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lvdolphins
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
I always wanted 4  Yes! 4!
I LOVED being pregnant with DS.
It was awesome!
My second pregnancy with DD was so different and I honestly can't go through it again, emotionally
I do have a hard time saying "Im Done", but, we are.
I said to DH I'm happy with 2. Now we can do more (travel, go out, etc) and having another (newborn) won't keep us back.
I do hate when people say "Well, you have your boy and your girl, so, thats good".. Ummmm whether I had 2 boys or 2 girls, I'd still be happy at 2!
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Posted 4/6/11 11:32 AM  |
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
I am perfectly content with one. I don't exactly know for sure when I knew, but I have never in 4 years gotten the urge to have more despite going through every baby pic of DD, going through her baby clothes, holding every baby I could get my hands on...nada.
I love my life and from a financial and emotional POV I know that I would struggle if we had another. I am also 39 now and had some health issues related to my first pregnancy, and those things have also been considerations.
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| Posted 4/6/11 11:37 AM |
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
We have 2 - they'll soon be 5 and 3. We're heavily skewed to the side of being done, but its not 100%.
I just feel like things are getting easier now. They're getting older, they'll both be in school next year. Do I want to go back to full time newborn care? 3 car seats - I don't want a minivan 
And I worry that with 3, someone will always be left out. Since we have a boy and a girl now, they'll be 2 of something, and one different.
I was lucky with 2 easy pregnancies, and 2 great healthy kids. Do I want to push my luck?
None of the above would matter if I really wanted a third, so I guess thats why I think I'm done.
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| Posted 4/6/11 11:49 AM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
I feel the same EXACT way you do!!! I go back and forth.
Can we handle two comfortably? Yes. BUT there is a piece of me that wants a third. At the same time I know I (and we) are not ready right now. DS will be 2 in September which is when we originally planned to TTC #3 but we have put off even thinking about it until next year when DS2 turns 3. And even then I dont know if I'll be ready. I want to go back to school and get "my life back" so to speak. I am still young (only 30) so I feel I have a few years to decide.
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| Posted 4/6/11 11:53 AM |
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twobabies
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
Im 100000% DONE. I have 2 dc. I knew i was done right after i had #2. Two was all dh and i wanted. and now that they are a little older, 6 and 8 years old, i know mentally and physically two is all i would and could ever handle.
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| Posted 4/6/11 11:54 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
Honestly, I don't feel complete with two - don't get me wrong, I adore my two and they are everyting to me, but I always saw myself with 3 or 4.
However, financially we can't afford another for at least 2 more years. And then I'd have to start over with diapers, waking up at night, and then who knows how much we'd be able to save for college, after school activities, vacations... things we are dying to do with our two that having a third would put a "damper" on.
It makes me sad but I am also happy to know that I am well on my way to being able to sleep in on the weekends again
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| Posted 4/6/11 12:05 PM |
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Ophelia
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
I have no emotional desire to have another. and I feel so strange about it. I just don't understand myself sometimes. how I could just be so over the moon in love with my son and being HIS mother....but how I have ZERO and I mean ZERO desire in my heart to be mother to someone else? 
cerebrally it's a different story and I do vascilate a bit. especially since dh said although he'd be happy with 1, he thinks another wouldn't be too bad.
I try to put myself there..but I can't. the switch just won't flip.
I'll be 36 in a little over a month. time is definitely ticking.
but when I think of all we can do...all we can see and do and enjoy and afford and all the joy and love I get every day from my small unit of 3.....I just don't see why I should mess with a good thing.
but I do admit that tiny baby smell...it does and always will melt the cold wasteland of my heart. 
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| Posted 4/6/11 12:11 PM |
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wcs3504
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
I'm preggo with my 2nd... I actually wanted SIX when I met DH. Yes you read correctly SIX kids. Now I would love three. I love being pregnant, I love everything about a newborn (gas, lack of sleep and all) The only thing holding us back would be the financial aspect. DH is fine with two. But I think that I will always in the back of my mind always wonder about the third...
