Re: To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

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Posted by Kitten1929

Making excuses for his behavior is so typical of LIF. He's a piece of shit, end of story, no two ways about it. I'm so sorry that happened.

Seriously! WTF why are people always looking to make excuses for others? You don't know him, and you weren't there. Just comment on the original post and move on, you're not helping anything.

I think there is a high likelihood that he is just a jerk. However, just like we are saying that no one knows the reasons that a particular person may be overweight because of - the fact is there are many scenarios that could contribute to his behavior as well. Again, he may just be an a-hole but there other common reasons. I am not making excuses but can sympathize because my father had a traumatic brain injury that affected his frontal lobe region. Once he was healed he could drive and function in society however he had no impulse control. Everything he thought he would say - everyone thought he was such a d!ck ( including us at times) but the octors explained that he just could not control it.

I'm not saying that this man had a similar condition but rather that it is possible and common. Imagine if everything you thought in a day was verbalized and you had no control over it...

but why do you care to say that this person MIGHT have a condition? Why cares? The bottom line is he said something unnecessary and mean, whether or not he has a condition is irrelevant to this scenario. She was upset and she said something. End of story

Maybe the Hypothetical Diabetic now has TBI as well?

Well, when you post something online you subject yourself to different opinions people post all sorts of responses on LIF. If we didn't post our opinions on inane things this board would be dead.

I care because I could see my father having done something like that when he was alive. So it hits home with me. My point is you never know what is going on so you should not take it personally . Would I have approached him? Nope! People are crazy and I would never put myself in that position. I feel bad for the OP and I hope that she does not take his comments to heart.

To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

Oh man .. only on LIF does a donut post turn into drama. My only issue is now I want a donut.

To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

People are disgusting. I'm so sorry you had to go through that

Re: To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

Posted by Kitten1929

Posted by Jugglemom

Posted by ElizaRags35

Posted by ModDot

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Posted by Kitten1929

Making excuses for his behavior is so typical of LIF. He's a piece of shit, end of story, no two ways about it. I'm so sorry that happened.

Seriously! WTF why are people always looking to make excuses for others? You don't know him, and you weren't there. Just comment on the original post and move on, you're not helping anything.

I think there is a high likelihood that he is just a jerk. However, just like we are saying that no one knows the reasons that a particular person may be overweight because of - the fact is there are many scenarios that could contribute to his behavior as well. Again, he may just be an a-hole but there other common reasons. I am not making excuses but can sympathize because my father had a traumatic brain injury that affected his frontal lobe region. Once he was healed he could drive and function in society however he had no impulse control. Everything he thought he would say - everyone thought he was such a d!ck ( including us at times) but the octors explained that he just could not control it.

I'm not saying that this man had a similar condition but rather that it is possible and common. Imagine if everything you thought in a day was verbalized and you had no control over it...

but why do you care to say that this person MIGHT have a condition? Why cares? The bottom line is he said something unnecessary and mean, whether or not he has a condition is irrelevant to this scenario. She was upset and she said something. End of story

Maybe the Hypothetical Diabetic now has TBI as well?

Well, when you post something online you subject yourself to different opinions people post all sorts of responses on LIF. If we didn't post our opinions on inane things this board would be dead.

I care because I could see my father having done something like that when he was alive. So it hits home with me. My point is you never know what is going on so you should not take it personally . Would I have approached him? Nope! People are crazy and I would never put myself in that position. I feel bad for the OP and I hope that she does not take his comments to heart.

So no we're supposed to feel sorry for the schmuck for saying something so utterly rude and hurtful?

Re: To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

Posted by Kitten1929

Posted by Jugglemom

Posted by ElizaRags35

Posted by ModDot

Posted by Jugglemom

Posted by ModDot

Posted by Kitten1929

Making excuses for his behavior is so typical of LIF. He's a piece of shit, end of story, no two ways about it. I'm so sorry that happened.

Seriously! WTF why are people always looking to make excuses for others? You don't know him, and you weren't there. Just comment on the original post and move on, you're not helping anything.

I think there is a high likelihood that he is just a jerk. However, just like we are saying that no one knows the reasons that a particular person may be overweight because of - the fact is there are many scenarios that could contribute to his behavior as well. Again, he may just be an a-hole but there other common reasons. I am not making excuses but can sympathize because my father had a traumatic brain injury that affected his frontal lobe region. Once he was healed he could drive and function in society however he had no impulse control. Everything he thought he would say - everyone thought he was such a d!ck ( including us at times) but the octors explained that he just could not control it.

