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kahlua716
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Re: Leaving a newborn - WWYD?
Posted by MarisaK
A wedding is just as important to a bride as a new baby is to an expectant mother ........I don't think it's fair to bash her sister or her mother for expecting her to be there .....
I think that maybe the whole situation is getting heated before it's really necessary though -
The OP could go early, go late, she could deliver on the wedding day !! - no one knows. So why stress over it and get upset over something you have no control over?
It also really depends on the relationship with her sister. - To ME, not being 100% comfortable with leaving a week old baby w/ my MIL or SIL would NOT be a justifiable reason for DH and I to miss my own sister's wedding day - Exclusively breastfeeding would NOT be a reason to miss my sister's wedding - I wouldn't miss that for the world
She was there for me, regardless of my situation, regardless of whether or not I was feeling 100%, I'd suck it up and be there for her - And I'd expect my DH to be there too ........I can not even comprehend the idea of missing my sister's wedding b/c I didn't want to 'leave' my baby w/ someone on DH's side of the family -
But everyone's relationships with their friends and families are different, so while I think it's crazy to miss your sister's wedding b/c you're nervous to leave the baby, many others feel it's perfectly acceptable -
You really have to decide what is best for you, and whether or not you want to deal with the inevitable upset and consequences that will come from your family if you're not there -
Good Luck to you !!
Would you like us to  that the baby comes late ?? 
This is exactly what I was trying to say! Thanks for putting it in better words 
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hunnybunnyxoxo
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Re: Leaving a newborn - WWYD?
i wouldnt leave a newborn with anyone period. a few months old, ok but not a newborn.
i say have your husband stay home with the baby...
honestly, this is your sister and i think she could make an exception for you to bring the baby. i mean, you're not going to walk down the aisle with the baby in your hand.. your husband will be taking care of him/her..
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mamabear
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Re: Leaving a newborn - WWYD?
I saw a few posts suggesting that you have your husband/sitter stay in the bridal suite with the baby. I think that's a great idea. Ideally, could you have someone on DH's family stay with the baby there the whole time? This way you and your DH can both be at the reception for key moments and even dance a little, and you can take turns staying with the baby and feed him if you are breast feeding. You also avoid the germs, loud music, etc.
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Lizzy
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Re: Leaving a newborn - WWYD?
I think the PP's idea is fabulous -- that is what I would probably do if I were in the same situation
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Kelly9904
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Re: Leaving a newborn - WWYD?
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Kelly9904
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Re: Leaving a newborn - WWYD?
Message edited 5/22/2010 9:46:18 AM.
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| Posted 9/3/08 2:11 PM |
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Dragonfly75
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Re: Leaving a newborn - WWYD?
Posted by Kelly9904
Posted by mamabear
I saw a few posts suggesting that you have your husband/sitter stay in the bridal suite with the baby. .... You also avoid the germs, loud music, etc.
I personaly dont think this is avoiding germs or loud music. Alot of bridal suites are not too far from the room of the reception so although it wont be as loud it might still be too much for a NB. Also if anyone knows there is a newborn in the bridal suite they will come to see him/her and bring all the germs to the baby....Again I just dont think its worth the risk.
I disagree -- I think it's a prefect compromise -- she gets to be with her sister on her big day, but doesn't have to abandon her newborn. My son could sleep through anything at that age, so the music would be no problem. Simply tell any nosey visitors that the baby is sleeping and there's no problem with unwanted guests.
I don't know if the OP is planning on breastfeeding, but you really can't leave a baby that young for any length of time if you are breastfeeding. You risk messing up your supply and getting engorged and you shouldn't give a baby that young a bottle because that can mess breastfeeding up, too.
I also think it would be nice for the new mom to have a place to rest. Depending on when the baby was born and how the delivery went, she'll probably need it.
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| Posted 9/3/08 2:51 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Leaving a newborn - WWYD?
Message edited 5/22/2010 9:45:29 AM.
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Dragonfly75
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Re: Leaving a newborn - WWYD?
Posted by Kelly9904
And I would like to say that I NEVER suggested she “ABANDON” her newborn. I apologize if I feel leaving him/her with her SIL or DH is not really abandoning her child. If that is your definition of abandon then I guess when I go to the store and DH watches DS I abandon my 8 month old.
I think the use of that word “abandon” is very harsh and misused in your context.
This is my opinion.
Wow, sorry if I struck a nerve there, not my intention. I don't think leaving an 8 month old to go to the store is quite the same as being asked to leave a week-old baby for the evening.
ETA: FWIW, I leave my child 3-days a week when I go to work and I don't think that's abandoning but he's not a week-old, either.
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