Re: spinoff to MIL vent... moms in delivery room?

I had my mom with me for my first 2 kids, and she will be there with this one. She is calming and she really helps to keep me focused. DH is great, don't get me wrong. But she provides support to both of us, especially once the pushing starts. DH doesn't really know what to say or do, and she kind of fills in the gaps. It works for us. And she is so honored and appreciative to be there.

Re: spinoff to MIL vent... moms in delivery room?

If I was going natural then Id want my mom in there, not his. But CS only the hubby

Re: spinoff to MIL vent... moms in delivery room?

I always said I only wanted it to be dh and I in the delivery room. I was ok with my mom being in the room before it was time to push but I wanted it to just e the two of us when ds was born. Well my mom was so amazing during my two day induction. A few hours before it was time to push I spoke to dh when my mom went to grab a coffee and we decided we wanted her there. She was so happy. And now I can't imagine her not being there. So I don't think it's weird that you want our mom there at all. I do understand those who don't want their moms in the oom though, like I said up unil the last minute that was me.

Re: spinoff to MIL vent... moms in delivery room?

My family lives overseas, but I wouldn't want my mom in the room.

Re: spinoff to MIL vent... moms in delivery room?

If my mom was calming and a delivery nurse I would want her in the room too. Since my mom is none of the above I want her anywhere BUT the delivery room. She's the type of person that has no filter and says whatever is on her mind and usually ends up stressing me out

Re: spinoff to MIL vent... moms in delivery room?

I wasn't sure if I wanted my mom in the delivery room. But all day long I was in labor and my DH, mom, and brother were in the room keeping us company. My dad came later that day when he was done with work and we all just hung out as I labored. As the day progressed I realized how much my mom wanted to watch me give birth and had I been able to deliver vaginally, I would have asked her to stay.

It was kind of disappointing that I wasn't able to let her see it because I know she was dying to be there for the birth of one of her grandchildren.

Re: spinoff to MIL vent... moms in delivery room?

As of now, I don't want my mom in the room. She and I are definitely close, but she is highly anxious, and I have a feeling she will make me more nervous if she's in there. I really want the moment that our LO comes into the world to be just me and DH.

Re: spinoff to MIL vent... moms in delivery room?

My mom and i are very very close but I never wanted anyone in the room aside from me and DH. I think its such a special moment when your child is born....I wanted it to be all for me and DH and then the rest of the family can see the baby after. I didn't need my mom watching me give birth. to each their own i guess, but I know DH also would NOT have been cool with anyone else there...he is a very private person and i was so happy he felt the same as I did. I loved loved loved having those first moments with just "us" as our own little intimate family. My cousin had her entire family there the whole time, and her husband later told her how he really wished it had been just them. Just something to consider as well!

Re: spinoff to MIL vent... moms in delivery room?

My mom and my husband were in the delivery room with me when I gave birth to my son. She was great and took a lot of great pictures but she kept on talking about her experience when she gave birth to me and I just wish she didn't...she also didn't have a lot of strength in holding my legs up when I was pushing and I had to hold back a lot. I finally asked the nurse to help my hubby bc I needed to get that boy out lol I wouldn't mind if she is there this time around but she just needs to be quiet and just take great pictures My husband was phenominal! He was massaging me and was so calm and collected that all I really need there with me is him.

Re: spinoff to MIL vent... moms in delivery room?

I wouldn't even let my Mom in the room while I was in labor before they finally gave me the epidural - I didn't want ANYONE to see me like that -

I probably would have booted DH out too if I could have.

But I'M weird like that - I don't like anyone (even my own Mother) to see me completely lose my sh*t -

Re: spinoff to MIL vent... moms in delivery room?

My mom is my best friend & she means the world to me, but for me labor is a very personal experience for just my dh & myself so she won't be in the room with us this time either.

Re: spinoff to MIL vent... moms in delivery room?

Dont even get me started. MIL feels it is her due right to be there. This is her last grandbaby and she'd like to be there for the birth.