My dad told me when I was preggo with DS#1 that he and my mom contemplated having a third child. But they never tried. And he wonders what life would be like if they did have the third. I never knew this. Although my parents raised a boy (we call him brother and we are his sisters) like he was their son, he wasn't a 'blood' related son. I think more for my dad, he always wanted to try for a boy. I don't want to have this doubt in life. But financially it's whether DH and I can handle the two that we have and a 3rd to the mix. And this is what makes life so difficult. It all boils down to money.
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| Posted 4/6/11 12:15 PM |
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
I just turned 36 my dh is 39 ..this is one factor for me (age) also my dh is out of work so finances are another issue at this time. I am happy with just the three of us it just works well for us. Its my dh who wants another going to have to take a lot of convincing to get me to agree to number 2.
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| Posted 4/6/11 12:19 PM |
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charon54
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
I am expecting my second in June, another boy. I am pretty sure I am done, but not ready to have my tubes tided. I am only 31, so still could have more. Space-wise, we are building an extension on our house, so we could fit three. Financially, we would have to wait until at least one of them is out of daycare because affording child care for 3 would be too much. But I grew up in a family with 3 kids. I don't see much advantage to it over 2 kids. My kids are close in age, and I'll be out of the diaper stage in another 2.5-3 years. They'll be done with high school before I turn 60. I like that thought, it works for me.
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Janice
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
do i sound like miss hannigan if i answer that I just can't imagine another little squeaky voice talking to me all the time??
 it's true. how many stories do i have to hear? questions I am asked. she only babbles now...but her and him together...i can't even form a thought.
dh lead the way with being done.
i am following him.
i don't know if 2 is it for me. 2 pregnancies and infants being nursed...done.
dragging around an infant with me...done.
but i really want to look into a toddler in the coming years. dh is sold on that. i would love to add a child without a family into my good life.
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| Posted 4/6/11 1:16 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
I have twins that we had via IVF. I have had 5 pregnancy losses(1 when the boys were a little over a year old-thought pregnancy mght have "cured" me but I gues not. ) I would LOVE to try for another baby. My husband is DONE. Though he has been known to change his mind...if we did go for it we would have to be heavily invested as we would most likely hav eto do IVf again. If not-we will have to figure out some birth control since I can't keep going through losses/ectopics.
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Goldi0218
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
Im just too friggin old and frankly I have ZERO desire to be pregnant again. Just after I had Jeremy, I told DH that if he wanted to have more kids to get a damn good lawyer because they ain't coming from me.
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MarisaK
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
i'm due w/ #2 in May -
I don't think I can handle more than 2, plus work, plus the house and DH and everything else going on .........
I never wanted more than 2, and I'm not interested in being pregnant again - BTDT twice - that's enough for me.
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Shorty
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
i'm pg with #2 and we're definitely done. *I* was emotionally "done" after 1 - I felt fulfilled. DH always wanted 2. #2 apparently wanted life, because he came out of nowhere. 
Even though everrrryone that hears that it's another boy tells me I'll go for #3 to "get my girl", they're totally wrong. I'm 100% sure this is it for us.
I am not good at being pregnant.
Eta: I'm only 28
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bpmom
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
Posted by Mommy2Boys
I feel the same EXACT way you do!!! I go back and forth.
Can we handle two comfortably? Yes. BUT there is a piece of me that wants a third.
This is exactly how I feel. I wish I felt like I was 'done' but I have terrible baby fever. 
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Kissy331
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
Posted by Mommy2Boys
I feel the same EXACT way you do!!! I go back and forth.
Can we handle two comfortably? Yes. BUT there is a piece of me that wants a third. At the same time I know I (and we) are not ready right now. DS will be 2 in September which is when we originally planned to TTC #3 but we have put off even thinking about it until next year when DS2 turns 3. And even then I dont know if I'll be ready. I want to go back to school and get "my life back" so to speak. I am still young (only 30) so I feel I have a few years to decide.
