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ReiRei13
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Ophelia
if you see my boobie fly
and the milk gets in your eye
look away
baby, look away....
I don't have time for this pathetic drama. I breast feed in public and I cover myself for the sake of those around me b/c I get that some people for whatever reason, don't approve.
however, if I didn't have a cover up and my son was hungry, you'd have to DEAL with the .25 seconds of my nipple in your face.
as for "suggesting" other places to go, please consider that as a mother my SON comes first. and I've thought of every possible other place to do it besides under your grossed out/judgmental face.
how many of you would let your dc SIT on the bowl in a public restroom let alone take his/her lunch in there to eat?
it's the same thing.
I know girls what whip there tits out for something as stupid as BEADS or a cameo in a cheesy spring break movie.
oh but that's right, sexualized breasts are A_OK. just don't go do something as disgusting as feeding your baby with them.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
I never did... i'd always go into a bathroom or separate room. But if others are ok with doing it I say go for it.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by MrsP747
I have to disagree with you here! Why would any woman purposefully want to have her full boob exposed! I think its without saying that most woman try to be discreet! !
Yes, most. Again I never said all. I same SOME.
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| Posted 3/1/10 11:00 AM |
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by MrsP747
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Posted by JennyPenny
I am uncomfortable with it and it's attitudes like yours that don't even make me WANT to try to be more accepting of it.
I think that Jenny makes a good point here.
I am going to say something that *I* think and some may want to flame me but I will say it.
I *think* some women want to push the envelope, want to make others feel uncomfortable to prove they have "legal rights". Now I don't know each one of you, and what you do, but I do think BF in public becomes sort of a power trip to some. Yes, some, some become militant about the rest of us HAVING to accept it b/c it is their legal right. And that is where I find distaste in it. Feed your baby, be as discreet as you can be without being blatent in making others feel uncomfortable. Again, I am not referring to anyone on here, I dont know what you do or dont do. But I see a trend here, that some BF totally accept other's level of discomfort and respect that, while still BF their baby as they need to. And others actually seem to want to push the envelope with it, with a blantant disregard for the fact that not everyone wants to see an exposed boob in public. That to me is what is wrong. You cannot expect everyone to want to see your nipples or boobs in pubic, please accept that.
I have to disagree with you here! Why would any woman purposefully want to have her full boob exposed! I think its without saying that most woman try to be discreet! But with that said, sometimes its impossible, whether its the baby doesn't want to be covered, or they come off unexpectablly- oops! Shittt happens and there's time when we may be exposed more than we'd like to be, but it's gonna be a cold day in hellll before I'll be made to feel like I HAVE to go to a public restroom to feed my child or not be able to go out at all and be confined to my house because I may offend someone!
you know what though..I can in some ways see what she is saying.
it is ANNOYING and unnerving when you TRY to be discreen and people STILL STARE and make faces.
I covered my son in my WINTER COAT the other day to keep things under wraps. he was sweating BALLS and uncomfortable but I did it. not for him. not for me b/c I could really give a rats asss who sees my boobs on any given day  but for the anonymous strangers who are disgusted but cannot help to watch.
sometimes I WANT to walk over and give my boob a good squeeze and shoot them in the eyes, just b/c it's so unfair that I have to be made to feel badly (or atleast the attempt is there) b/c I am doing the BEST for my son.
so yeah, I CAN see some women going buck nuts to prove a point. but it's certain people that DRIVE them to it.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by MrsP747
Posted by Goobster
Posted by JennyPenny
I am uncomfortable with it and it's attitudes like yours that don't even make me WANT to try to be more accepting of it.
I think that Jenny makes a good point here.
I am going to say something that *I* think and some may want to flame me but I will say it.
I *think* some women want to push the envelope, want to make others feel uncomfortable to prove they have "legal rights". Now I don't know each one of you, and what you do, but I do think BF in public becomes sort of a power trip to some. Yes, some, some become militant about the rest of us HAVING to accept it b/c it is their legal right. And that is where I find distaste in it. Feed your baby, be as discreet as you can be without being blatent in making others feel uncomfortable. Again, I am not referring to anyone on here, I dont know what you do or dont do. But I see a trend here, that some BF totally accept other's level of discomfort and respect that, while still BF their baby as they need to. And others actually seem to want to push the envelope with it, with a blantant disregard for the fact that not everyone wants to see an exposed boob in public. That to me is what is wrong. You cannot expect everyone to want to see your nipples or boobs in pubic, please accept that.
I have to disagree with you here! Why would any woman purposefully want to have her full boob exposed! I think its without saying that most woman try to be discreet! But with that said, sometimes its impossible, whether its the baby doesn't want to be covered, or they come off unexpectablly- oops! Shittt happens and there's time when we may be exposed more than we'd like to be, but it's gonna be a cold day in hellll before I'll be made to feel like I HAVE to go to a public restroom to feed my child or not be able to go out at all and be confined to my house because I may offend someone!
