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MrsB12614
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So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
I feel ya! We don't have kids but we had to stalk 50 people for responses and some people just sent it when they felt like and im talking like a week before the wedding so I had to call and say to the person sorry rsvp date was such and such and the final count and bill has been given and paid!!!! I don't get what's wrong with people!!!!!!
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adeline27
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
I would reach out to them. I think they may have completely forgot about the invite being that it was 3 weeks. Sucks, but that's what I would do. The first think I do is note the RSVP in my calendar if I didn't remind myself I would totally forget.
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| Posted 11/8/14 7:57 AM |
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lcherian
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
This happened to us every time I sent invited to my kids' class. People don't know what common courtesy is anymore.
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| Posted 11/8/14 8:29 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
that is terrible, Im sorry
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| Posted 11/8/14 8:33 AM |
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Sparrow
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
That's really awful. I'm sure it's not personal, people probably forget but that doesn't make it right. Hopefully these posts (especially since there seem to be many of them) will at least make the people who read them think and respond ASAP when they get invites. I know it will for me!
Can you scrap the party and plan something else small for DS and a few close friends? I would tell him that too many people seem to already have plans for that day so instead we'll do _______. I would try to put a positive spin on it so he's not disappointed. I don't know his age to make suggestions as to what he might find really fun and exciting.
Good luck, I'm sorry you're dealing with this!
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| Posted 11/8/14 10:02 AM |
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Sash
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So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
I never respond, I thought no response means I'm not going. School parties are different to me then close family/ friend parties where I would call them. If I'm going i response if I'm not I don't. I thought that was the norm. Oops.
I don't throw school parties but If I did I would only want the people who are going to resppnd. But I also wouldnt rely on my sons classmates as the entire guestlist for his party. I know people don't like to go to strangers parties or parties like these.
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| Posted 11/8/14 10:02 AM |
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Sparrow
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
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I never respond, I thought no response means I'm not going. School parties are different to me then close family/ friend parties where I would call them. If I'm going i response if I'm not I don't. I thought that was the norm. Oops.
I don't throw school parties but If I did I would only want the people who are going to resppnd. But I also wouldnt rely on my sons classmates as the entire guestlist for his party. I know people don't like to go to strangers parties or parties like these.
I think you should still respond, even if it's a no. It's just rude otherwise, sorry.
I'm glad not all people feel this way. When we had DD's party almost all of the kids were from school. We don't have much family in the area and have no young kids in the family. Our friends also don't have kids the same age as ours, so our 3 yo doesn't really have "friends" outside of school. I'm glad her school friends came to her party!
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| Posted 11/8/14 10:06 AM |
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Sash
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
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Posted by Sash
I never respond, I thought no response means I'm not going. School parties are different to me then close family/ friend parties where I would call them. If I'm going i response if I'm not I don't. I thought that was the norm. Oops.
I don't throw school parties but If I did I would only want the people who are going to resppnd. But I also wouldnt rely on my sons classmates as the entire guestlist for his party. I know people don't like to go to strangers parties or parties like these.
I think you should still respond, even if it's a no. It's just rude otherwise, sorry.
I'm glad not all people feel this way. When we had DD's party almost all of the kids were from school. We don't have much family in the area and have no young kids in the family. Our friends also don't have kids the same age as ours, so our 3 yo doesn't really have "friends" outside of school. I'm glad her school friends came to her party!
To be honest I didn't know I had to respond to an invitation of someone I don't know if I wasnt going. I figured no response meant I wont be there. I guess im rude. Every other day there is an invitation in his bag.
Eta: it's just how I am. I don't do play dates and stuff like that and plus my sons schedule lately has been crazy on the weekend. I think it's worse to respond as going & make a person pay for the plate and then I have to cancel last minute. We go to a lot of parties already and I can't imagine fitting in 25 more parties on top of that and majority of the kids he doesn't even know or play with.
I will try to be mindful of RSVP No.
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| Posted 11/8/14 10:08 AM |
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Bridex100
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
I am so sorry. Is your son's party near the holidays? That may explain it.
At DS's preschool, there were always a handful of families who attended almost all the parties. We were included in this group. Then there was a mix of families who sometimes came and others who never came or responded. But for an entire class not to respond seems odd and rude.
My boys' birthdays are in March. One year, we had a lower turnout because easter came at the end of march and spring break overlapped with our party date. People still RSVPd no though.
eta: I would take no response as a no. We've done 5 yrs of parties now and we only had one kid come without RSVPing at all.
At this point, I would just invite any kids you know. I know we've probably been invited as party of a B list. Neighbors have invited us a week prior or even a handful of days prior. If you are part of a mom's group, you can invite the entire group.
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| Posted 11/8/14 10:16 AM |
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
It's very annoying, I always include e-mail, home phone and add that a text is welcome- to be honest I really hate calling people myself to RSVP so if there is an email option I always prefer that but respond no matter what.
I have generally been pretty lucky with DD's parties, though ironically the I got no responses twice from the same person- a college friend who lectured me a couple times about my lack of manners when we were students.  
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| Posted 11/8/14 10:37 AM |
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itsbabytime
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
Its really annoying I completely understand! I do always respond but, it seems once my kids started school the parties were almost constant between friends and family outside of school and then in school friends so I started to see how people would be MIA. With that said I started using Evite or Paperless Post because of this. Its easy for parents to click yes upon opening the evite. Then, two weeks before I send an rsvp reminder to whoever hasn't responded and then again 2 days before a party reminder to all. That almost always gets me a very high RSVP rate. I think I only have 1-2 kids max that have ever showed up without RSVP'ing.
