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maybebaby
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Maureen
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Re: Long vent... need advice... want to cry - (now with 2 small updates)
Sorry..edited my reply...i didn't realize you would be past 36 weeks! I originally wrote that 1.5 hours at 36 weeks doesn't seem bad at all, but i now realize you will be later than that. nevermind! good luck!
Message edited 12/12/2010 1:56:20 PM.
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springsandra
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Re: Long vent... need advice... want to cry - (now with 2 small updates)
Posted by maybebaby
Honestly?
I don't mean to discount your feelings at all..you have EVERY right to feel how you feel....but I don't think 1.5 hours is far at all. I wouldn't think twice about it. But that is me.
A lot of pregnant women back and forth to work that late in pregnancy, even later with commute times sometimes being that long.
The chances of you going into labor at 36 weeks is pretty low...and even if you started feeling any twinges of contractions, it would most likely be a while till you had to be at your hospital.
I'm just trying to show another side of it. Yes, things happen...yes there is ALWAYS a chance. But the odds are in your favor and i just don't think 1.5 hours is that long of a drive. If you had written 4 hours i'd feel differently OR if you were 38/39 weeks, but at 36 weeks i think its fine. JMHO.
I'll be 38 weeks Christmas Eve. DH is talking about going there and staying over Christmas eve and staying for a few days when I'll be 38-39 weeks.
I'm just 36 weeks now when I'm trying to make this decision about what to do.
I appreciate your opinion though and am glad to hear that there are people out there who wouldn't be worried about that sort of trip. I'm deathly afraid of hospitals because of an experience in the past, and the idea of possibly having to go to a strange hospital without my doctors makes me super anxious as well.
FWIW, I think I've been losing my mp and have been having lots of extra contractions lately, so the baby may come before then. My mom delivered me at 35 1/2 weeks and my brother at 34 1/2 weeks, which is another reason there's a good chance I'll go before Christmas at 38 weeks. So we'll see!
I talked to my SIL about it yesterday for a while, and she promised no one will resent me if the doctor says I have to stay home. It's a relief to know that.
I'm just going to do what the doctor says.
ETA: Just saw you edited your reply (sorry, sometimes I am just too fast on here!) -- it's too bad we didn't just decide to go out there this weekend instead! Would've made things so much easier! DH is off work the week between Christmas and New Year's so that's when he wants to go out there. We'll see what happens. This whole not knowing when the baby will come is probably the hardest part of the pregnancy so far! 
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| Posted 12/12/10 1:59 PM |
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miamimerger
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Laura
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Re: Long vent... need advice... want to cry - (now with 2 small updates)
I just wouldn't feel comfortable going at all. Period. That's just me though, esp. since this is my first.
However, I can totally see why your DH wants to go. I am SURE I don't have to tell you this at all, but it sounds like his mom had a terrible year health-wise. I am so happy to hear that she's doing better, but I bet there's just that fear of what if it's his last Christmas he can go to his family's house with his mom there. It's probably a hard position for him to be in. If your MIL is able (and happy) to travel, I think it's not too much for your DH to ask her to come up. But I can see both perspectives. I would honestly stand my ground on this one and stay home for the holidays. It's not like you don't want to see your IL's, you just don't want to travel that close to your due date.
Hope everything gets resolved soon  . Let me know if you need to vent more!
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| Posted 12/12/10 2:07 PM |
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JandJ1224
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Jannette
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Re: Long vent... need advice... want to cry - (now with 2 small updates)
Anyway you can stay at a hotel or something? That way you can have some time alone together at night and be more comfortable. I would go because once the baby comes you probably won't be staying over at all.
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| Posted 12/12/10 5:40 PM |
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springsandra
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Sandra
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Re: Long vent... need advice... want to cry - (now with 2 small updates)
Posted by JandJ1224
Anyway you can stay at a hotel or something? That way you can have some time alone together at night and be more comfortable. I would go because once the baby comes you probably won't be staying over at all.
The issue is definitely the distance from my hospital, not staying in the guest room there. But thank you for the idea. It's good to think outside the box, and maybe I can think of some other options along those lines.
We'll probably be going a lot once the baby is here and the weather gets nicer. Ever since we moved here after our wedding, we were going out to their place at least one weekend a month. Once my MIL got sick, we were going every single weekend (probably for about 3 months straight). We've scaled it back recently simply because FIL works on the weekends now. But I imagine we'll probably be there staying over at their house every other weekend starting in the spring like we used to. Not ideal for me, but it's what DH wants and I like for him to be happy.
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Diana1215
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Diana
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Re: Long vent... need advice... want to cry - (now with 2 small updates)
If you wrote this post without the MIL being so sick I would have said that you need to do what makes you feel comfortable BUT the fact that she is so sick makes me think that maybe you should go there (if your doctor allows it)
Most first babies are born late, so keep that in mind also. I drove to a party in the city a few days before my scheduled c-section. 1.5 really isn't that far and first labors can take a VERY long time.
Again, the thought that this could be your MIL's last Christmas is what really concerns me. You don't want to end up not seeing her and having your DH resent you for that in the end KWIM?
Either way, good luck, and ultimately follow what your doctor says!
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NinaLemon
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Jeannine
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Re: Long vent... need advice... want to cry - (now with 2 small updates)
I am sorry you are going through this, I would talk to your Dr first thing tomorrow. With my first pregnancy my dr said after 36 weeks I could not travel more than 1 hour from the hospital. My inlaws are 45 min from the hospital (without traffic) so we did not visit them for Christmas (I was due on Christmas Eve)
ETA: my son was born on his due date, 40 weeks to the day.
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| Posted 12/12/10 7:29 PM |
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KNic19
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Kim
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Re: Thank you for your advice... will update after I talk to the doc tmrw
I'm glad that you two were able to talk it out and he understands where you're coming from now. I think going over for Christmas Eve is a good idea as long as you're feeling up to it, and even play by ear the staying over until Christmas Day. At this point it is all about how you're feeling, which can change constantly.
Let us know what the doc says tomorrow.
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| Posted 12/12/10 11:40 PM |
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MommaBear
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Re: Thank you for your advice... will update after I talk to the doc tmrw
Sandra, I'm coming into this conversation late but I would say if this is about travelling, DON'T do it! I had a delay yesterday out of Charlotte and then we sat on the runway for an hour after landing. It was torture and I'm only 7 months. Whether it be in the car or on a plane, I would not go any long distances!
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