this "forbidden" thing will only make it more enticing in the future.
It was similar when I was a kid- I grew up as the "snack house". We always had goodies abound and I never really wanted them. My friends would come over and gorge themselves though because they never had it in the house and were never allowed it.
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I find that a lot of families that have two parents that work have a no TV rule. And that's because they don't have to deal with their kids all day long every day! If one of those parents had to stay home god help them! I always felt so bad for the nannies of hardcore working parents who weren't allowed to let the kids watch a half hour of TV a day. And I am talking about nannies who work 8am - 8pm. And by the way, if you are "that" parent, your nanny pretty much loathes you. Believe me I have chatted with enough of them....
Personally, I would die if my kids didn't get a little down time to watch some TV. Also, I don't think TV is awful. There are a lot of good programs for young kids. I grew up on Sesame Street, Mr. Rogers, Etc.
Your co-workers sound way uptight and I don't think they are the norm...
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Posted by Momma2015
DD is 3 and is better at working the YouTube app than I am. I don't really concern myself with her TV/tablet use because she is so active and imaginative otherwise. A lot of times she'll start a movie while she's eating and then when she's done she'll leave to play with her toys or chase the dog around the house or whatever other activity. I feel like making it this "forbidden" thing will only make it more enticing in the future.
It was similar when I was a kid- I grew up as the "snack house". We always had goodies abound and I never really wanted them. My friends would come over and gorge themselves though because they never had it in the house and were never allowed it.
OMG my house is the "snack house." My kids are thin as rails and only one has a sweet tooth. The candy is just out and they never go near it! But when other kids come over they gorge and I feel like those are the kids that are going to end up with the problem because they have no control. If my kid wants something a little sweet they take a piece and they are done. They aren't rummaging through everything to find another fix!
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Re: Kids and TV
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Posted by Momma2015
DD is 3 and is better at working the YouTube app than I am. I don't really concern myself with her TV/tablet use because she is so active and imaginative otherwise. A lot of times she'll start a movie while she's eating and then when she's done she'll leave to play with her toys or chase the dog around the house or whatever other activity. I feel like making it this "forbidden" thing will only make it more enticing in the future.
It was similar when I was a kid- I grew up as the "snack house". We always had goodies abound and I never really wanted them. My friends would come over and gorge themselves though because they never had it in the house and were never allowed it.
OMG my house is the "snack house." My kids are thin as rails and only one has a sweet tooth. The candy is just out and they never go near it! But when other kids come over they gorge and I feel like those are the kids that are going to end up with the problem because they have no control. If my kid wants something a little sweet they take a piece and they are done. They aren't rummaging through everything to find another fix!
Exactly!!! We're a snack house, too and honestly I think my DH is the worst of us because he grew up in a pretty restrictive house. And I feel like my DD eats a decent amount of candy but like you said, it's a piece here or there, and then she's off and running so she's super skinny. It also never affects what she eats for meals- I mean she eats GREAT for breakfast, lunch, and dinner- honestly probably better than I do most days!
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Re: Kids and TV
Posted by Momma2015
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Posted by Momma2015
DD is 3 and is better at working the YouTube app than I am. I don't really concern myself with her TV/tablet use because she is so active and imaginative otherwise. A lot of times she'll start a movie while she's eating and then when she's done she'll leave to play with her toys or chase the dog around the house or whatever other activity. I feel like making it this "forbidden" thing will only make it more enticing in the future.
It was similar when I was a kid- I grew up as the "snack house". We always had goodies abound and I never really wanted them. My friends would come over and gorge themselves though because they never had it in the house and were never allowed it.
OMG my house is the "snack house." My kids are thin as rails and only one has a sweet tooth. The candy is just out and they never go near it! But when other kids come over they gorge and I feel like those are the kids that are going to end up with the problem because they have no control. If my kid wants something a little sweet they take a piece and they are done. They aren't rummaging through everything to find another fix!
Exactly!!! We're a snack house, too and honestly I think my DH is the worst of us because he grew up in a pretty restrictive house. And I feel like my DD eats a decent amount of candy but like you said, it's a piece here or there, and then she's off and running so she's super skinny. It also never affects what she eats for meals- I mean she eats GREAT for breakfast, lunch, and dinner- honestly probably better than I do most days!
Yeah we're a snack house too. But it's me AND DD who are shoveling that shit down our gullets like it's going out of style.
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Kids and TV
We have no rules or limits. They have learned plenty from their tv watching, they're very creative and imaginative, they are great at playing with toys and entertaining themselves but they also need downtime most days. I'm not great at filtering what they watch either. They like Hunger Games, Star Wars, Ready Player One, and music videos on YouTube (thankfully that's all they watch on YouTube). My 4yo has been requesting to watch the superbowl halftime show on YouTube ever since it was on lol.
