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Kidsaplenty
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by MrsRivera
Posted by butterfly20
i think it should be covered.
its not about a childs right to eat..... because the child can eat with it covered......being uncovered is nudity.
Many times, older infants refuse to stay covered. I was BF my daughter on our trip to CA, and she kept ripping the nursing cover off. What am I going to do, refuse to feed her because she refuses to eat with a sheet over her head??? I think it IS about a child's right to eat.
ITA. I'm not going to make my baby cry from hunger because some people think I should cover.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Im all for it.... and I BF wherever I am, whenever DS is hungry...
Because he is very easily distracted, I try to find a quiet place... but thats not always an option...
I was able to cover myself up until he was about 5 months old... now he refuses to be under any kind of coverup/blanket... he rips it right off!
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
I'm totally for it.
For myself I have had problems doing it in public though. DS hates the cover and is always lifting in up, he comes off the boob a lot during a session and I don't feel comfortable exposing my nipples. He is also easily distracted, so when I am out and about I try and search out a quiet solitary place.
At home I will nurse in front of my close friends and family but it took me a while to get used to. I really wonder why considering I used to go topless at the beach a lot (more so in Europe) and nudity has never bothered me. I guess I feel like it somewhat personal when I am feeding DS.
I give women Kudos who feel comfortable enough to nurse without a cover!
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
When I BF, I did it whenever and wherever we were. I used nursing bras, shawls, blankets. There was nothing to see. I don't know why people care.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Goldi0218
I BFd for only about 2 and a half months and I never liked doing it in public. I always found a place to go or at least cover up. I don't like seeing boobs hanging out - I am simply not comfortable with it and I don't care if anyone likes my opinion or not.
HOWEVER, do I think there should be legislation against it? No. But I don't think that openly BFing women should expect those of us who don't like it to do a 180. I support any woman's right to do so, but I don't have to like it and I am smart enough to keep my mouth closed. I am the one who will look the other way and that is my prerogative.
i agree although i BFed for significantly less time. i personally don't like it, especially uncovered. i don't find it beautiful, ugly or anything in between just like there's nothing beautiful or ugly about my kid eating from a bottle. it's just food--there's no beauty in it.
if it's what you want to do, go for it. i have no problem when my friends do it. but just like everything else in this world, not everyone will agree with it or like it.
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| Posted 2/27/10 9:03 PM |
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by greeneyes361708
Posted by MrsRivera
Posted by butterfly20
i think it should be covered.
its not about a childs right to eat..... because the child can eat with it covered......being uncovered is nudity.
Many times, older infants refuse to stay covered. I was BF my daughter on our trip to CA, and she kept ripping the nursing cover off. What am I going to do, refuse to feed her because she refuses to eat with a sheet over her head??? I think it IS about a child's right to eat.
ITA. I'm not going to make my baby cry from hunger because some people think I should cover.
I agree I try to cover DS, but he pulls the cover off, I end up spending most of the nursing session fighting to keep him covered, when really you can see more boob on pretty much any 21 y/o than you can on me while nursing my son.
I have no issue nursing my son in public, if BFing did become illegal I would probably be the first one to sit down in the middle of a mall and just nurse all day in protest. There is nothing profane about it.
I can understand people being uncomfortable, speedos on men make me uncomfortable, but I just turn my head.
As for the kids should be finished nursing by a certain age, I do not subscribe to that AT ALL.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
I dont think it is fair to say that breasts were created by God simply for breastfeeding. IMO God would not have created any of our body parts to feel good when doing anything other than biologic functions if the body parts were not intended for other purposes.
Think of it this way. Before you had a child and BF< did you only see your breasts as functional for feeding a child or did you not see them in a sexual regard? I am betting almost everyone can say they have used their breasts for sexual regards prior to having a child. Women pay to have larger or smaller breasts, men pay to see breasts. So based on this, is it fair to expect others to see breasts as strictly to FEED? Nudity is still nudity and body parts always have sexual regards to others.
Of course you should feed your child and you can do what you want, but know that it is a touchy subject due to this. I know for me I would want my privacy if I was BF my child in public. And I know my DH would not want my breasts to be seen by anyone in public, even if I was feeding my child because there will always be people who feel breasts are sexual.
So that's JMO.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
I personally don't BF DD in public (unless you count my car) but I don't mind if others do. I actually admire them!
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
I absolutely, 100% have no problem with a woman BFing in public.
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CrankyPants
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Goobster
I dont think it is fair to say that breasts were created by God simply for breastfeeding. IMO God would not have created any of our body parts to feel good when doing anything other than biologic functions if the body parts were not intended for other purposes.
