My mommy vent

Let me start by saying i love my kids to death. I have twin boys that are 3 and a 6 month old little girl. I work full time and I have just have to say I am done.

I am disgusted that my house always looks like a tornado went through and every room looks like this. I just cant keep up with anything. laundry is piled high, crap all over the table and kitchen counters, and the toys I want to take and throw every single toy out of this house. If they are not throwing them around they are fighting over them. There is always someone crying in the house and I feel like I am losing all control.

When I yell they dont even pay attention to me or they just tell me no back...they are completely playing me and I am shocked at what my life has become. Who would have thought baby twins would be easier then 3 yo twins.

I knew being a mom wasnt going to be easy but the past couple of days have been so bad that I just want to check out..I dont want the responsibility anymore. Every time I try to get things organized it ends up looking 100 times worse...

Sorry I am venting but I am done.

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It will get easier.
It will get easier.
It will get easier.

At least this is what I tell myself on a daily basis

You are not alone

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Posted by Diana1215

It will get easier.
It will get easier.
It will get easier.

At least this is what I tell myself on a daily basis

You are not alone

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I have two year old twins, no baby. I can't even imagine! BUT what I do with my boys(who are in the throes of the Terrible Twos) is count. I tell them if you do not do X by the time I count to 5 you will get a spanking(or a time out-whatever is appropriate) It has actually been working...Hang in there. Someone said on here..everything is just a phase...and its true!

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DRMom they used to follow all of that and not to scare you by any means but so far the 3s ( and we are only 1 month in) seem a 100x worse than the 2s.


Thank you ladies for all of your support..I know it will get better it just seems like the past couple of weeks have been he ll...I love them to death and love when they are being good and play nice but everything else is just so overwhelming...

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Hang in there, I don't think there is a parent alive who doesn't feel as you do at times, and you definitely have a full plate to boot.

We only have one child (will be 3 in a couple months), and yesterday he was a holy terror. At one point DH and I took refuge in the kitchen, and I said "don't you just want to leave the house and leave him in it?" He said yes, very quickly. Of course, you would never act on these impuleses, but I do think most people have them.

Yesterday nothing worked well for us, other than giving up and walking away. For example, he wouldn't put on his PJs, so DH said, okay go to bed in your clothes, plunked him in his crib, and left the room. A minute later he whimpered for Daddy to come put on his PJs. The counting works for us soemtimes, but not always, and time outs, eh I have mixed results with those. But I think not paying attention to him and feeding into his frenzy works best for us. Find what works for you and stick to it.

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OK I'm probably completely unqualified to answer here but how about... DH takes the kiddos out for an hour or two so you can get a little bit done at home???

I feel like for me, chaos breeds chaos, kwim??? When our place is a disaster I am cranky and disorganized too!!! At least with one hour you can make a start - clear the laundry, put some of the toys away, whatever is manageable. Pick something you really can do start to finish in the allotted time, it always makes me feel better; even if all I get to do is clean the bathroom uninterrupted

If DH isn't around to watch the kids then draft friends/family for an afternoon play date; would the kids be ok with that? Honestly sometimes we just need the house to ourselves to get anything done!!! I have a wonderful girlfriend who will take DS out to the park when I'm having one of those days (DH works tons of weekends) and I'm so thankful (I've only used her for this a handful of times since he was born but it has been the greatest gift).

My other 2 suggestions are a bit extreme but may work for you too: Hire a cleaning lady as a one-off thing - she can get to the laundry, clean the kitchen/bathroom, put away your summer clothes/take out the winter ones if you need that, whatever. I know money may be tight but honestly this is an investment the way I see it; a few hours of help can get you started and you'll just have to maintain it for the next few weeks/months.
If that's not an option, then take a sanity day off of work; catch up on a few chores while the kids are in daycare and you'll feel like a new woman!!!!!
You work so hard between a ft job, 3 kids, a home and a husband, I think if you're feeling this way it's time to do something and even 1 day can make a big difference!!!

Hope today gets better for you though,

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I have no advice as my kids haven't hit that age group yet... but I just want to remind you that your down right now, but soon you'll be up again! Take it one day at a time.

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I hear your vent and can very much relate to the kid and toys part. I've given my Dh my 2 weeks notice plenty of times.
The feeling of wanting to explode will pass. Of course it always finds it's way back again!

inhale/exhale and say to yourself that it's just for now.

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