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jmp1105
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new fence and neighbor?
our neighbor came by today to talk about getting a new fence. I wasn't home so she spoke to our nanny.
the back of her property backs up to the side of our property. so the shared fence is only along one side of our front yard.
she said the fence that is there now is ours. we just moved in so I had no clue if it was our fence or not. it is old and definitely could use an upgrade but its not falling down or anything.
problem is we really don't want to spend the money right now. so how should I handle this? what is my obligation?
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alli3131
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new fence and neighbor?
I don't understand this lets share the cost of a fence thing.
When we moved in we wanted a new fence so we put one in. If we couldn't afford it then we would have waited. You are under no obligation to pay for any of the fence they want. I would have no problem telling them that they are welcome to go on your property to put the fence up/remove old one if needed but right now a fence is not in your budget.
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| Posted 4/30/15 10:13 AM |
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jmp1105
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Re: new fence and neighbor?
Posted by alli3131
I don't understand this lets share the cost of a fence thing.
When we moved in we wanted a new fence so we put one in. If we couldn't afford it then we would have waited. You are under no obligation to pay for any of the fence they want. I would have no problem telling them that they are welcome to go on your property to put the fence up/remove old one if needed but right now a fence is not in your budget.
I agree. we've discussed replacing the fence in our backyard down the road and it never crossed our minds to ask the neighbor to share the cost with us.
I'm annoyed by this but I want to be the friendly neighbor as well. its really not in our budget. we have a long list of other things we'd rather spend our money on.
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| Posted 4/30/15 10:21 AM |
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Goobster
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Re: new fence and neighbor?
You are under no obligation and the sharing of the fence is extremely stupid IMO. Should be one person who owns and cares for it, is responsible for it to avoid any confusion down the line. Say no, if they want a fence they are more than welcome to put whatever they want up. Now maybe they are just asking if you want the old fence removed if it's in bad shape…maybe they aren't looking for you to chip in anyway?
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| Posted 4/30/15 10:35 AM |
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jmp1105
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Re: new fence and neighbor?
Posted by Goobster
You are under no obligation and the sharing of the fence is extremely stupid IMO. Should be one person who owns and cares for it, is responsible for it to avoid any confusion down the line. Say no, if they want a fence they are more than welcome to put whatever they want up. Now maybe they are just asking if you want the old fence removed if it's in bad shape…maybe they aren't looking for you to chip in anyway?
those are good points. I have to talk to her and see exactly what she's looking to do. if she's putting up a new fence and wants to remove the old existing one that is fine with me.
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| Posted 4/30/15 10:42 AM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: new fence and neighbor?
The fence will only sit on one person's property. So whoever's property it sits on is who should pay. You may benefit from a neighbor's fence, but that doesn't mean you should pay for it.
When our fence was installed, we had to give our installers the map of our property so they could measure it and ensure it was sitting entirely within our property - not on a neighbor's, not on the border. Fully on our property.
I don't understand the idea of sharing the cost.
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| Posted 4/30/15 10:51 AM |
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jlm2008
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new fence and neighbor?
I don't understand the sharing the cost either, it makes no sense. The fence will only belong to the person who's property it is installed on. If the fence is in fact theirs, and they want a new one, they need to pay for it.
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| Posted 4/30/15 11:25 AM |
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jmp1105
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Re: new fence and neighbor?
the fence that is there now is supposedly ours. assuming it is our fence, they can still choose to put up a new fence on their property.
so I'm just going to be as polite as possible and say that a new fence is not in our budget right now.
they can then choose to do whatever they want.
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| Posted 4/30/15 12:15 PM |
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2boys1girl
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new fence and neighbor?
And then say you ever sell down the road, does that need to be in your contract that the neighbor is half owner of the fencing?!
Or say there's damage one day from a storm, a tree, a kid..etc. who pays for it to be fixed? Is it split again or will you decide which panel belongs to which person lol.
I would think the best way to keep future peace between neighbors is by NOT sharing anything.
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| Posted 4/30/15 12:15 PM |
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jmp1105
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Re: new fence and neighbor?
thanks for all of your responses. I am going to send the link to this thread to my neighbor. lol
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| Posted 4/30/15 12:20 PM |
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schmora15
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new fence and neighbor?
I think it's so odd that they would discuss this with your nanny lol. Maybe it was just a heads up that they are installing it?
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| Posted 4/30/15 1:13 PM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: new fence and neighbor?