Think of it this way. Before you had a child and BF< did you only see your breasts as functional for feeding a child or did you not see them in a sexual regard? I am betting almost everyone can say they have used their breasts for sexual regards prior to having a child. Women pay to have larger or smaller breasts, men pay to see breasts. So based on this, is it fair to expect others to see breasts as strictly to FEED? Nudity is still nudity and body parts always have sexual regards to others.
Of course you should feed your child and you can do what you want, but know that it is a touchy subject due to this. I know for me I would want my privacy if I was BF my child in public. And I know my DH would not want my breasts to be seen by anyone in public, even if I was feeding my child because there will always be people who feel breasts are sexual.
So that's JMO.
I agree-Moms should do what you feel comfortable with but the above is so true.
I don't have an issue when friends have BF in front of me but I don't think I could have done it in the general public or in front of men (outside of my DH).
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| Posted 2/27/10 10:34 PM |
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Almost mommy crashing-If my DD needs to eat, I have to feed her, and I don't care where it is. I will use a nursing cover and I will try to be as discreet as possible, but I need to get over my hang ups and fast. I am not filming porn in public or flashing random people, I am providing my child with nourishment.
IMO, I think one of the big reasons why this is such an issue here is due to the sexualized nature of the woman breast. I think many people look at the female breast as a "private part" and not so much as utilitarian. This is JMO of course, and I am sure it does not apply to everyone.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by butterfly20
i think it should be covered.
its not about a childs right to eat..... because the child can eat with it covered......being uncovered is nudity.
Do you eat under your tablecloth?
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
I see nothing wrong with it. I wasn't good at it or super comfortable (really because of my flab not my boob) but I am always impressed by women who can do it while sitting at a table eating a meal.
Women need to support women not bash them for naturally feeding their babies.
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CrankyPants
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
I'm just going to be blunt:
How do moms who BF reconcile the "issue" of your breasts having two uses: feeding your child and sexual gratification?
I didn't/don't breastfeed for a number of reasons and I am perfectly comfortable with my decision.
I have nothing against folks who choose to BF but I have always wondered about the above. ARE your breasts still a part of your sex life? Does your DH's view of them change?
I'm just looking for some insight
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
I am responding to the original post.
I BF'd DD and would never feel comfortable just wiping out my boob in public. They make so many beautiful cover ups. So if worse comes to worse and I have to BF in public, that is the only way I would feel comfortable doing it. That's just me.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Stacey1403
Posted by butterfly20
i think it should be covered.
its not about a childs right to eat..... because the child can eat with it covered......being uncovered is nudity.
Do you eat under your tablecloth?
But her eating doesn't involve nudity.
If you would not sit somewhere with that body part (breast) exposed when not feeding your child, why does feeding the child make it any more of a reason for anyone to see? Honest question.
I think it's wrong to expect someone to not view breasts as sexual or as an exposed body part simply b/c that is what you are choosing to do with yours. But if another woman simply chose to have hers exposed for another reason (say not feeding a DC but just b/c she felt like it) would you really feel comfortable seeing that (in the mall, restaurant, etc)?
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
The closest I came to bf in public when I was nursing was in the car in a parking lot... I would never do it myself in public but have no opinion one way or another about those who may do it.... I just was not comfortable enough..
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by CrankyPants
I'm just going to be blunt:
How do moms who BF reconcile the "issue" of your breasts having two uses: feeding your child and sexual gratification?
I didn't/don't breastfeed for a number of reasons and I am perfectly comfortable with my decision.
I have nothing against folks who choose to BF but I have always wondered about the above. ARE your breasts still a part of your sex life? Does your DH's view of them change?
I'm just looking for some insight
I have to admit....while I was BFing, they weren't so much sexual. But once I was done and they went back to normal, it was as if I never BF'd.
It's kind of like the who-ha. At first, I think DH was like "wow a baby came out of there." But then, my body and his way of looking at me went back to pre-baby.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by CrankyPants
I'm just going to be blunt:
How do moms who BF reconcile the "issue" of your breasts having two uses: feeding your child and sexual gratification?
I didn't/don't breastfeed for a number of reasons and I am perfectly comfortable with my decision.
I have nothing against folks who choose to BF but I have always wondered about the above. ARE your breasts still a part of your sex life? Does your DH's view of them change?
I'm just looking for some insight
Why does there need to be an issue? I fed my babies and when I was intimate with my DH he enjoyed them in the way he always did.
