Reporting an uncomfortable situation to HR - do you think this was handled appropriately?
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Pomegranate5
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Re: Reporting an uncomfortable situation to HR - do you think this was handled appropriately?
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Posted by tray831
Sometimes thats the one thing about HR; they dont know how to handle things the right way. And sometimes makes things worse.
As crazy as it sounds; that simple "good morning" that you gave him the first time a month ago; could've been enough to have an instant infatuation with you. It's like you gave him attention. Maybe he doesnt get attention often... And that is why things have become more and more weird each and every time he sees you. It becomes extremely creepy.
Is he an older man? I assume you know he is not married or is he?
Does anyone else get a weird vibe from him?
He's probably around my age if I had to guess. Somewhere between late 20's to mid 30's. I have no idea if he's married or not. He never said and I never asked in the limited interactions we've had. But he sure gives the impression that he's not. I really haven't spoken to anyone else in the office about the situation so I don't know if anyone else has come in contact with him and experienced anything similar or gotten the "creep vibe" from him. But the HR director did say to me that they've never had any issues with him in the past.
Your description of my good morning being the trigger for instant infatuation seems very plausible and that's what it feels like is happening. I always feel like "it's not IF i run into him again...it's WHEN" because it's like he waits for me in the mornings to pass and then when I return to the offices he takes that opportunity to approach me. Creeps me out. But the way HR reacted made me question whether I was overreacting or something. She even questioned me as to whether I used to words "not interested" to him at any time. I was like "umm...I didn't specifically use those words, no. I thought saying I'm flattered BUT I"M MARRIED and then actively avoiding him for 3 weeks was the same basic idea". But she made me feel like I was to blame almost because I didn't specifically spell out "I AM NOT INTERESTED"
You are not overreacting AT ALL. From now on when you do run into him, if he tries to talk to you at all I would be very obviously rude and cold to him. Maybe then he will get the hint. You were trying to be polite and not come right out and embarrass him and that obviously backfired.
Also, I don't know if this would somehow violate company policy, but please start telling coworkers you are close or friendly with about him, so that they can keep an eye out as well.
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Posted 10/2/18 9:20 AM |
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HomeIsWithU
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Re: Reporting an uncomfortable situation to HR - do you think this was handled appropriately?
Thanks everyone for your advice. I emailed HR on Monday night to tell her that I did not want her to talk to him and we would discuss it further when I came in. I ended up being out (DD was sick) yesterday, but she emailed me back and agreed to hold off on speaking to him, and in the meantime, she agreed to allow me to stop signing in and out in the warehouse. From now on I'm going to be emailing my work times to HR.
Today I spoke with her and explained why I was uncomfortable with her talking to the guy at this point. She agreed to hold off and wait to see if the behaviors stop now that I'm not crossing paths with him on a daily basis. If he continues to try to reach out to me now, he would be going to great lengths to do so, and at that point I agreed I would notify her and HR and the company could handle it.
I feel much better about the situation now and I'm glad I went back and spoke with HR before they got to him. And most importantly, I feel MUCH more comfortable now that I don't have to walk through the warehouse and potentially come in contact with him each day.
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Posted 10/3/18 10:07 AM |
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RainyDay
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Re: Reporting an uncomfortable situation to HR - do you think this was handled appropriately?
Posted by HomeIsWithU
Thanks everyone for your advice. I emailed HR on Monday night to tell her that I did not want her to talk to him and we would discuss it further when I came in. I ended up being out (DD was sick) yesterday, but she emailed me back and agreed to hold off on speaking to him, and in the meantime, she agreed to allow me to stop signing in and out in the warehouse. From now on I'm going to be emailing my work times to HR.
Today I spoke with her and explained why I was uncomfortable with her talking to the guy at this point. She agreed to hold off and wait to see if the behaviors stop now that I'm not crossing paths with him on a daily basis. If he continues to try to reach out to me now, he would be going to great lengths to do so, and at that point I agreed I would notify her and HR and the company could handle it.
I feel much better about the situation now and I'm glad I went back and spoke with HR before they got to him. And most importantly, I feel MUCH more comfortable now that I don't have to walk through the warehouse and potentially come in contact with him each day.
So glad things worked out better
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Posted 10/3/18 10:08 AM |
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Funkybutt
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Reporting an uncomfortable situation to HR - do you think this was handled appropriately?
I'm so glad HR is being helpful to your needs. Sounds like he'll go out of his way (going to your cubicle and calling your phone) - so definitely report if he does that.
Would you feel comfortable, when he calls, to answer the phone and tell him to leave you alone?
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Posted 10/3/18 11:01 AM |
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HomeIsWithU
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Re: Reporting an uncomfortable situation to HR - do you think this was handled appropriately?
Posted by Funkybutt
Would you feel comfortable, when he calls, to answer the phone and tell him to leave you alone?
At this point, yes. And I think I need to do that to make it perfectly clear to him.
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Posted 10/3/18 1:36 PM |
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