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oneday
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Re: Those that go or church with your kids...
I guess it would depend on how she said it to me. But just reading it, in my mind it sounds like she was more trying to tell you to just let him do what he's going to do and not feel bad about him making a little noise. It's church and kids are kids. Maybe she was saying it judgy, but I guess without being there, I took it as her trying to be kind. 
And I just have to say - nice, people - on a post about how horrible it is that someone is being judged by someone they don't know, let's all judge someone we don't know. *I apologize in advance for the snark, but come on. Lets try to remember, we all have to make it work sometimes, ok?*
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Re: Those that go or church with your kids...
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by DiamondGirl
Posted by tkmommie
Well aren't you all just the best moms, JK! My children go to Catholic school and Church every Sunday and are in the choir and are altar servers. They are attentive in church, but I have seen him pull out his phone and start a game and rushes to hide it as soon as I see him. It's great if you have a 12 yr old kid that does not pull out their phones anywhere that you deem to be disrespectful. I have 3 kids and if I get through a day without trying to choke someone, I call it a success!!! Hey there are times in church when I want to check my phone too!
Hey at least you are AT MASS EVERY SUNDAY. I went every sunday until college, then a couple times a month, once we had kids, we tried and it was so annoying that we totally got out of the habit. Our son is 5 and he is fine in mass at this point (for the most part), my dad takes him quite often. My 2 yr old DD is a terror and the cell phone idea is actully a good one for her, maybe I will try that 
I think the difference is for a 2 year old, or even a 5 year old, the cell phone to keep them quiet is one thing. But a 12 year old should be able to sit for the mass and pay attention and maybe even get something out of it. Otherwise, why bother going?
This, Exactly. HUGE difference between a 2 year old and a 12 year old. If your 12 year old cannot sit and actually listen during Mass for 45 minutes, there is a problem and you are doing something wrong and I do not care if anybody thinks I am judgmental for that. I go to Mass every week and I do not care if little kids cry, talk, fidget, etc...it's more important that they are there and the more they go the more they will get used to it, provided they have parents that try to instill manners. But a 12 years old on a cell phone during Mass? Yeah, no.
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| Posted 6/6/17 9:43 AM |
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shellyru
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Re: Those that go or church with your kids...
Sounds to me like you're doing great!! I bring my 2 girls to church (ages 2 and 7) and some days are better than others. I have snacks (although I encourage my older one to not eat during church since I'm trying to get away from that habit and she's good for the most part), coloring books and quiet toys. Usually we make it but there have been a few times I've had to sneak out. I see it as we're trying our best and that's all we can do.
On a side note, I think the church you go to makes a big difference (and yours seems great). I go to my parent's church bc my girls like to see them and vice versa and it's very kid friendly and fine with kids being a bit noisy and just acting like kids. However, the church where my daughter will actually get her Communion is very strict and so quiet you could hear a pin drop. It's not somewhere I could ever bring my little one that's for sure ...so having a church that makes you and your kids feel welcome and isn't too uptight is a big help too.
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| Posted 6/6/17 9:50 AM |
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FirstMate
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Re: Those that go or church with your kids...
This has nothing to do with church. This has to do with a stranger imposing unsolicited parenting advice. If you wanted it, you would have asked for it. This was not very christian-like of her leaving a mass. MYOB lady.
Not for nothing, but you are bringing your kid to church which, IMO, is the more important thing than how well your child behaves. I give you a lot of credit. I haven't been bringing my 3 because I don't want to deal with the mayhem of keeping all 3 in line. Eventually, kids grow to understand they need to be quiet. I think you do the right thing keeping him busy.
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| Posted 6/6/17 10:16 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Those that go or church with your kids...
Posted by jlm2008
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by DiamondGirl
Posted by tkmommie
Well aren't you all just the best moms, JK! My children go to Catholic school and Church every Sunday and are in the choir and are altar servers. They are attentive in church, but I have seen him pull out his phone and start a game and rushes to hide it as soon as I see him. It's great if you have a 12 yr old kid that does not pull out their phones anywhere that you deem to be disrespectful. I have 3 kids and if I get through a day without trying to choke someone, I call it a success!!! Hey there are times in church when I want to check my phone too!
Hey at least you are AT MASS EVERY SUNDAY. I went every sunday until college, then a couple times a month, once we had kids, we tried and it was so annoying that we totally got out of the habit. Our son is 5 and he is fine in mass at this point (for the most part), my dad takes him quite often. My 2 yr old DD is a terror and the cell phone idea is actully a good one for her, maybe I will try that
I think the difference is for a 2 year old, or even a 5 year old, the cell phone to keep them quiet is one thing. But a 12 year old should be able to sit for the mass and pay attention and maybe even get something out of it. Otherwise, why bother going?
