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jerseypanda
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Posted by 3monkeys
DITTO, I TOTALLY agree (maybe it's the old school italians   )
but i TOTALLY agree ! and with a "very generous" check, card do you get a nicer written note than a "not so generous" check? how do you word that or fulfill the thank you obligation based on what was given?
It's not that I expect someone to distinguish between a "generous" check and a "not so generous" check. To me, the point of a thank you card is to acknowledge to someone that you received and appreciate the gift you gave. So what would I have expected after giving a check as a gift? I would have expected to see something like "thank you for your generous gift." (whether or not they think it was generous) I know when I write out thank you's for checks, I include how I plan to use the money or how I used the money. "Your gift will be going into Lucas's account for his future."
To me, if you don't mention the gift in the thank you, the person is left wondering if you ever received it.
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pharmcat2000
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
I think it would bother me a bit if my gift wasn't mentioned at all. I'm not a fan of the pre-printed thank you card for weddings or showers, but for children's birthdays or baptisms etc I don't mind them. Not sure why -- maybe I just feel the other events are more formal. Also, since I have something going on with my right hand and have a lot of difficulty writing, I would have a big problem writing out specific thank you cards for each person who attended my child's birthday party or baptism. I have used the pre-printed cards for Marron's events so far, but have always hand-signed each one. I don't know -- maybe it makes me feel like I'm putting in a little bit of effort.
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| Posted 5/13/09 6:52 PM |
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JandJ1224
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
I hate thank you cards, I really hate cards in general. I don't give gifts expecting a thank you card. I am sure the recipients of my gifts are grateful thank you or not. I always do pre-printed ones. I guess I am just "lazy" haha
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4monkeys
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Posted by jerseypanda
Posted by 3monkeys
DITTO, I TOTALLY agree (maybe it's the old school italians )
but i TOTALLY agree ! and with a "very generous" check, card do you get a nicer written note than a "not so generous" check? how do you word that or fulfill the thank you obligation based on what was given?
It's not that I expect someone to distinguish between a "generous" check and a "not so generous" check. To me, the point of a thank you card is to acknowledge to someone that you received and appreciate the gift you gave. So what would I have expected after giving a check as a gift? I would have expected to see something like "thank you for your generous gift." (whether or not they think it was generous) I know when I write out thank you's for checks, I include how I plan to use the money or how I used the money. "Your gift will be going into Lucas's account for his future."
To me, if you don't mention the gift in the thank you, the person is left wondering if you ever received it.
I see what you mean. I usually write it "from my kids" and say mommy and daddy put it in my piggy bank, or something like that, but depending on the occasion and how close to the person, it's an awkward position of how to write what, in my opinion.
so thats why Im not a fan of thank you cards.
I wouldnt take it personally, i think they truly appreciated you being there, and that meant more to them than anything, that was priceless, kwim ? 
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MelToddJulia
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Posted by JandJ1224
I hate thank you cards, I really hate cards in general. I don't give gifts expecting a thank you card. I am sure the recipients of my gifts are grateful thank you or not. I always do pre-printed ones. I guess I am just "lazy" haha
I guess I am too! But mine was custom made!
Everyone is going to have a different opinion on this one, and thats ok!
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Faithx2
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
I just recently went to a wedding and my thank you was a snapfish phototype thank you with a preprinted saying. I thought it was really tacky. I didn't even say anything but one of my gf's called me up and mentioned how impersonal she thought it was  I don't mind it at all for smaller events(birthdays,communions etc) but a wedding/shower ty I feel should be handwritten.
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Violet
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
No, it wouldn't bother me. Even if I don't get a thank you card, it won't bother me either.
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HillW9608
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Posted by OneOfEach
I just recently went to a wedding and my thank you was a snapfish phototype thank you with a preprinted saying. I thought it was really tacky. I didn't even say anything but one of my gf's called me up and mentioned how impersonal she thought it was I don't mind it at all for smaller events(birthdays,communions etc) but a wedding/shower ty I feel should be handwritten.
 Oh man.. good thing you didnt come to our wedding
We did the same.. a beautiful thank you with 3 pictures on the front and a saying we came up with inside.. our names signed. I wrote in the bridal party/parents/generous gift ones but not the others.
I have to admit it took me a while to decide to do that, I even still have the ones we got from our photographer but I didnt like them and thought a nicer card would be better.
Thank yous arent a big deal to me.. its when I dont get one at all that I wonder.
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shellybean
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Posted by luvsun27
No...it wouldn't annoy me. I try not to worry about these types of things. They probably wrote out general thank-you cards to everyone who came to the party.
ITA, I am guilty of this.
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Smileyd17
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Posted by MelToddJulia
Posted by kerrycec03
a little. I get more upset with the pre-printed "thanks for coming" cards. Those ERK me sooo much. I find it so lazy. Yes, its time consuming filling out thank yous, but put a little effort please.
Well this is what I did, and I am NOT "lazy" at all, I have a very BIG family and I can't see writing out thankyou's to that many people, I feel putting the effort into getting something written up on the thankyou is good enough! I go to parties sometimes and not even get a thankyou (but thats how some people are) that's being lazy!
ITA
I have seen many times where I dont even get a Thank you...and from family too. To me that is worse and def lazy.
I normally do the same thing, pre printed due to a large family/friend as well but last party I threw, kept it small and sent out hand written ones.
ETA: I wouldnt be upset..in this case just happy a thank you came. Maybe they should of added on about gift for sure.
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Sweets13
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
If I gave a gift to someone and they opened it in front of me and thanked me, I wouldn't even expect a thank you card in the mail. Just them personaly thanking me is good enough!
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
Posted by Sweets13
NO, it would not bother me.
Same here.
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Stefanie
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Re: Thank you card question... would this bother you?
I think a thank you is a thank you. At least someone took the time to get something done to acknowledge the gift.
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