I have to agree as well. I always used a cover when BFing in front of anyone except for DH. But if I happened to be out and using my cover and DC freaked out and someone saw a flash of my boob or nipple, then oh well. It has nothing to do with a power trip, it is just what happens when you try to feed a baby.
I don't think there is anyone who goes to the mall, take off her shirt and bra and sticks the baby on the breast so she can be fully exposed for the whole world to see.
Anyone I know who breast feeds in public always tries to be as discreet as possible.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by eroxgirl
As a matter of fact, I remeber several years ago it became legal to go topless in certain places because men also have the option of not wearing shirts, but I digress (and that's just crazy talk, lol).
I recall that too. And I recall it going around that a girl was playing handball with no top on. I have to say I am quite glad that never did catch on.
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| Posted 3/1/10 11:01 AM |
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
I did not BF. For me, it was a personal decision not to. Lord knows no one looked at me odd when I pulled a bottle out in public to feed my DD, so why do people think its ok to stare at someone who is BF'ing? I will say though, that if you are BF'ing in public, you need to be appropriately covered. I think it's your right to feed your child whenever and wherever you decide its necessary. As long as the mom is respectful of the others around her, whats the big deal? JMO.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Goobster
Posted by eroxgirl
As a matter of fact, I remeber several years ago it became legal to go topless in certain places because men also have the option of not wearing shirts, but I digress (and that's just crazy talk, lol).
I recall that too. And I recall it going around that a girl was playing handball with no top on. I have to say I am quite glad that never did catch on.
Well, I don't know about anyone else, but I don't really like my boobs swinging around while I'm playing handball.
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| Posted 3/1/10 11:03 AM |
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Goobster
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by SweetTooth
Posted by Goobster
Posted by eroxgirl
As a matter of fact, I remeber several years ago it became legal to go topless in certain places because men also have the option of not wearing shirts, but I digress (and that's just crazy talk, lol).
I recall that too. And I recall it going around that a girl was playing handball with no top on. I have to say I am quite glad that never did catch on.
Well, I don't know about anyone else, but I don't really like my boobs swinging around while I'm playing handball.
Well I certainly don't like them flapping in the wind. 
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| Posted 3/1/10 11:05 AM |
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
i just saw someone BF in public and her breast was all out and saw nipple for a bit while the baby was trying to latch, i don't find it gross but i did stare. Hey if your putting it out there in the world i am going to look not because i necessarily want too but expose flesh catches my eye. I used to find people who BF public as inconsiderate to those around them, but as I got older my vp changed. I do have friends that seem to get off on it though - they do it to get a reaction, and giggle about it when they see guys stare, to me that is gross but hey to each is own.
I for one never had family BF in front of each other, we are more private and I think i would be the same way when that time comes. I THINK I would BF in public only when necessary and only with a cover and if my child couldn't handle a cover i would find a place to go that is private. I am not comfortable at all with my body enough to expose it even to feed a child.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
I'm not comfortable with it, I don't want to watch - End of story.
I'm sorry if that offends you or hurts your feelings as you're 'just feeding your chicl' (which is 100% true) but, I don't want to watch you do it, it makes me uncomfortable - and that doesn't make me ignorant or intolorent or ridiculous - it simply makes me uncomfortable - and I'm entiteld to feel that way -
SO, the same way you have the right to BF in the middle of Times Square if you choose to, I have the right to politely excuse myself from the table, or change my seat on the train, or shift my eyes uncomfortably if I'm 'stuck' in a situation where I can't leave the scene
I think it's all a matter of common courtesy and manners/respect for others on BOTH sides -
You don't need to wear a neon sign saying "HEY I'm FEEDING MY KID" to the point that it's SO blatently obvious I can't help but see you, and I don't have to be rude and make it obvious to everyone how uncomfortable I am -
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| Posted 3/1/10 11:14 AM |
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Ophelia
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
I think it's so "funny" that this thread is going on here at the same time a thread about women texting pics of their bare breasts to men is going on NFR.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
ihave no problem with it if ur covered up.
I know other countries are very liberal with it and thats fine - its just like going topless in europe - not a biggie there but over here its almost unheard of.
dh and i went to canada a couple years back and we were sitting in a rest eating. the seating was arranged like cheesecake factory where theres a long bench and tables and chairs.
i was sitting on the bench side and dh was right across from me. the tables were literally touching and a couple sits next to us with an infant.
as were eating our dinner she literally unbuttons her blouse and has her breasts out exposing nipples having baby latch on and is breastfeeding - no cover nothing. that to me bothers me and dh was literally sitting across from her and was very uncomfortable.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Ophelia
I think it's so "funny" that this thread is going on here at the same time a thread about women texting pics of their bare breasts to men is going on NFR.
Ahhh.. the new sexting movement!
