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Kidsaplenty
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Re: Really need some insight
I can see both sides of this. My son JUST turned five, and he is totally the type who would behave that way if older boys were egging him on, and he really wouldn't *get* that it wasn't cute or playful.
BUT I have also been on the other side, with my oldest DD being bullied by a boy as a kindergartener. She came off the bus hysterically crying, because a boy held her down and pinched, slapped, bit and hit her repeatedly. I wasn't happy with our school's response (which was the kid apologizing to her, that was the only action they took) and my husband who got a bit crazy over it wanted to put a report with the police, if only to have a record of harassment on the other kid's part. If my daughter had complained of other inaprropriate touching, I definitely would have gone that route.
And for those of you who say that a meeting between the parents should have been called first, or that the mother should have talked to the parents of the "bullies" first, you don't have any idea how often those parents are the first to yell "Not MY kid!". Because that is exactly what happened in my DD's case, they were adamant their son did nothing wrong, even though other children witnessed it and stated such.
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Metsmomma
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Re: Really need some insight
OMG!!!! that is just crazy!!! i feel so bad that you are going through this!!!
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| Posted 9/23/11 7:00 PM |
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Palebride
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Lori
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Re: Really need some insight
What a horrible situation all around!
While I feel for your son, and your family....all I can imagine is how that little girl felt. She was all alone on the bus with no one to help her, and no matter what the specific details of the situation - SHE felt uncomfortable....SHE felt like she had no control in the situation....enough that she went home and told her mom.
I can't help but put myself in her situation....and I would be beside myself! And if I didn't think the school was taking me seriously....you can be sure I would do something to make sure they did!
Now excuse me while I work on that tower to keep Lily in for the next 20 years......
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| Posted 9/23/11 7:42 PM |
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itsbabytime
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Me
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Re: Really need some insight
Posted by BargainMama
There is a big difference in a newly 4 year old and a child that will be 5 in a month. Some of the behavior and language I've seen from kids in kindergarten is  so they aren't all innocent. Not saying this is the case for this particular child though!
ITA with this. We are not talking about a 4 yr old here - but, a 5 yr old and, yes, I do believe there is a big difference. Hearing only one side of the story and the side of the perpetrator and not the victim I don't feel I can fault the other mother for what she did. We don't know what her DD side of the story is. I can't imagine that she would go through all this just to get her DD in prviate school for free? Does that even happen? Sorry, but, I don't have enough info to say this woman is crazy or vindictive or whatever...
I do know that GOD FORBID this were my DS that did something like this I would have been on the phone with that mother immediately apologizing up and down and finding out her DD side of the story. I would feel TERRIBLE!
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kristen92450
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kristen
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Re: Really need some insight
omg that is so crazy to call the police. I would understand if he was an older child and was touching a younger little girl..but this is crazy..it seems as though the mother was trying to cause you and your dh problems by doing this..wow have you seen her in person since this happened. If she was that upset, she should have set up a meeting with you and dh to discuss the situation.
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| Posted 9/24/11 6:53 AM |
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kristen92450
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kristen
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Re: Really need some insight
just an aside..my mother said when I was in 1st grade..1st day of school I went on the bus with an older girl..after that day I never wanted to go back on the bus!! She had to drive me to school for 8 yrs(catholic school) I wonder what happened that day..I have no idea..but It is amazing how early experiences do affect a child
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| Posted 9/24/11 6:55 AM |
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Jan1975
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Sarah
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Re: Really need some insight
4 is way too young to even fathom the idea of calling the cops. She way overreacted (and I have a DD). As others have said, the school handled it properly. Also, if she really felt her daughter was sexually assaulted, then why would she let her still ride the bus, that doesn't sound right.
Honestly, I would probably not let my son ride the bus to avoid any further accusations since this is such a sensitive subject.
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| Posted 9/24/11 9:45 AM |
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