Remember that friend with the baby shower??

WELL!!! I found out a lot about her this weekend!!!

I'm not going to the baby shower. I've decided.

I was a little taken aback by things she said to me during a phone conversation in March. When she outright asked me the most rude questions (regarding the reason for the MC) and then harped on this annoying comments (in regards to the mc). Then told me she was pregnant.

WELL...I saw her at a BBQ on sat. I walk in and everyone is sitting there. I go to say hi to her first since I haven't seen her in the longest out of everyone there. No joke.. the FIRST things out of her mouth were seriously enough to make anyone go !!! First she says "How are you doing"... but not a hi how are you doing type... more like a how are you doing since the mc... like with underlying meaning to it. I say I'm doing well. Then she says "really, how are you?" then, "are you guys trying?" "are you pregnant yet?" "it's going to happen for you soon, I can feel it - I'm pregnant and I can sense these things"... then she kept going. Now remember this is PART OF THE HELLO (I haven't sat down yet... she is sitting) as I'm trying to make it around the table to say hi to everyone and she's asking me this the SECOND I walked in and INFRONT of EVERYONE!! I wanted to cry...actually I started tearing up.. and she kept on going. I had to walk away from her! So I go and say hi to the rest of the group as I'm trying really hard to not burst out in tears. It was just inappropriate timing to be asking those questions.

Of course she brings this up again when I sit down. Relentless this girl is. Then she starts talking about herself and being pregnant... but in a way that it's almost of no regard of what I had just gone through - explaining what a sono pic looks like (as if I don't know! and she knows my story because she made it a point to ask all the questions back when it happened). IDK something was VERY strange about it all. She didn't speak of anything other than her pregnancy or my miscarriage.

So later in the night... it ends up just being 4 of us and she is not one of them. The hostess is a girl who grew up with her. She told me "I saw your face before and I want you to know DO NOT LISTEN TO A WORD THAT (name) said to you... she is miserable and just wants to make people feel bad. She said that she wants to know every detail about everything and will harp on the bad stuff because she has major issues with depression and seems to like when others feel this way.
I was taken aback. But then I started telling her about the conversation that took place in March and how I was annoyed by some of the things she said, etc. And then I told her after she said all these twisted things to me she told me she was pregnant. So the girl (who has known her since they were little kids) said that she called me to tell me she was pregnant... that was her goal.

IDK I'd like to think she's not so bad of a person.

But regardless... having just walked into a BBQ and getting those types of questions in rapid fire motion, infront of everyone as a group was enough for me to know I need to stay away from her that weekend!

I asked the girl who hosted the party if she was going to the baby shower... she rolled her eyes and said I think I'm going to be on a (insert finger quotes here) vacation.

Message edited 6/21/2010 8:56:22 AM.

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wow! that's long! SO SORRY!!!

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OMG Kerri, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. And to think, you actually felt bad if you werent gonna go. Not only would I not go, but I won't even send a gift. Screw her!

Message edited 6/21/2010 9:03:37 AM.

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I'm glad you decided to not go. She definitely isn't a "friend" that you need to waste anymore time on with even thinking about going!!!

But I'm so sorry you had to go through that. It's tough enough being places knowing that people there do know what you have been going through - and then to have someone blatantly bring it up in front of people is just horrible!

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WOW people like that actually exist! Stay away!

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You are too nice, Kerri. I would have said something. I'm glad that you aren't going to this girl's shower.

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Ugh...I'm sorry you had to go through that. Some people are just awful!

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WOW! That girl seems rude and inconsiderate....completely inappropriate to ask all those questions.

Glad you are not going to her shower,....and I wouldnt bother sending her a gift. LOL

Sounds like someone who is not worth you being friends with.

She does sound like that type of person who it makes her happy to hear other's pain or sadness. I know a few people myself who are like....and they are not worth my friendship anymore.

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I'm still surprised by all of this.

I am going to send her a gift though. Mainly because I think it's the right thing to do. I'm sure if I had a shower she would come with a gift and she did for my wedding shower.

And since she's in the same cirlce of friends I have to take the high road. I'm going to decline close to the RSVP date just incase I see her again (I don't need her asking me why I declined in public too)... and send a gift her way.

Thank You so much guys!

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That was very rude of her! I wouldnt go either if I was you.