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| Posted 3/1/10 11:17 AM |
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
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But it doesn't help when other mothers have SUCH a problem with it.
i have every right as a mother to have a problem with it. and i personally have a problem with BFing uncovered in public. as goldi said, i don't know why people have to "educate" us as to why we are wrong about this because we are mothers. i don't have to like it and i don't. plain and simple.
i don't think mothers should be stopped from BFing in public, but i don't have to like seeing it uncovered. it's an uncomfortable feeling for many people.
if you want to do it, go for it, but don't expect everyone to like it or applaud you. (collective you). just because i'm a mom of 2 babies doesn't mean i have to support everything that other mothers do. and i don't expect other mothers to support all my decisions.
i don't know why people can't accept that some people are okay with seeing it and others are uncomfortable. since threads like this come up every month, that should say something. we don't need to convince each other that one side is right and one side is wrong. your opinion is your opinion and you have every right to it, as i have a right to mine.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by WNA01
as were eating our dinner she literally unbuttons her blouse and has her breasts out exposing nipples having baby latch on and is breastfeeding - no cover nothing. that to me bothers me and dh was literally sitting across from her and was very uncomfortable.
Not a dinner time sight.
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Ophelia
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
I am so confused about what the debate is here.
people saying "I won't stop you, but don't expect me to be uncomfy"
and others saying "I'll do it whether your uncomfy or not"
so it seems we have a mutual understanding what is the issue then?
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| Posted 3/1/10 11:26 AM |
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Ophelia
I am so confused about what the debate is here.
people saying "I won't stop you, but don't expect me to be uncomfy"
and others saying "I'll do it whether your uncomfy or not"
so it seems we have a mutual understanding what is the issue then?
I was JUST thinking the same thing!
There is no point to even discussing it anymore.
There are those who BF in public, those who don't.
Those who mind it and those who don't.
These facts will NEVER change.
END. OF. STORY.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Goobster
Posted by WNA01
as were eating our dinner she literally unbuttons her blouse and has her breasts out exposing nipples having baby latch on and is breastfeeding - no cover nothing. that to me bothers me and dh was literally sitting across from her and was very uncomfortable.
Not a dinner time sight.
We could go around in circles with this one but really, why? It was the baby's dinnertime too And maybe that baby can't stand to be covered, as other mommies on here have pointed out.
Now, I don't know what *I* would have done in that situation (I always BFed covered, DS never had an issue with it) but honestly speaking, you expect this woman to excuse herself from the table because it was time to feed her child?
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Goobster
And as for the formula comment, Jenny was replying to someone else on here stating they felt bad that formula was invented. So we are replying to that as well b/c that is a harsh statement to make.
If your referring to the post that I, or babybug made, I think you should go back and re-read those. I will never knock a mother for feeding a child no mater how they do it. The point was now that FF is a, boob free option, it make BFing in public more taboo, and easier to criticize.
I wasn't trying to be harsh at all, and wanted to clear that up.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
I BF DD and in public when need be (restaurants, mall, parks, etc). I would be discreet and cover up when I could but I had no problem doing it. If anyone else did, that's their problem.
If I saw a 2yo being BF'd, I can't lie, I'd be a little uncomfortable. That's because I have not been exposed to that and it's not the norm in our society. I certainly wouldn't say anything to them or show any disgust to them. I'm a very accepting person and just because I didn't do it myself, doesn't mean that I will judge others for doing it.
ETA: This reminded me of the time I ran into a La Leche rally in Times Square. A mother was BFing her toddler - probably around 2yo - with her entire top half exposed. I think she could've used a little more discretion just because our society has been used to no BFing for so long, it needs baby steps to get people to be more accepting of it.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
i didnt expect her to excuse herself however she sat down and within 5 seconds she started breastfeeding. they had not even ordered, they were just seated. she could have asked to sit in an area of the rest that had a bit more privacy there were several tables that were empty.
i did bf and never would i think to take my breasts out and start bf right next to a couple eating dinner.- if i did i would cover up. if i was in her situation i would have asked to be seated in an available table that was a bit more private.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by Ophelia
I know girls what whip there tits out for something as stupid as BEADS or a cameo in a cheesy spring break movie.
oh but that's right, sexualized breasts are A_OK. just don't go do something as disgusting as feeding your baby with them.
You can't compare breastfeeding to those other scenarios.
If I go to spring break/mardi gras I expect to see boobs. Those girls are attention whores and I expect them to be there.
I don't expect boobs at a restaurant, mall.
My sister had 4 children and breastfed everywhere. I swear she could breastfeed while doing anything. But I never saw a nipple/boob.
It's just not my thing. I don't mind, just cover up the best you can.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
Posted by babymakes3
TA: This reminded me of the time I ran into a La Leche rally in Times Square. A mother was BFing her toddler - probably around 2yo - with her entire top half exposed. I think she could've used a little more discretion just because our society has been used to no BFing for so long, it needs baby steps to get people to be more accepting of it.
This is the type I refer to, pushing the envelope, b/c she has a right. Not cool. Don't force your choice on us.
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Re: Open discussion for all moms- BFing in public
I think a cover was definately called for here.
I think if you are making others uncomfortable during their dinner that is unfair.
I have excused myself during a restaurant meal to take my daughter to the car & feed her.
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