baby shower for a friend WWYD

my friend is having a baby the begining of august. bc of work and family we are not as close as we once were.
we still talk and go out every once in awhile.

i went with her to register at bbb and bru last month and she said she didnt know why she was even registering bc she knows she wont have a baby shower.

her mother lives with her and her husband but doesnt speak english. her only relative is her brother that lives a few towns over.

My friend confided in me that her husband hasnt workied in a couple of months and she is so stressed out bc of money and is working nonstop for benefits and trying to pay the mtg. They are behind on alot of payments etc.

I reached out to her husband and wrote him a text if hes planning a baby shower and needs any help that im here. that was a few days ago and i still havent heard from him. His father is in SI but they arent on good friendly terms and his mother is deceased. Im not sure about his sister but from what i understand she doesnt have money to do anything

Im thinking he hasnt reached out to me bc he doesnt have money - i know my friend would LOVE to have a baby shower but thinks no one will throw her one

I would love to throw her one but i financially cannot afford it - i can help out but i cant take the financial responsibility.
Should I call her dh up? Im friends with him too but i wouldnt even know what to say.. i know hes got pride to tell me they are struggling financially.

he also is a bit selfish - hes got a boat - actually just bought another boat and sold his old one. hes got a new corvette and goes away all the time.. hes self employed - construction - so sometimes he has work sometimes not.


soo wwyd? call her dh? let it go and feel bad for my friend?

Re: baby shower for a friend WWYD

I would call him..Tell him that you know about the financial situation ( unless you think your friend would be mad). Maybe he is a typical man and just hasnt responded to your texts. If you cannot afford to throw her the shower, be upfront and tell him that but that you would like to help out. Maybe see if he is planning anything at all. If not, then you dont need to do anything further..

Re: baby shower for a friend WWYD

I would let it go unless you are willing and able to throw the shower yourself or can find a way to get a group of mutual friends to chip in.

You sent the email to her DH. Pushing it further puts him in an awkward spot if they really can't afford to throw a shower financially.

Re: baby shower for a friend WWYD

thanks ladies. i just feel guilty that im not anything for her...

Re: baby shower for a friend WWYD

Could you get some of her other friends together and you all chip in and do a shower at someone's house with punch, salads, and sandwiches.

Re: baby shower for a friend WWYD

Re: baby shower for a friend WWYD

it could definately be afforable at someones house.

my MIL threw a small family one for me at her home it was 7 of us and she home cooked.. you can get decorations at dollar tree too.