I don't see why we need to sexualize BF. It has nothing to do with sex. Maybe it's because my mother BF me and I knew for as long as I could remember that I would be BF my own children. If we are able to move past it then maybe people wouldn't have such an issue with it.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Stacey1403
Posted by butterfly20
i think it should be covered.
its not about a childs right to eat..... because the child can eat with it covered......being uncovered is nudity.
Do you eat under your tablecloth?
OMG this cracks me up! 
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by CrankyPants
I'm just going to be blunt:
How do moms who BF reconcile the "issue" of your breasts having two uses: feeding your child and sexual gratification?
I didn't/don't breastfeed for a number of reasons and I am perfectly comfortable with my decision.
I have nothing against folks who choose to BF but I have always wondered about the above. ARE your breasts still a part of your sex life? Does your DH's view of them change?
I'm just looking for some insight
I am not exactly there for another day, but according to my DH, he said there is something very feminine about BFing and he said the fact that my breasts can nourish our baby along with being just breasts is incredible. I don't know if this applies to all men. We shall also see if he feels that way when we are in the situation, but I think he will be the same, because he is just that kind of guy. FTR, I am not saying there is anything wrong with a man who doesn't see it like my DH, but this is just his opinion.
For me, it is like your cha cha-it is there for sex, but also to push a baby through. I think it is a matter of realizing a dual purpose for these parts and for me, compartmentalizing. My breasts are still mine and DH's. But they are going to hopefully be a source of nourishment for DD. I just don't think of the dual purpose at the same time.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Stacey1403
Posted by CrankyPants
I'm just going to be blunt:
How do moms who BF reconcile the "issue" of your breasts having two uses: feeding your child and sexual gratification?
I didn't/don't breastfeed for a number of reasons and I am perfectly comfortable with my decision.
I have nothing against folks who choose to BF but I have always wondered about the above. ARE your breasts still a part of your sex life? Does your DH's view of them change?
I'm just looking for some insight
Why does there need to be an issue? I fed my babies and when I was intimate with my DH he enjoyed them in the way he always did.
I don't see why we need to sexualize BF. It has nothing to do with sex. Maybe it's because my mother BF me and I knew for as long as I could remember that I would be BF my own children. If we are able to move past it then maybe people wouldn't have such an issue with it.
Me personally, I dont see BF as sexual. I do accept that people DO use breasts in sexual and non sexual regards and I feel it's only respectful of others to realize not everyone feels comfortable with normally covered body parts now exposed.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Goobster
Posted by Stacey1403
Posted by butterfly20
i think it should be covered.
its not about a childs right to eat..... because the child can eat with it covered......being uncovered is nudity.
Do you eat under your tablecloth?
But her eating doesn't involve nudity.
If you would not sit somewhere with that body part (breast) exposed when not feeding your child, why does feeding the child make it any more of a reason for anyone to see? Honest question.
I think it's wrong to expect someone to not view breasts as sexual or as an exposed body part simply b/c that is what you are choosing to do with yours. But if another woman simply chose to have hers exposed for another reason (say not feeding a DC but just b/c she felt like it) would you really feel comfortable seeing that (in the mall, restaurant, etc)?
BF needs to involve a breast end of story. It is not the same as someone taking out their boob in the middle of dinner because they feel like it. It wouldn't bother me at all seeing anyone's boob. I have boobs there is no mystery there.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Goobster
Posted by Stacey1403
Posted by butterfly20
i think it should be covered.
its not about a childs right to eat..... because the child can eat with it covered......being uncovered is nudity.
Do you eat under your tablecloth?
But her eating doesn't involve nudity.
If you would not sit somewhere with that body part (breast) exposed when not feeding your child, why does feeding the child make it any more of a reason for anyone to see? Honest question.
Walk down Ocean Avenue in S. Beach and you'll see a whole lot more titty eating at the sidewalk cafes than you would of a table full of BFing Moms!!
How come people have no problem eating with a woman in a bathing suit where more boobage is showing than with a mother nursing her baby where barely anything shows????
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Stacey1403
BF needs to involve a breast end of story. It is not the same as someone taking out their boob in the middle of dinner because they feel like it. It wouldn't bother me at all seeing anyone's boob. I have boobs there is no mystery there.
We all have the same parts but that doesn't mean we want to see everyone else's. And then you have some people who DO want to see everyone else's so for both of those reasons, I can't see what is the harm in being as discreet as possible.
Anything that is normally covered by clothing will be taboo when exposed. Bottom line.
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