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My Dh takes the kids to his moms every Sunday for dinner. (Unless we have something or they do). I'm at work on Sunday's so I miss this. I don't think I could commit to every week, we have stuff going on.

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My parents realize that we have things to do on the weekends, so we don't go every week. But, for an occasion -- birthday, Mothers Day, etc. -- we go together. But if my DH had something to do around the house I would go alone with my kid.

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My DH's family is exactly like this.

I used to go every Sunday but lately I've been sending him with the girls and I have to say it's great!! I catch up on a lot of stuff and I relax a bit too!

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My DH tries to get out of going every Sunday. Sorry, I don't think it's ok in my family. I feel that we would be setting a bad example for our kids.

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I would not commit to seeing my in-laws every Sunday. I think the weekends are for nuclear families to bond. Once every other month is ok. Jmo.

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When my in-laws lived in New York, they had breakfast every single Sunday morning and we always went. If I had something to do, it wasn't a big deal if I skipped.. but in general, I went every time.

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Weekends are family time so if we had a family dinner to attend every week we'd go as a family. I *personally* wouldn't feel right sending DH alone to a family gathering nor would he want to go alone. We do things as a family or not at all, just how we are.

ETA - I love the idea of Sunday dinners with family, I wish my family still did that. I think it's a nice tradition for you and your children, I would go and enjoy a nice meal and make special memories.

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I give you people credit who do this every weekend, I could not do that. I need time to take care of my own things and I need a little down time each weekend to be able to face the week.

We see our parents all the time, but maybe a little here and a little there. I could not take the pressure of a big production every weekend. That to me would feel like a chore and not something I look forward to.

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This is my family, we get together pretty much every sunday, DH comes. We live around the corner so it isnt any trouble to get there or anything. If he wanted to stay home occasionally that would be fine but no way he would miss out on dinner we do not spend half the day though, couple of hours usually.

eta: we see his family often as well but they live 45min away so it's a little different. We both work so no way we would spend every sunday driving an hour each way.

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I think that is a nice tradition to have, and I have fond memories of it growing up. We went to my grandparents' house for Sunday dinner, but I don't think it was every single week. That tradition doesn't exist in my family anymore, and I think it would be nice to have something similar.

However, every Sunday is a lot. I don't think I could commit to something like that, and I think it it is fine if you miss a week here and there.

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We are currently living in my moms house while we save for a house, so we are always eating dinner together.

My brother and his family come about 1-2 times a month (my SIL opts to not come once in awhile) and my sister is there every Sunday as well. Sometimes my MIL comes as well. My DH has always come with me unless he was working. It is usually part of the afternoon for a few hours.

My mom is by herself, she has no one. She enjoys cooking and having everyone over and spending time together. I don't think it is a lot to ask. I just get all my things done Saturday and Sunday morning.

Then again my family (cousin on both sides of my family included) are very close, so this is normal for us. Seeing each once every few months would be weird for us. We're Italian - I guess it just comes with the territory

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We do Friday Night Dinner with my ILs every week. It isn't a half day affair and I have very occasionally skipped it to do something for me, but in general we all go.

MY family does big Sunday dinners. Unfortunately my family lives elsewhere so we only go when we go back to visit, but my sister and her husband, and my brother, his wife, and their kids go to my dad every Sunday. We've been doing big Sunday meals since before I can remember. I do know that sometimes my BIL or SIL doesn't join, and that's fine, it's a lot of time to commit to. If we lived closer to my family and went every week, I'd be okay if DH bowed out every so often.

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I think it's a nice tradition to have. With that being said, I also think that in today's world with both parents working (in many families), school, extracurriculars, etc. the weekends should be spent bonding and spending quality time as a nuclear family. I would say a Sunday dinner once a month with the IL's would be perfect and you should all go as a family, but I couldn't commit to EVERY week. That's just too much when there's so much else going on. It seems excessive.

Would your IL's understand if you and DH cut it down to every other week maybe instead of going every single weekend?

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I would go. If every now and then I have something to do I MIGHT miss it but Sunday family dinners is a big thing in Italian culture. My family used to do it when we were all living home, no matter what you HAD to be home for Sunday dinner. DH and I stopped for awhile but I started again and make a Sunday dinner every Sunday, if not Sunday, then the day after that allows.

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We don't do this normally hut we try to have a nice family dinner with my side at least once or twice per month. Every Sunday all day would not fly - I like my weekends for DH and DS or for hanging out with friends and running errands.

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Do they live far ? We have family dinners every Friday at my parents, and sometimes DH comes late. They only live 5 min away though. In the situation you described, I would try to go every week however I would also have no issue sending DH and kids at 1:30 and then meeting them closer to actual dinner time. 1:30 to 8:30 every Sunday is ALOT!

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My in laws do this...and unless it we have something else like a party going on, every Sunday is spent at their house. I don't mind though- the kids love spending every Sunday with their cousins and their grandparents. Today we didn't go. We did brunch with my parents instead. So they are very understanding if there are some weeks we can't make it. But whenever we go, all of us go.

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I would not go all the time. Weekends are so busy with sports and parties and I only have one 4 year old, I can't imagine giving up a half a Sunday every week.

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Every weekend? That sounds like a lot and that is so many hours. Can you say you have tons of things to get done on the weekends and only stay part of the time? No way my husband or I would be spending 7 hours out of the house on a Sunday for dinner with either of our families. Today I we spent 4 hours with family and now I'm home stressing to get all the laundry done and things that need to be done for tomorrow. Maybe you could send him and meet him there at some point.