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NoStressMom
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WWYD Baby Shower Drama
So my shower is April 25th and my mom and MIL are throwing it. My in laws live in SC and coming up for a few days so is my SIL from NC.
My mom gets a email from my cousins wife who lives in Conn.
1. Is it ok to bring my daughter answer Fine not really a problem she is 5
2. Are the men hanging out cause then I will ask my husband and have him bring our son who is 2
3. Are you doing anything after the shower for family?
First off you are coming from Conn not that far just a ferry ride over. My parents aren't planning a huge family thing after the shower my mom is going to be wiped. just us and my in laws
third the men if anything are just going to be going to a bar not a place for a 2 year old. I love how people love to invite others. Just wondering if I am over reacting. I thought she had some balls. This isn't that side of the family visit. This is my day and my hubby day with our family.
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Posted 3/16/09 1:10 PM  |
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
I would have your mom tell her those things. Tell her bringing the DD is fine, but the men are going to a bar so unless her hubby wants to bring his 2 year old there, he should stay home. I would also have her tell your cousin that there is nothing planned for afterwards because you will all be exhausted and will want to relax and not run around.
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| Posted 3/16/09 1:13 PM |
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NoStressMom
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
Posted by JennyPenny
I would have your mom tell her those things. Tell her bringing the DD is fine, but the men are going to a bar so unless her hubby wants to bring his 2 year old there, he should stay home. I would also have her tell your cousin that there is nothing planned for afterwards because you will all be exhausted and will want to relax and not run around.
Yes that is how I feel thats why I'm shocked she even asked these questions. I have other family coming from the City and Jersey and they are going home after the shower.
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| Posted 3/16/09 1:16 PM |
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Angel321
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
i may be in the minority here - but i don't see anything terrible in what she's asking...
she has 2 kids and needs to be sure that she has adequate care for them...(fair enough)
she wanted to know if there would be a family thing - because then her husband would come down too (not to miss anything family related...which i honestly think is kinda nice)....
personally - i'd give her the info, let her make her own decision and move along.... 
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| Posted 3/16/09 1:28 PM |
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Lucky
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
Just tell your mom to tell it like it is. There is the baby shower, yes the 5 year old can come and there is nothing beyond that.
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| Posted 3/16/09 1:32 PM |
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MrsS518
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
I hate when people do that!! Ok the DD is fine but asking about the husband and the DS.... Like you said they aren't far from home. I wouldn't extended the invite to the bar only cause they may wanna come home after to hang out and like you said its only close family hanging out after this is JMO but I think that's what would happen.
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| Posted 3/16/09 1:33 PM |
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NoStressMom
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
Thanks ladies for your input. My mom did send her an email back just saying that she would love to see them but another time she is going to be showered out after this. She left it so she can make her own decision if you wants to come or not.
Jess I do understand but she has plenty of childcare where she is her whole side of the family lives within a few blocks of each other. Parents, sister cousins etc.
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| Posted 3/16/09 2:04 PM |
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hope316
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
Thanks for your post it actually made me feel better... I have the same family drama going on.... funny enough the same people that cause drama at the wedding
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| Posted 3/16/09 10:16 PM |
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brownie
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
I would be annoyed too....if this was coming from my IL's I'd be super annoyed  I am also getting fed up w/crap from people, so maybe I'm not in the right state of mind right now to answer but right now, yeah, that would irritate me.....its a shower for females, not a family reunion
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| Posted 3/16/09 10:22 PM |
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BeachMom
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
Posted by brownie
I would be annoyed too....if this was coming from my IL's I'd be super annoyed I am also getting fed up w/crap from people, so maybe I'm not in the right state of mind right now to answer but right now, yeah, that would irritate me.....its a shower for females, not a family reunion
I have to agree.
If they were traveling for 10 hours it might be a different story. But even then, if your traveling that far for someones baby shower you usually make your own plans for the rest of the time your there. You don't expect people to plan things for you.
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| Posted 3/17/09 6:35 AM |
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kmac
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
I know for my shower we had some people coming from upstate or NJ, etc. and my husband invited their significant others, and the men from my family, his family, and our guy friends to go with him to a pub in town for sandwiches and to hang out. So I guess I don't think it's that out of the ordinary. I'm sure she was just checking to see what was going on.
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| Posted 3/17/09 8:50 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
I think it was presumptous and rude of your cousin to
A. ask your Mom is her 5 year old DD could attend. - It's not a child's BDay party, and IF she WAS invited, the formal invitation would have said so ........
B. ask your Mom is she's "doing anything for the family afterwards" - You're not coming from CA for God's sake - it's an hour or 2 drive from CT !!
and C. - WHY can't her DH stay home and watch his kids for a few hours ???? 
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| Posted 3/17/09 9:04 AM |
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
Posted by MarisaK
I think it was presumptous and rude of your cousin to
A. ask your Mom is her 5 year old DD could attend. - It's not a child's BDay party, and IF she WAS invited, the formal invitation would have said so ........
B. ask your Mom is she's "doing anything for the family afterwards" - You're not coming from CA for God's sake - it's an hour or 2 drive from CT !!
and C. - WHY can't her DH stay home and watch his kids for a few hours ????
This would be my mentality as well.
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| Posted 3/17/09 9:05 AM |
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lucyloo
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
So her DH is available that day to come all the way here but he can't stay home and watch the 2 kids? Rude.
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| Posted 3/17/09 9:12 AM |
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bellaluna
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
Posted by MarisaK
I think it was presumptous and rude of your cousin to
A. ask your Mom is her 5 year old DD could attend. - It's not a child's BDay party, and IF she WAS invited, the formal invitation would have said so ........
B. ask your Mom is she's "doing anything for the family afterwards" - You're not coming from CA for God's sake - it's an hour or 2 drive from CT !!
and C. - WHY can't her DH stay home and watch his kids for a few hours ????
ITA!
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| Posted 3/17/09 9:23 AM |
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NoStressMom
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Re: WWYD Baby Shower Drama
Posted by dita
So her DH is available that day to come all the way here but he can't stay home and watch the 2 kids? Rude.
Yes he is home that day so not sure why she was asking about her. But that was ok in my book she is 5 fine bring her my boss is bringing her daughter so I can't say yes to one and no to another. But then to ask about what else is going on. I do not think so. Enjoy the shower with us and everyone else and then go home that everyone else. Hopefully she got the point in a nice way. I understand people saying about well the guys can hang out but this is my cousins not my hubby he is not going to want to hang out with my cousin who we see one in a while every couple of years to hang out on my shower.
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| Posted 3/17/09 9:49 AM |
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