I'm not saying that this man had a similar condition but rather that it is possible and common. Imagine if everything you thought in a day was verbalized and you had no control over it...

but why do you care to say that this person MIGHT have a condition? Why cares? The bottom line is he said something unnecessary and mean, whether or not he has a condition is irrelevant to this scenario. She was upset and she said something. End of story

Maybe the Hypothetical Diabetic now has TBI as well?

Well, when you post something online you subject yourself to different opinions people post all sorts of responses on LIF. If we didn't post our opinions on inane things this board would be dead.

I care because I could see my father having done something like that when he was alive. So it hits home with me. My point is you never know what is going on so you should not take it personally . Would I have approached him? Nope! People are crazy and I would never put myself in that position. I feel bad for the OP and I hope that she does not take his comments to heart.

So no we're supposed to feel sorry for the schmuck for saying something so utterly rude and hurtful?

Re: To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

Well...a lot to respond to here.

First, thanks for all of the support, thoughts, and prayers. Some of you gave me really nice compliments, and I think that is very sweet. Thank you

As for whether this man had dementia or another issue...

Again, I highly doubt it. He drove there and drove away. On top of that, he told me not to be upset. I think that is a rather clear indication he was entirely cognizant of the fact he was making a remark that was potentially upsetting.

I generally do think of what the other person may be going through or what may be afflicting the other individual. In this case, I think it is crystal clear what happened here.

In the worst case scenario, both he and I are suffering from something or another, and we both insulted each other. However, to me, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he was just an asshole.

Re: To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

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Posted by Goobster

Honestly, he sounds like a nut. I don't blame you for rebutting but try not to take it to heart so much. He sounds like a lunatic. Who does that? Sorry you are having such a rough time.

I agree, but people still need to be responsible for what comes out of their mouths.

I work with people with brain damage, many who lack a filter.

While it may be obvious to some there's an issue, mess with the wrong person you really will get that coffee in your face or worse.

To the OP,

Re: To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

i'm just

Re: To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

Re: To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

I don't think anyone on this thread is excusing that douchebags hurtful comment. It's a disgusting thing to say to anyone's face and that man should be ashamed to have said that!!

I also think there is a distinction between "making excuses for someone's behavior" vs offering possible explanations to explain why the man would say such things. The latter is hardly a reason to jump on another poster or claim they are creating drama. As others have aptly noted, there are people who may have a medical condition which would explain hurtful verbal outbursts (Tourette's for instance but clearly not applicable here) but I believe we are all in agreement that this man had no right to say something this mean to the OP. I hope OP kicks his azz if she ever sees him again..

To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

peanutbutter2 - I'm so sorry that happened, and GOOD for you to take matters into your own hands and call him out on his bad behavior.

Last year I was going through extensive cancer treatments, looking like hell and moving more slowly than usual because of everything and a young, well dressed businessman in the line behind me at Stop and Shop made a crack about how slow I was. I apologized and explained that I was in cancer treatment and packing my bags as fast as I could. He responded by snapping, "We all have our problems". Really? Honestly?

When I recovered, I told him as nicely as I could, "That's true, but mine might kill me." He just looked annoyed and sent his purchases crashing down the line into mine. I hope he gets hemorrhoids.

Re: To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

Sunnyflies, I am so sorry that happened to you
That man is a disgrace and truly disgusting.

How are you feeling now?

Re: To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

So sweet of you to ask. I'm doing much better now that all the active treatments are over. They take a lot out of you, as you know with your mother. I look and feel older and am not back to where I was energy-wise which isn't great, but if that's the trade off for getting rid of my cancer, I'll take it So far, so good!

I wish you well with both your parents. Take care of yourself while you take care of them. Stress is not good for you and it sounds like you are carrying a heavy load.

(((hugs))) to you for what you are doing for them.

Re: To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

Posted by sunnyflies

So sweet of you to ask. I'm doing much better now that all the active treatments are over. They take a lot out of you, as you know with your mother. I look and feel older and am not back to where I was energy-wise which isn't great, but if that's the trade off for getting rid of my cancer, I'll take it So far, so good!

I wish you well with both your parents. Take care of yourself while you take care of them. Stress is not good for you and it sounds like you are carrying a heavy load.

(((hugs))) to you for what you are doing for them.

To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

That's awful. I'm so sorry.

Re: To the asshole at Oceanside Dunkin Donuts, I meant what I said.

What an ass hole!!!! You did the right thing.