Posted by jmp1105
the fence that is there now is supposedly ours. assuming it is our fence, they can still choose to put up a new fence on their property.
If you just moved in, then ask your attorney for the property survey and map. It will tell you exactly where your property begins and ends. Or check your closing paperwork. It may already be in there.
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| Posted 4/30/15 1:14 PM |
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JDubs
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Re: new fence and neighbor?
We also paid for a new fence ourselves and did not ask the neighbors to chip in. We gave one of the neighbors a heads up that there would be a new fence going in. But i'm sure he was glad we were installing it because our old fence was falling apart.
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| Posted 4/30/15 2:24 PM |
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luvmotherhood
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new fence and neighbor?
We moved in and put up a new fence. Never Asked any neighbors. Noticed that the people bordering us quickly put their own up after using one side of my fence as theirs. Whatever.
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| Posted 4/30/15 2:50 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: new fence and neighbor?
But maybe they were just letting you know work would be going on, as a courtesy? Why does this mean they want you to pay for any of it?
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jmp1105
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Posted by Goobster
But maybe they were just letting you know work would be going on, as a courtesy? Why does this mean they want you to pay for any of it?
my nanny told me that the neighbor said to her that they want to put a new fence up and they wanted to speak with me about sharing the costs.
eta: I hope she got this wrong and they were just letting us know as a courtesy but my nanny seemed pretty sure.
Message edited 4/30/2015 3:59:16 PM.
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Goobster
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Re: new fence and neighbor?
Posted by jmp1105
Posted by Goobster
But maybe they were just letting you know work would be going on, as a courtesy? Why does this mean they want you to pay for any of it?
my nanny told me that the neighbor said to her that they want to put a new fence up and they wanted to speak with me about sharing the costs.
eta: I hope she got this wrong and they were just letting us know as a courtesy but my nanny seemed pretty sure.
Ah. Ridiculous and stupidity IMO. We aren't kids splitting a bar of candy. We are homeowners who if we want our own fence pay for it. Duh.
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ANR1211
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new fence and neighbor?
My neighbor did this at my old house- we told him a fence was not in our budget. We installed a new fence in the house we are in now. We told all of our neighbors that a fence was going in since 2 of them have dogs and we wanted to make sure they didn't get out (which is how the only dog I ever had ran away). I would never ask a neighbor to split the cost.
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KarenK122
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new fence and neighbor?
We are installing a fence right now on our property. I do not know whose fence the old one is. I told my neighbor I was installing a new fence just to be polite but I didn't ask their permission or to pay for anything. But I will say that I know alot of people that shared fencing with neighbors, it is not really that strange of a request. You are in no obligation to pay for anything but I do think its nice that they told you and asked.
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newbie00
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new fence and neighbor?
I agree with prev poster that its not unheard of for neighbors to split the cost of a fence. You sre under no obligation to pay for the fence if they decide to put a new one up.
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Mrs213
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Re: new fence and neighbor?
Posted by alli3131
I don't understand this lets share the cost of a fence thing.
When we moved in we wanted a new fence so we put one in. If we couldn't afford it then we would have waited. You are under no obligation to pay for any of the fence they want. I would have no problem telling them that they are welcome to go on your property to put the fence up/remove old one if needed but right now a fence is not in your budget.
Agreed
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| Posted 4/30/15 11:59 PM |
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adn16
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Re: new fence and neighbor?
We just moved into our home in January and had a fence put up last week. I let my neighbor know as a courtesy and she actually mentioned that her other neighbor got a new fence and they split the cost. I was surprised she told me that but I still did not ask her to split with us. It was our decision to get a new fence, and the thought of splitting never came into my mind. I would never expect that from her.
You can be the friendly neighbor...but it's not her problem if you don't want to replace it right away. That's your decision and she will have to respect that.
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Paramount
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jmp1105
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Re: new fence and neighbor?
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haha
yes that is how I feel.
to add, when we got home from work last night we were looking at the fence and its actually in pretty good shape and looks nice. its wood so it has that "aged" look but its not falling apart or anything. there is no way I'd consider replacing it any time soon.
so my neighbor can do as she pleases 
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| Posted 5/1/15 9:47 AM |
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JDubs
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Posted by luvmotherhood
We moved in and put up a new fence. Never Asked any neighbors. Noticed that the people bordering us quickly put their own up after using one side of my fence as theirs. Whatever.
Yes this happened to us as well.
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