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dm24angel
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Re: Sorta Spinoff: Moving off LI/Out of state vs. staying near family and "struggling"
Posted by SweetTooth
We are also starting to think about this. I really do not want to leave my family, but it is getting too tough to live here. Any money I would make would go straight to child care, making working worthless. We cannot afford to live here on DH's salary alone. Its so depressing and totally outrageous that the cost of living on LI is so high that so many people who grew up here have to consider leaving - and can't raise their families where they were raised.
This is how I feel...so sad too.
If I were to go get a job, I would have to work all day every day to afford 3 kids in daycare and I just wont do that to my kids...So while yes I would still be around family...would it matter? If my kids NEVER saw me or their Father but got to see a cousin on a weekend?
Its all relative to everyones situation.
There are people around me, who if I was in their shoes, financially, and had their living arrangements, I would NEVER consider leaving.
Its all a matter of each persons individual situation...
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yankinmanc
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Re: Sorta Spinoff: Moving off LI/Out of state vs. staying near family and "struggling"
I don't live near my family, and I have made an amazing life for myself. I would not want to struggle just to be near my family, you can live far away from your family and still feel very close. And truth be told, if there was an emergency, you could get pretty much anywhere in the world within 24-48 hours no problem.
I am sure that my parents are sad that we aren't physically closer, but the support network I have here is wonderful, and I doubt that I would have that living on Long Island.
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MrsRivera
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Re: Sorta Spinoff: Moving off LI/Out of state vs. staying near family and "struggling"
There are definite pros and cons to living OOS.
For us, we did it so we wouldn't have to struggle. We chose Charlotte because my sister was here. Now that she's been transferred to CA, we are planning on moving closer to home (LI), but not moving back. We are looking at PA.
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lovemy2boys
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Re: Sorta Spinoff: Moving off LI/Out of state vs. staying near family and "struggling"
we are staying here for now because our family watching DS for free while I work FT . so they are also helping us financially in a way. if they were unable to watch him and I had to pay daycare, we would not be staying here. of course I would miss my family, but I would have no quality of life here, and no savings, struggling with a mortgage etc. right now we are very comfortable bc we have our families. but if they couldn't watch him for whatever reason, we would be leaving the state.
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curliegirl
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Re: Sorta Spinoff: Moving off LI/Out of state vs. staying near family and "struggling"
Posted by racheeeee
I don't live near my family, and I have made an amazing life for myself. I would not want to struggle just to be near my family, you can live far away from your family and still feel very close. And truth be told, if there was an emergency, you could get pretty much anywhere in the world within 24-48 hours no problem.
I am sure that my parents are sad that we aren't physically closer, but the support network I have here is wonderful, and I doubt that I would have that living on Long Island.
You're right on all points...my main problem would be getting to my son in dead stopped traffic when he's hurt or sick.....THAT can take hours and feel like days.....
It just adds to the complexity of the issue because it would all fall on my shoulders to be there for him....DH commutes by train so it's "harder for him"......
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Nik09
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Re: Sorta Spinoff: Moving off LI/Out of state vs. staying near family and "struggling"
Posted by Diana1215
This is my thought process on the whole thing - yes the cost of living elsewhere is cheaper....and I may have a huge house with a big beautiful kitchen and a gorgeous yard - but what good is it if I don't have my friends and family to share it with? KWIM?
Exactly! I live out of state (relocated for DH job pre-kids). Now I have a 3 month old and I'll tell you it is 100x worse. I never felt more lonely. No one to babysit (without a background check and security cameras - LOL). Support system is lacking. DD is going to daycare and I had to put a friend I know for a short time as the emergency contact. Just stinks!
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babyonthebrain
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Re: Sorta Spinoff: Moving off LI/Out of state vs. staying near family and "struggling"
DH and I moved out of Queens in 2004. Let me tell you it was THE BEST decision we ever made!!!!! We would never be able to buy a house in NY.
I love the Poconos, I don't think I'd move out of here (except to go to a nice warm place) You'd be surprised how well you adapt. You'll make new friends and you might be happier if you have more $$$ in your pocket! 
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MST9106
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Re: Sorta Spinoff: Moving off LI/Out of state vs. staying near family and "struggling"
I agree with you Gina. As a working mom where everything falls on my shoulders, I can't imagine being away from my family and friends. They're my back-up and safety net for all types of situations that could arise...I just feel safer and more at home where I am. I'd rather rent or have a smaller house, but be closer to my family. I could get a weekend place OOS, but not to live there permanently.
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