They're not tablet kids at all and only ask for them maybe once a month. They only bwatch YouTube on the tv so they're not glued to it and I can see what they're watching easily enough. On a daily basis I see kids walking through the school parking lot with their face in a phone bc they can't be torn away until they're at the school door. These kids would walk right into traffic if someone wasn't pulling them along.
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And to add- DD watches a lot of You Tube videos of people playing with toys, dolls etc. and I find that it adds to her creative play.
She'll watch something and get inspired to go build something herself, or play with toys she hasn't played with in a while because she gets an idea from the video.
I think it's actually beneficial and fosters her creativity.
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Kids and TV
We don’t have any tv rules, but my DD isn’t the type that will sit in front of the tv for hours, so we’ve never really had to limit her. Even when she does watch tv, she’s usually doing something else at the same time like drawing, coloring, writing, etc...
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LuckyStar
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Posted by lululu
I find that a lot of families that have two parents that work have a no TV rule. And that's because they don't have to deal with their kids all day long every day! If one of those parents had to stay home god help them! I always felt so bad for the nannies of hardcore working parents who weren't allowed to let the kids watch a half hour of TV a day. And I am talking about nannies who work 8am - 8pm. And by the way, if you are "that" parent, your nanny pretty much loathes you. Believe me I have chatted with enough of them....
Personally, I would die if my kids didn't get a little down time to watch some TV. Also, I don't think TV is awful. There are a lot of good programs for young kids. I grew up on Sesame Street, Mr. Rogers, Etc.
Your co-workers sound way uptight and I don't think they are the norm...
In some circles I think it is the norm. DH and I were at a wedding last week and we were chatting with a few other couples whose children did not watch tv. A few of DH’s friends are also anti-tv. I actually feel like I know more parents who don’t allow tv than who do.
Perhaps your theory is correct, though, because all of these families have 2 working parents. None of my coworkers have nannies, their kids are in school or daycare. The only SAHM I know is my SIL and she’s the one who holds her hands over her kid’s eyes.
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They do know these kids are going to watch TV eventually right?
Do they think they are going to breed an adult who NEVER watches a TV?
I don't get it.
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Re: Kids and TV
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I find that a lot of families that have two parents that work have a no TV rule. And that's because they don't have to deal with their kids all day long every day! If one of those parents had to stay home god help them! I always felt so bad for the nannies of hardcore working parents who weren't allowed to let the kids watch a half hour of TV a day. And I am talking about nannies who work 8am - 8pm. And by the way, if you are "that" parent, your nanny pretty much loathes you. Believe me I have chatted with enough of them....
Personally, I would die if my kids didn't get a little down time to watch some TV. Also, I don't think TV is awful. There are a lot of good programs for young kids. I grew up on Sesame Street, Mr. Rogers, Etc.
Your co-workers sound way uptight and I don't think they are the norm...
In some circles I think it is the norm. DH and I were at a wedding last week and we were chatting with a few other couples whose children did not watch tv. A few of DH’s friends are also anti-tv. I actually feel like I know more parents who don’t allow tv than who do.
Perhaps your theory is correct, though, because all of these families have 2 working parents. None of my coworkers have nannies, their kids are in school or daycare. The only SAHM I know is my SIL and she’s the one who holds her hands over her kid’s eyes.
I don't know if I agree with this. When two parents work and come home, alot of times they are busy cooking, hwk and other sh!t that they don't have time to sit and bond with their kids.I know I don't, or sometimes I am spent on the weekend and need a break. But maybe that's me
OP, sounds like you have a pretty strict tv policy to me. my son can watch tv/movie for hours or some days we out and about. TV on weekdays is dependent if he is doing good in school. My son does not have phone or watch anything when we are eating dinner or at a restaurant.
Some TV parents will also have their kids on the iPad or phone which is the same crap or possibly worse than tv time.That I don't get.
I chalk it up to different parenting style. It's the same as my strict policies of no video games or phone. To each their own and I wouldn't worry about it.
Your sister with the covering yes is
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They do know these kids are going to watch TV eventually right?
Do they think they are going to breed an adult who NEVER watches a TV?
I don't get it.
So what’s funny is 3 of them didn’t grow up watching tv themselves and watch very little now as adults. One married a man who also didn’t watch tv growing up and doesn’t OWN a tv.
I want to add that these are some of the nicest women I’ve ever met and are actually quite normal aside from the tv. They’re not shaming me (at least not to my face) and honestly they do pretty cool stuff with their kids that I wish I had the patience and energy for. They also have multiple kids, so playmates. I’m the only one who is one and done and joke that I have an extra tv instead of an extra baby.
