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Re: Oprah today SAHM vs. Working
Posted by JRG71
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My biggest problem with this debate (and the way it was shown on the Oprah show) is that some families need two incomes -- it's not about wanting to work or staying at home. There is no choice...
I agree- I got really annoyed at the one mom who said that she thinks all families can find a way to afford for one parent to stay home. Maybe we could find a way for one of us to stay home, but that would mean a cramped apartment, no yard, and there would be still be little money to provide DD with the experiences I want her to have. It's just not that easy.
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Re: Oprah today SAHM vs. Working
Posted by beachgirl13
I can't stand this debate. Women should support each other, not tear each other down. Whenever this topic comes up, there's always arguing. To each their own, I say. Let each woman decide for herself.
Why can't women support each other's choices? We all buy different style shoes and cars and houses; go on different vacations - why can't we support different lifestyles choice with regard to working and careers?
We will never break the glass (and now marble) ceiling, for our (collective) daughters, if we don't support each other's individual choices.
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| Posted 8/15/07 9:41 AM |
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Re: Oprah today SAHM vs. Working
Posted by Eleanor
Posted by beachgirl13
I can't stand this debate. Women should support each other, not tear each other down. Whenever this topic comes up, there's always arguing. To each their own, I say. Let each woman decide for herself.
Why can't women support each other's choices? We all buy different style shoes and cars and houses; go on different vacations - why can't we support different lifestyles choice with regard to working and careers?
We will never break the glass (and now marble) ceiling, for our (collective) daughters, if we don't support each other's individual choices.
Very well put. ITA!!
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| Posted 8/15/07 10:29 AM |
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Re: Oprah today SAHM vs. Working
I thik prncss and Dips said it eloquently! It is each woman's own choice in how to live her live and how to raise her children, and neither "side" is superior to the other.
Posted by Eleanor
We will never break the glass (and now marble) ceiling, for our (collective) daughters, if we don't support each other's individual choices.
I agree with this completely. I know I want my daughter to be able to be anything she wants, and I also hope that she will have children of her own some day. I would never want her to be pressured to "pick sides." Just like I don't want someone to tell me after all these years of school and advanced degrees that if I don't give it all up and become a stay-at-home mom that I'm a bad mother. And on the other side, I have an aunt that gave up a high-powered career in sales to become a stay-at-home mom, and I would never judge her decision.
The feminist movement did a lot to give women choices, but I think there needs to be a new movement to stop the pitting of stay-at-home moms against "working moms" (which isn't even a good title b/c stay-at-home moms also "work"), and just band together as "moms."
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| Posted 8/15/07 10:46 AM |
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Re: Oprah today SAHM vs. Working
My opinion is this: If people want to be ignorant, then let them, but they are doing a disservice to their children.
I am a working mom. Because I have to, but also because I want to. It doesn't make me any less of a mom than a SAHM.
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| Posted 8/15/07 10:46 AM |
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Re: Oprah today SAHM vs. Working
Posted by MrsProfessor
Posted by JRG71
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My biggest problem with this debate (and the way it was shown on the Oprah show) is that some families need two incomes -- it's not about wanting to work or staying at home. There is no choice...
I agree- I got really annoyed at the one mom who said that she thinks all families can find a way to afford for one parent to stay home. Maybe we could find a way for one of us to stay home, but that would mean a cramped apartment, no yard, and there would be still be little money to provide DD with the experiences I want her to have. It's just not that easy.
The sad part is that many SAHMs feel this way.
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| Posted 8/15/07 10:49 AM |
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Re: Oprah today SAHM vs. Working
I also wanted to add that I hate when people say "being a SAHM is the hardest job" or "being a full time or part time working mom is the hardest job"...the hardest job, IMHO, is being a mom, period...whether you SAH or work.....
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| Posted 8/15/07 11:11 AM |
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Re: Oprah today SAHM vs. Working
I watched this last night and the SAHM really irked me. She kept trying to be politically correct by saying well if a woman has to work for financial reasons then that is okay, but if you work because you want to (and not for financial reasons) then your children suffer? What an azz....
I am a working mother and I most probably could stay home if i wanted to, but our kids lives would suffer since we would have to cut back on stuff, no vacations, etc. Plus the health insurance and benefits are through me. Most of all though, I enjoy getting out of the house and letting my kids interact with others (babysitters, family members, etc.) besides me. That is just me, i don't judge anyone on their choices in life. Every family is different. I think personally for us our children love seeing their Grandma during the day and interacting with different caregivers during the week.
People should get off their soap box and let every mother decide what is best for her family and not degrade others to make yourself feel better about your choice.
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| Posted 8/15/07 11:15 AM |
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