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Kindergarten..is this typical?

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PatsBrat
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Re: Kindergarten..is this typical?

Posted by dm24angel

Posted by PatsBrat




There are many reasons not to have parents in to a classroom. You would probably be very unhappy if your child were in my class because I have each parent in once to read and have one celebration a month for whatever holidays are celebrated in that month. 4-5 parents are invited in for each and it's only for a half hour.

I limit parent involvement, as I said, for many reasons, most of all because I simply don't need any help teaching and other adults in the room are distracting.

I won't go into the rest because they are complicated and you most likely won't understand the rationale.



I just don't understand how you can say something and then not explain. We are not stupid, I think we can understand a kindergarten rationale.

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Definitely not implying that you or anyone else reading is stupid, but it's one of those situations where unless you've been there it's hard to "get" and I know that in trying to explain via Internet a lot will be lost in translation.

Not every parent is there to observe and enjoy their child. Some (way more than you would guess) are there to observe and judge other kids. And as others have said, many parents work, and lots of kids can't understand why Sally's mom is at school every week and their mom isn't.

Posted 3/26/12 3:42 PM
 

ladybug7
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Re: Kindergarten..is this typical?

I really appreciate everyone's responses- parents and teachers alike. Just thought I'd give an update. Last week, after my original post, I decided to send a note to the teacher asking if we please schedule for Wednesday, or perhaps another week, since I most likely couldn't come in on Thursday. DS came home with a note from another teacher (because DS's teacher was absent) that 'Ms. --- would like to rechedule for 3/28 and will send you a note regarding time when she returns to school.' Great! I was so happy that she was willing to work with me. That was Tuesday. The teacher returned to school on Thursday and still has not sent a note home regarding a time. I will send another note tomorrow asking what time I can come in on Wed.

This is typical of her, and part of what frustrates me. More than once I have sent notes in that have gone unanswered. There are other things too, that make me wonder why she seems to discourage parents coming in. According to DS, when students color outisde the lines on classwork, she apparently uses white-out to cover the "mistakes". DS also to me when one of his classmates did his work wrong, the teacher crumpled the paper and tossed it on the floor.

BTW- I don't think DS would make these things up, and he likes his teacher, so he wouldn't say anything malicious.

I guess this leads to another question- should I be concerned about what's going on in class, given the things my DS has told me?

Posted 3/26/12 5:01 PM
 

greenybeans
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Re: Kindergarten..is this typical?

Posted by ladybug7



DS also to me when one of his classmates did his work wrong, the teacher crumpled the paper and tossed it on the floor.





Not cool. I would talk to the principal at this point. This goes beyond not being invited into the classroom for fun activities.

Posted 3/26/12 6:03 PM
 

Stacey1403
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Re: Kindergarten..is this typical?

My DD has student of the week and her teacher let me chose the day to come in and read her class a story. It was very nice Chat Icon But I will say I do get upset at all the things I can't attend because I am at work Chat Icon I feel bad for the kids who never have a parent attend. Luckily my Mom can usually go in my place so she has someone there Chat Icon

Posted 3/26/12 6:21 PM
 

Lucky
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Re: Kindergarten..is this typical?

Posted by ladybug7

I guess this leads to another question- should I be concerned about what's going on in class, given the things my DS has told me?



I am a mom of a Kindergartner (and a younger child) and a teacher & this would definitely concern me. Any type of "discipline" for lack of a better word at this moment that damages a child's self-esteem is unacceptable. Have the child do it over....maybe if it's habitual and she knows the child can do better...okay. Teaching a child that their work is garbage is wrong....no two ways about that. I am just unsure how you could address this since it isn't your child. I guess you could write the teacher a letter saying that "Johnny" witnessed this and was concerned enough to tell you about it and therefore you are concerned about the message it is sending to the children. This would definitely give her some food for thought and I would think that she would reconsider doing this again knowing that there are concerns about it. Hmmm.....

Posted 3/26/12 7:39 PM
 
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