This, Exactly. HUGE difference between a 2 year old and a 12 year old. If your 12 year old cannot sit and actually listen during Mass for 45 minutes, there is a problem and you are doing something wrong and I do not care if anybody thinks I am judgmental for that. I go to Mass every week and I do not care if little kids cry, talk, fidget, etc...it's more important that they are there and the more they go the more they will get used to it, provided they have parents that try to instill manners. But a 12 years old on a cell phone during Mass? Yeah, no.
as an educator I think that this is a huge blanket statement to make, I have 12 yr old students who as a result of different factors would not be able sit through mass. Either way that if YOUR opinion for your kid, who cares if this mom lets her 12 yr old play w his phone? It annoys me so much the HTH replies on here
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| Posted 6/6/17 11:32 AM |
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Michi
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Those that go or church with your kids...
I see plenty of adults looking at their phones in situations when they should be paying attention so a 12 yr old is not the end of the world.
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| Posted 6/6/17 12:27 PM |
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sunnygirl
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Re: Those that go or church with your kids...
Posted by oneday
I guess it would depend on how she said it to me. But just reading it, in my mind it sounds like she was more trying to tell you to just let him do what he's going to do and not feel bad about him making a little noise. It's church and kids are kids. Maybe she was saying it judgy, but I guess without being there, I took it as her trying to be kind.
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Honestly this was my thought. I wasn't there but I don't think she was being mean. I bring my twin girls to church. When they were younger a few times I had people tell me don't worry they are fine. It's okay to make a little noise because they could see me getting flustered when they made noise. It was never a family mass but it is a very family friendly church.
I am also old school and would never let my kids eat or play on a phone in Church even as young as 3 They were allowed to bring one small stuffed animal like a beanie boo
And my kids complain the whole time I'm bored is it over yet. How much longer. But I tell them this is 45 min out of your whole week that you can give to God. You can be a little hungry or bored. Think of all God does for us, we can give him 45 minutes
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| Posted 6/6/17 1:06 PM |
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BargainMama
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Re: Those that go or church with your kids...
Posted by DiamondGirl
Posted by jlm2008
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by DiamondGirl
Posted by tkmommie
Well aren't you all just the best moms, JK! My children go to Catholic school and Church every Sunday and are in the choir and are altar servers. They are attentive in church, but I have seen him pull out his phone and start a game and rushes to hide it as soon as I see him. It's great if you have a 12 yr old kid that does not pull out their phones anywhere that you deem to be disrespectful. I have 3 kids and if I get through a day without trying to choke someone, I call it a success!!! Hey there are times in church when I want to check my phone too!
Hey at least you are AT MASS EVERY SUNDAY. I went every sunday until college, then a couple times a month, once we had kids, we tried and it was so annoying that we totally got out of the habit. Our son is 5 and he is fine in mass at this point (for the most part), my dad takes him quite often. My 2 yr old DD is a terror and the cell phone idea is actully a good one for her, maybe I will try that
I think the difference is for a 2 year old, or even a 5 year old, the cell phone to keep them quiet is one thing. But a 12 year old should be able to sit for the mass and pay attention and maybe even get something out of it. Otherwise, why bother going?
This, Exactly. HUGE difference between a 2 year old and a 12 year old. If your 12 year old cannot sit and actually listen during Mass for 45 minutes, there is a problem and you are doing something wrong and I do not care if anybody thinks I am judgmental for that. I go to Mass every week and I do not care if little kids cry, talk, fidget, etc...it's more important that they are there and the more they go the more they will get used to it, provided they have parents that try to instill manners. But a 12 years old on a cell phone during Mass? Yeah, no.
as an educator I think that this is a huge blanket statement to make, I have 12 yr old students who as a result of different factors would not be able sit through mass. Either way that if YOUR opinion for your kid, who cares if this mom lets her 12 yr old play w his phone? It annoys me so much the HTH replies on here
Obviously if a child has extenuating circumstances, they may not be able to pay attention at mass. I would guess that the majority of neuro typical 12 year olds have the capability of sitting through church for 1 hour without *having* to be pacified by a device in their hand.
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BargainMama
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Re: Those that go or church with your kids...
Posted by sunnygirl
Posted by oneday
I guess it would depend on how she said it to me. But just reading it, in my mind it sounds like she was more trying to tell you to just let him do what he's going to do and not feel bad about him making a little noise. It's church and kids are kids. Maybe she was saying it judgy, but I guess without being there, I took it as her trying to be kind.
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Honestly this was my thought. I wasn't there but I don't think she was being mean. I bring my twin girls to church. When they were younger a few times I had people tell me don't worry they are fine. It's okay to make a little noise because they could see me getting flustered when they made noise. It was never a family mass but it is a very family friendly church.
I am also old school and would never let my kids eat or play on a phone in Church even as young as 3 They were allowed to bring one small stuffed animal like a beanie boo
And my kids complain the whole time I'm bored is it over yet. How much longer. But I tell them this is 45 min out of your whole week that you can give to God. You can be a little hungry or bored. Think of all God does for us, we can give him 45 minutes
Ding ding!
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