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jerseypanda
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Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Would it bother you if you went to an event (birthday, baptism, communion, whatever) and gave a very generous check as the gift...
And the thank you card simply said "thank you for coming"...
No mention, acknowledgement or thank you for the actual gift you gave...
Would that annoy you? For me, it does annoy me very much. I am just wondering what other people's thoughts are on it to see if I am over sensitive or justified in my feelings!
Thanks! 
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Rycois
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
I would expect the gift to be acknowledged and would wonder if they didn't see the check if that's all they put. That's normally how I phrase my thank-you's when someone doesn't give a gift.
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| Posted 5/13/09 3:19 PM |
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Katie111806
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Posted by SweetCaroline
I would expect the gift to be acknowledged and would wonder if they didn't see the check if that's all they put. That's normally how I phrase my thank-you's when someone doesn't give a gift.
I agree - at first i would worry they didn't see it/misplaced it but if i saw the check was cashed i'd be annoyed. I always state what the gift is in a thank you.
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| Posted 5/13/09 3:22 PM |
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waterspout4
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Yes. That would bother me.
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| Posted 5/13/09 3:23 PM |
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luvsun27
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
No...it wouldn't annoy me. I try not to worry about these types of things. They probably wrote out general thank-you cards to everyone who came to the party.
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| Posted 5/13/09 3:23 PM |
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Sweets13
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
NO, it would not bother me.
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| Posted 5/13/09 3:40 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Probably not, because I feel like so many people don't send thank yous at all. I would be glad to receive one in general (but would double check to see if the check was cashed.....)
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| Posted 5/13/09 3:42 PM |
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MrsSteflily
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Yes.
If someone took the time to choose a gift (even if it is check or cash), then I can take the time to write a thank you.
But then I also prefer handwritten Thank you's and notes.
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| Posted 5/13/09 3:47 PM |
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bklynitaliana
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
THIS IS ONLY MY OPINION
I'm not a big fan of thank you cards. I believe if you were at the party and i saw you and you gave me a card/gift etc and I said thank you face to face that is more genuine than a thank you card. However if you did not attend and you sent a card/gift etc. I would either send you a thank you card or give you a call and thank you.
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| Posted 5/13/09 3:49 PM |
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want2beamom
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
yes, i would call to make sure that they received your gift
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| Posted 5/13/09 3:55 PM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Posted by luvsun27
No...it wouldn't annoy me. I try not to worry about these types of things. They probably wrote out general thank-you cards to everyone who came to the party.
ITA! and this is what I did for DS thankyou's its much easier for me! I just posted his actually.....
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| Posted 5/13/09 3:59 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
It wouldn't bother me but I usually at least say when I write Thank You's........Thank you for coming and sharing in my special day and for your very generous gift.
I know not everyone does it that way so I don't get offended if my gift isn't specifically mentioned in a thank you because I know whoever I bought for is grateful even without them saying it.
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| Posted 5/13/09 3:59 PM |
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kerrycec03
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
a little. I get more upset with the pre-printed "thanks for coming" cards. Those ERK me sooo much. I find it so lazy. Yes, its time consuming filling out thank yous, but put a little effort please.
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| Posted 5/13/09 4:01 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
I don't know if I would be bothered by it but I would be concerned that they either didn't get our gift or didn't remember that we gave a gift (if the check was cancelled).
When I write thank you notes, I always include a hand written line or two to personalize it.
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| Posted 5/13/09 4:04 PM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Posted by kerrycec03
a little. I get more upset with the pre-printed "thanks for coming" cards. Those ERK me sooo much. I find it so lazy. Yes, its time consuming filling out thank yous, but put a little effort please.
Well this is what I did, and I am NOT "lazy" at all, I have a very BIG family and I can't see writing out thankyou's to that many people, I feel putting the effort into getting something written up on the thankyou is good enough! I go to parties sometimes and not even get a thankyou (but thats how some people are) that's being lazy!
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| Posted 5/13/09 4:05 PM |
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
No, mainly because how would you word a thank you for a generous check? I always find it difficult to word thank you's for monetary gifts.
All my thank you's always say
Thank you for making my day special. I truly appreciate your thoughtful and generous gift. I n
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| Posted 5/13/09 4:06 PM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
No because I know sometimes how hard it is to write out thank you's when you have a lot of them.
Not getting one would annoy me to no end so I would just be happy I got one.
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| Posted 5/13/09 4:23 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Posted by MrsSteflily
Yes.
If someone took the time to choose a gift (even if it is check or cash), then I can take the time to write a thank you.
But then I also prefer handwritten Thank you's and notes.
I agree completely.
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| Posted 5/13/09 4:35 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
No I don't think it would be bother me. I don't keep track of thank yous & wouldn't even notice if I didn't get one.
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| Posted 5/13/09 4:37 PM |
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Jenn627
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Posted by kerrycec03
a little. I get more upset with the pre-printed "thanks for coming" cards. Those ERK me sooo much. I find it so lazy. Yes, its time consuming filling out thank yous, but put a little effort please.
I would be upset if I gave a very generous gift and it wasn't acknowledged.
I totally agree with the above poster too - somehow these people found time to plan a party (especially a big one with CPs, and entertainment, and favors, etc) so why couldn't they find time to write out thank yous? I don't care when a thank you card comes, but the effort matters to me.
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smiles
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Posted by neener1211
Posted by MrsSteflily
Yes.
If someone took the time to choose a gift (even if it is check or cash), then I can take the time to write a thank you.
But then I also prefer handwritten Thank you's and notes.
I agree completely.
Me too. I do not care for the preprinted thank you's. JMO
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Everyone is different. I always acknowledge the gift given in a thank you b/c I think it is the proper thing to do whether I have 10 thank you's to write or 100. Other people dont think it's necessary.
One of my "best" friends is getting married. I helped her mom out with the shower and payed for the invitations AND favors for 50 guests. I also bought her a shower gift. Needless to say, she mentioned the shower gift and other than that said "thanks for helping my mom with the shower". It kind of upset me she couldnt take an extra 30 seconds and write alittle more considering I did so much.
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dm24angel
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
a little, but Im really weird about manners and think they are important to teach younger kids. If it were for something liek a wedding or a shower, then I might let it slip. ..but I know I have an odd opinion.
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Lizzy
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
It would bother me. Did they cash the check? If not, I would call and make sure they got it.
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| Posted 5/13/09 6:28 PM |
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4monkeys
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Posted by bklynitaliana
THIS IS ONLY MY OPINION
I'm not a big fan of thank you cards. I believe if you were at the party and i saw you and you gave me a card/gift etc and I said thank you face to face that is more genuine than a thank you card. However if you did not attend and you sent a card/gift etc. I would either send you a thank you card or give you a call and thank you.
DITTO, I TOTALLY agree (maybe it's the old school italians   )
but i TOTALLY agree ! and with a "very generous" check, card do you get a nicer written note than a "not so generous" check? how do you word that or fulfill the thank you obligation based on what was given?
and I think outside the box, being thankful doesnt have to be in the form of a 4X4 card that will go into the person's garbage can in less time it took you to seal the envelope.
there are SO many more ways of showing thank you than a card, like wearing the outfit they got you when you see them, having your child call to say thank you, baking them something, etc. there are so many more personal ways to say thank you. one aunt, we call her to tell her what toy or item we bought (she likes to know we think of her when we use/play with that item) Or we send her flowers/chocolates in return, etc.
Im not a fan of thank you cards at all. (but I do them to avoid things like this post, lol, no offense to anyone) but i wont ramble on.
sorry if this went on a tangent or two, and it wasnt meant to offend anyone.
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