I'm only 31 myself & like I have said, once I hit 35, I know i am done & that is when I will have my tubes tied. I just have a hard time saying "I'm done" bc I love babies that much. I look at my two boys & know just how special they both are...
Shorty, like you, #2 in our family apparantly wanted to be here since he was a "true" miracle considering I did IVF for #1...
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| Posted 4/6/11 3:31 PM |
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JP826
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
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I am due with #2 in June. We are DONE. Financially, its just all we can do. Our house is not big enough for another child and I, mentally, am just done.
This is exactly the same situation for me.
I cant even imagine a 3rd.. but of course I never know what the future holds. All I know is that, college is expensive. Kids are expensive. In order to give my kids the most I can without sacrificing to the point where I have to lock myself in the house, I have to set my limitations.
If I didn't work full time- maybe.
But I work because I have to & because I want to. Working is all I know. I dont know how Im going to be a FTWM with 2 little ones, but I can only hope that I sustain some sort of balance or else, something's got to give.
Never say never K  You seem like such a great mom. I really DO mean that. And your boys are beautiful.
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bayla
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
I struggle with this. I am done, I know I am done, but why do I get a little sad every time I think shop is closed?? I hate being pregnant and have horrible pregnancies and I have been blessed with easy babies/toddlers. So yes for now we are done. My DH is more done then me though, he wants to sleep again LOL. However, I "think" if I really wanted a 3rd down the road, he may be able to be convinced. I have to say most of the time, I truly do know I am finished. If I had another it would be not be for atleast 2-3 years and at this point I look forward to doing stuff the 4 of us and really dont want to go back to the beginning, esp at that point when they will be older and more independent.
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| Posted 4/6/11 4:33 PM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
When I diagnosed with high blood pressure and had to go off the pill (turns out that the pill was the reason I had the hbp and once off, did not have it anymore).
We had to do something for bc and decided that we were done with 2 kids (had our girl and boy anyway) so my dh had a V.
Financially, mentally, physically we KNEW we were done.
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| Posted 4/6/11 4:40 PM |
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jmf423
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
we are 95% sure we are done. there is a huge part of me that wants another, and an even bigger part of DH that wants another. But 3 is a lot. A lot of work, emotions, money etc. 3 works for us.
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CunningOne
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
Posted by -Lisa-
We have 2 - they'll soon be 5 and 3. We're heavily skewed to the side of being done, but its not 100%.
I just feel like things are getting easier now. They're getting older, they'll both be in school next year. Do I want to go back to full time newborn care? 3 car seats - I don't want a minivan
And I worry that with 3, someone will always be left out. Since we have a boy and a girl now, they'll be 2 of something, and one different.
I was lucky with 2 easy pregnancies, and 2 great healthy kids. Do I want to push my luck?
None of the above would matter if I really wanted a third, so I guess thats why I think I'm done.
Ditto, ditto, ditto! Well, except mine will be 5 and 7 next month!  I just don't see myself starting over. Plus I am creeping up on 40.
We have one of each and are done. I think it took me 3 years to know I was done (when my DD was 3.) It was then that I realized they were independant, potty trained, in school, I was getting a life back, I was going places and doing things I enjoyed. I work a little part time and I am home with them full time. It's a great balance.
I had kidney issues after DD was born and I don't want to risk going through it again with another pregnancy. Plus, DH's recent medical issues have made us look at our whole picture and know we are thankful and complete. 
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Spring Baby06
My two loves
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
I don't feel done, but I have to be done if that makes any sense. I just turned 31 so I feel too young to be done, but we just have to be. I just started sleeping through the night
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TwoGirls4Me
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Re: Those that are done having kids...
Posted by Spring Baby06
I don't feel done, but I have to be done if that makes any sense. I just turned 31 so I feel too young to be done, but we just have to be. I just started sleeping through the night
perfect sense, same here, though weve been sleeping (for the most part) through the night for a while because our girls are 4 and just over 2. We have to be done, I am also 31.
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sweetie101
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