So much drama just for a baby shower

So my aunt, who lives in Brooklyn, is throwing my baby shower. I live in Queens as do almost all of my family and friends. My aunt wants to throw the shower somewhere in Bklyn at a place that is close to her.

I originally told her I would prefer somewhere in Queens or in Nassau. She keeps telling me that if people really want to go to the shower they will travel anywhere. I know for the most part this is true but my family is not happy about going to Bkyln and some of our friends might not go b/c its there. I just feel like booking a place in Queens myself and ending this drama. I dont know why my aunt wont listen to me. Plus, I dont wt to be take any long car rides when I am 8-9 moths pregnant.

Thanks for letting me vent.

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Maybe if you tell her you want it to be close to you because you would rather not travel she might change it. If she thinks its just for your friends she probably doesn't care, and would rather not change it for herself. She'll probably do it for you though. GL

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I would tell your Aunt or have your mom tell her that it needs to be in Queens or Nassau for the reasons you mentioned in your post.

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It should be convenient for YOU since all the gifts will need to be brought back to where you live!!!

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Let her know you will be bringing back a TON of stuff and would like to be close by so it's not inconvenient for you and your DH & whoever else you may need to help bring stuff back to your home.

I would express that at nine months pregnant, you'd rather be close to home.

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Do you think she might be trying to throw you off and making this a surprise?

Can you explain to her that bringing all the gifts back to your place will be easier from a closer place? Could that be a valid argument?

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Thank you ladies for your responses. I have tried everything you suggested already. I told her I didnt want to travel far and that it would be easier to have it closer. Unfortunately my mom passed away a few years ago and my aunt didnt even talk to my MIL (who I am extremely close with) about throwing the shower. My MIL doesnt want to get involved b/c when it came time for my bridal shower my aunt took that over too and wasnt very nice to my MIL (who had already booked a place for that shower and had to cancel it).

I feel like Im being ungrateful b/c my aunt is trying hard to give me a nice shower but at the same time she is doing what is convenient for her.

Message edited 6/17/2009 2:04:37 PM.

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I am sorry that you are dealing with this - but being that she is throwing it, let her do what she feels is best.

My shower was about an hour away for most people - but they all showed - and had a blast.

People seem to LOVE baby showers:)

Don't spend your time worrying - just enjoy every moment!!!

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I live in queens and have gone to bk and nj for baby and bridal showers, so don't worry about the people not coming...the thing that would bother me most is transporting the gifts back to your house...that is really inconvenient and you may need more than one car or more than one trip to bring it all.

ETA, the boxes with baby stuff are huge, the car seat the stroller, pack n play, infant seat, high chair...won't fit in one suv!

Message edited 6/17/2009 2:09:36 PM.

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I am very sorry for the loss of your mom. Could your MIL call her instead? Perhaps like another poster said, she is saying this to "throw you off." For my bridal shower my family did that to me.

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I am always honest, and I believe that is why people post things on here, for an honest opinion.

I think it is very nice of your aunt to be doing this for you, and while it may be a little inconvenient for you, she is throwing the shower, and from what it sounds like, paying the bill as well. It's not like she is throwing the shower in Montauk. I would ease up on trying to get her to change her mind, as it may come across as ungrateful.

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If I was throwing your party I would try to make it a most neutral area or at least closest to the guest of honor not the most convenient place for me so I think your aunt is a little selfish in this area but she is throwing you the shower so I think it's probably going to be one of those things you'll just have to suck up and deal with afterall Brooklyn is not in another state.

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I think you should put your foot down and tell your Aunt that your MIL would like to throw a shower for her grandchild, that it's very important to her.

I would hate to see you unhappy at your own baby shower.

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you should put your foot down.. people are also going to have to be lugging all the gifts back to your house afterward anways so it should be close to you...
plus me personally around 35 weeks my feet started swelling and hurting, I wouldnt want to be stuck in a car any longer than i have to