ETA: I also wanted to add that for my older DC that is in second grade I rarely ever receive actual invitations anymore. Its 99.9 percent evite/paperless post.
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| Posted 11/8/14 11:18 AM |
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
RSVP means to respond whether or not you are going or not.
I think it is just as easy to call to say you are coming or not. Most people don't answer so all you have to do is leave a message.
http://people.howstuffworks.com/question450.htm
R.S.V.P. stands for a French phrase, "répondez, s'il vous plaît," which means "please reply." The person sending the invitation would like you to tell him or her whether you accept or decline the invitation.
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| Posted 11/8/14 11:25 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
Posted by afternoondelight828
RSVP means to respond whether or not you are going or not.
I think it is just as easy to call to say you are coming or not. Most people don't answer so all you have to do is leave a message.
http://people.howstuffworks.com/question450.htm
R.S.V.P. stands for a French phrase, "répondez, s'il vous plaît," which means "please reply." The person sending the invitation would like you to tell him or her whether you accept or decline the invitation.
Exactly! You have to respond yes or no.
sometimes people put regrets only...meaning only respond if you are NOT coming. So even then you are expected to respond if you can't make it.
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| Posted 11/8/14 11:59 AM |
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ChilisWife
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
I wish I could have used Evite but I don't have the parents email addresses. Even on the class list that finally went around, the majority of people didn't leave that contact information. I do have a few email addresses from that lit that I sent follow up messages to and guess what? NO REPLY. Granted, I don't know all the parents, but the kids see each other every day, eat lunch and play together every day, so THEY know each other. He is at an age where his cousins and family friends' kids are too old or too young to come to his birthday party and play sports with them so yes, we thought inviting friends from school was normal.
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| Posted 11/8/14 12:21 PM |
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
Posted by ChilisWife
I wish I could have used Evite but I don't have the parents email addresses. Even on the class list that finally went around, the majority of people didn't leave that contact information. I do have a few email addresses from that lit that I sent follow up messages to and guess what? NO REPLY. Granted, I don't know all the parents, but the kids see each other every day, eat lunch and play together every day, so THEY know each other. He is at an age where his cousins and family friends' kids are too old or too young to come to his birthday party and play sports with them so yes, we thought inviting friends from school was normal.
This was the problem last year and the school wasn't allowed to give out the parents contact info.
I also am not the type who feels super comfortable about putting this responsibility onto the teachers to follow up on which several people suggested to me to do.
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| Posted 11/8/14 12:50 PM |
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InShock
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
Posted by Sash
I never respond, I thought no response means I'm not going. School parties are different to me then close family/ friend parties where I would call them. If I'm going i response if I'm not I don't. I thought that was the norm. Oops.
I don't throw school parties but If I did I would only want the people who are going to resppnd. But I also wouldnt rely on my sons classmates as the entire guestlist for his party. I know people don't like to go to strangers parties or parties like these.
Are you serious?
Serious question: Are you of another culture? Because that is just NOT how things are done and it's plain rude not to RSVP to an invitation.
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| Posted 11/8/14 2:14 PM |
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allIwant
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
I'm so sorry!!!
It is completely rude if people don't respond...what does it take...2 minutes?
Hoping some kids come come to his party and he has a great time!
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| Posted 11/8/14 2:20 PM |
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BargainMama
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
People are rude and clueless. I would be annoyed since the RSVP date passed already. In K we had a Halloween party, and a handful of people never RSVP'd. I just didn't bother inviting them to anything again. Now I just invite people we know and that my DD is friends with. No more inviting all the girls in the class regardless if they are good friends, etc.
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| Posted 11/8/14 2:39 PM |
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
One of my biggest pet peeves. Even if you are unsure at the moment at least acknowledge receiving. I hate when friends even say of course I was coming (after the fact). RSVP means RSVP. That's annoying, sorry.
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| Posted 11/8/14 2:45 PM |
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MrsD121011
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So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
I hate it! People are so rude! I just dont get how hard is it to just email, call etc! I am waiting for reponses for my DD 1st bday parties and of course crickets! Is there a class email list that you can reach out to people through?
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| Posted 11/8/14 3:03 PM |
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Domino
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
I understand your frustration.
Oh, and as an aside, I dont know if you have already done this, check your junk folder on your email. I had someone show up the day of DS' party and was silently seething because she was there without RSVPing and three weeks later I checked my spam folder and there was her reply that her son was so excited to be coming and was looking forward to the party
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| Posted 11/8/14 3:21 PM |
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Seawolf
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
Not responding when there is an email address provided is just lazy. It couldn't get any easier!
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| Posted 11/8/14 3:22 PM |
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Seawolf
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
Could some of the no-replies be that the kids never even gave the invite to their parents?
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| Posted 11/8/14 3:23 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
RSVP I respond ( I try to do it immediately so I don't forget) I've also seen respond with regrets only. So for get person that doesn't respond for no, they probably think you ARE coming :)
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| Posted 11/8/14 4:21 PM |
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Re: So annoyed and sad for my son - RSVP related
I always send out reminder emails to RSVP if I don't hear by date!
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