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So what’s funny is 3 of them didn’t grow up watching tv themselves and watch very little now as adults. One married a man who also didn’t watch tv growing up and doesn’t OWN a tv.
I want to add that these are some of the nicest women I’ve ever met and are actually quite normal aside from the tv. They’re not shaming me (at least not to my face) and honestly they do pretty cool stuff with their kids that I wish I had the patience and energy for. They also have multiple kids, so playmates. I’m the only one who is one and done and joke that I have an extra tv instead of an extra baby.
That explains why they don’t watch tv, it’s the way they grew up. To me that make sense. I’m also one and done but I also don’t think tv is a big deal.
My son has a TV in his room and a lot of people are shocked at that.
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I’m not a huge fan of tv, and would prefer for them to not watch it-we actually only have one tv that works.
When I’m home with the kids the tv never gets turned on-and I’m home with them all day. I feel like it balances the fact that they watch it with their dad at night and at their grandparents.
I’ve never really liked tv though, and watch very little myself. I’ll binge watch a series here and there, but i can easily go weeks without watching it myself. I would honestly love to just get rid of it haha
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Posted by mommywantsababy
I’m not a huge fan of tv, and would prefer for them to not watch it-we actually only have one tv that works.
When I’m home with the kids the tv never gets turned on-and I’m home with them all day. I feel like it balances the fact that they watch it with their dad at night and at their grandparents.
I’ve never really liked tv though, and watch very little myself. I’ll binge watch a series here and there, but i can easily go weeks without watching it myself. I would honestly love to just get rid of it haha
But what do you do? Lol. I can’t inagine not watching it tv. I guess I’m addicted. I should pick up a book.
I think I watch more tv now than I did when I was younger. I used to read and go outside doing stuff lol.
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Posted by mommywantsababy
I’m not a huge fan of tv, and would prefer for them to not watch it-we actually only have one tv that works.
When I’m home with the kids the tv never gets turned on-and I’m home with them all day. I feel like it balances the fact that they watch it with their dad at night and at their grandparents.
I’ve never really liked tv though, and watch very little myself. I’ll binge watch a series here and there, but i can easily go weeks without watching it myself. I would honestly love to just get rid of it haha
But what do you do? Lol. I can’t inagine not watching it tv. I guess I’m addicted. I should pick up a book.
I think I watch more tv now than I did when I was younger. I used to read and go outside doing stuff lol.
Yes since becoming a hermit as I age, I find myself wanting to stay home, sit on the couch with a blanket, eat snacks and watch TV to avoid humans.
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I’m not a huge fan of tv, and would prefer for them to not watch it-we actually only have one tv that works.
When I’m home with the kids the tv never gets turned on-and I’m home with them all day. I feel like it balances the fact that they watch it with their dad at night and at their grandparents.
I’ve never really liked tv though, and watch very little myself. I’ll binge watch a series here and there, but i can easily go weeks without watching it myself. I would honestly love to just get rid of it haha
But what do you do? Lol. I can’t inagine not watching it tv. I guess I’m addicted. I should pick up a book.
I think I watch more tv now than I did when I was younger. I used to read and go outside doing stuff lol.
I'm bad on that I have the tv on most of the day but I barely actually watch anything. I have the news on most of the day to keep an ear on what's going on in the world. I'll turn it to the kids' stuff when they ask and turn it back to news when they lose interest just to keep them from going back to it. After they're in bed dh and I 'watch' together but I just can't sit and focus on very many shows. I end up browsing pinterest or something and barely pay attention. I know the are shows out there that people watch but dh and I can't figure out what that are lol. We binge watch stuff now and then and then quickly end up back with nothing to watch.
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We don’t limit TV. DS watches TV while playing with his toys. I try to plan activity/outing each day over the weekend so he’s busy doing things and not watching TV. When the weather is nice, we’re outside all the time, but when it’s 0 degrees out, TV usually wins. He never watches on a tablet or phone because then I feel like he’s too engrossed and does not interact with anyone.
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Posted by lululu
I find that a lot of families that have two parents that work have a no TV rule. And that's because they don't have to deal with their kids all day long every day! If one of those parents had to stay home god help them! I always felt so bad for the nannies of hardcore working parents who weren't allowed to let the kids watch a half hour of TV a day. And I am talking about nannies who work 8am - 8pm. And by the way, if you are "that" parent, your nanny pretty much loathes you. Believe me I have chatted with enough of them....
Personally, I would die if my kids didn't get a little down time to watch some TV. Also, I don't think TV is awful. There are a lot of good programs for young kids. I grew up on Sesame Street, Mr. Rogers, Etc.
Your co-workers sound way uptight and I don't think they are the norm...
No offense, but this posts screams judgmental!
I was a stay at home mom and for the first 3 years of my DD's life, she did not watch any TV or have any tablet time. Zero electronics. It was not hard for me. We had a lot of fun together doing other things all day and used reading as our "downtime". Maybe nannies "loathe" it, but I would do it again in a heartbeat. After she turned 3, I started letting her watch classics... like Sesame Street, Mr. Rogers, and Disney movies. Now she watches fairly unrestricted. Some days she may watch 3 hours, but there are many days she still gets ZERO. However, to address the original poster, how do you not let her watch at restaurants? I feel that is the one thing I do not have control over... I can't ask the restaurant to turn off the TV or change our seats to avoid it. That's the #1 source of her tv viewing lol...
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Posted by mommywantsababy
I’m not a huge fan of tv, and would prefer for them to not watch it-we actually only have one tv that works.
When I’m home with the kids the tv never gets turned on-and I’m home with them all day. I feel like it balances the fact that they watch it with their dad at night and at their grandparents.
I’ve never really liked tv though, and watch very little myself. I’ll binge watch a series here and there, but i can easily go weeks without watching it myself. I would honestly love to just get rid of it haha
But what do you do? Lol. I can’t inagine not watching it tv. I guess I’m addicted. I should pick up a book.
I think I watch more tv now than I did when I was younger. I used to read and go outside doing stuff lol.
Lol well my kids are 2 mo, 2, and 4, so during the day a lot of stuff with them-playgorunds, i read them books, tons and tons of crafts, play with them, go to the zoo/aquarium/museums. I feel like I spend a ton of time making meals and cleaning too. For myself i read, and recently I’ve been cross stitching Christmas stockings. I do spend time on my phone on social media if dh is watching tv at night, but I’ve been trying to limit that (not very successfully)
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Re: Kids and TV
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Posted by mommywantsababy
I’m not a huge fan of tv, and would prefer for them to not watch it-we actually only have one tv that works.
When I’m home with the kids the tv never gets turned on-and I’m home with them all day. I feel like it balances the fact that they watch it with their dad at night and at their grandparents.
I’ve never really liked tv though, and watch very little myself. I’ll binge watch a series here and there, but i can easily go weeks without watching it myself. I would honestly love to just get rid of it haha
But what do you do? Lol. I can’t inagine not watching it tv. I guess I’m addicted. I should pick up a book.
I think I watch more tv now than I did when I was younger. I used to read and go outside doing stuff lol.
Yes since becoming a hermit as I age, I find myself wanting to stay home, sit on the couch with a blanket, eat snacks and watch TV to avoid humans.
Dude.. this is me to a T. I had to go out to a bday dinner on Saturday after being home all week sick not leaving the house, AND I still didn't want to go out. I wanted to stay home.
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We do TV mostly on weekends and when I work late (another day a week). Kids and I enjoy it, but it’s passive.
When we turn off the TV, the kids create, draw, play with games, play with toys... and all that.
I think it’s an age and first child vs later child thing. My first hardly watched TV. The youngest does while I work with the other 2. It’s not good forever, but it’s cheap entertainment and a good, engaging babysitter.
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Posted by lululu
I find that a lot of families that have two parents that work have a no TV rule. And that's because they don't have to deal with their kids all day long every day! If one of those parents had to stay home god help them! I always felt so bad for the nannies of hardcore working parents who weren't allowed to let the kids watch a half hour of TV a day. And I am talking about nannies who work 8am - 8pm. And by the way, if you are "that" parent, your nanny pretty much loathes you. Believe me I have chatted with enough of them....
Personally, I would die if my kids didn't get a little down time to watch some TV. Also, I don't think TV is awful. There are a lot of good programs for young kids. I grew up on Sesame Street, Mr. Rogers, Etc.
Your co-workers sound way uptight and I don't think they are the norm...
No offense, but this posts screams judgmental!
I was a stay at home mom and for the first 3 years of my DD's life, she did not watch any TV or have any tablet time. Zero electronics. It was not hard for me. We had a lot of fun together doing other things all day and used reading as our "downtime". Maybe nannies "loathe" it, but I would do it again in a heartbeat. After she turned 3, I started letting her watch classics... like Sesame Street, Mr. Rogers, and Disney movies. Now she watches fairly unrestricted. Some days she may watch 3 hours, but there are many days she still gets ZERO. However, to address the original poster, how do you not let her watch at restaurants? I feel that is the one thing I do not have control over... I can't ask the restaurant to turn off the TV or change our seats to avoid it. That's the #1 source of her tv viewing lol...
I took it as she doesn't give her an iPad or phone to watch tv at the table.
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