Re: TTC after MC support thread

Posted by sleepie76

I was just snooping around the pregnancy board and saw a July mommies thread. That would have been me

Re: TTC after MC support thread

Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by sweetdreamz1181

Posted by MetsGirl07

Bumping

how is everyone feeling??

this past weekend i have become and emotional wreck.. all i did when my dh and I were alone was cry.. i usually am a very strong rational person and could handle anything but this time I cant.. since this baby really wasnt planned but once i saw that BFP i knew this was what i wanted and i couldnt wait to give birth.. dh and I werent going to officially start ttc until our 1 yr anniversary and yesterday dh told me that he thinks we should wait till we try again so we are more finincially stable and i think this is making me worse.. on top of it all i know i have not miscarried yet because all i have seen is blood (sorry for the tmi) no clots nothing yet and its been 8 days .. then i have people telling me well it still could be ok you could go back and there will be a heartbeat some people just bleed i just cant take this anymore .. i have never wanted to go to a docs appointment so bad in my life.. wed cant come fast enough.. i know when i get that BFP next time i am not going to tell anyone... bad enough dh and i have to deal with this on our own i have people all day long giving their own opinion and i cant take it anymore sorry for the long post but thanks for hearing me vent

Jackie.. i completely understand how you are feeling.. DH and I are still going through it.. we were not technically "trying" either.. but when i got my BFP , it was such a happy moment.. we were not financially ready either.. but we are going to start trying when we can , regardless of being financially ready.. its too much of a risk to keep waiting and something could be wrong with me.. if i keep having MC or what not.. so why dont you sit down with DH and talk to him about all the possibilities.. that you can MAKE it work!!
and i also said the same thing.. this time when i get my BFP.. im not telling anyone.. it just hurts more when people keep saying things to you , and make dumb comments.. i learned my lesson.

if you ever want to talk .. please dont hesitiate.. we are going through the same thing together!

Message edited 6/3/2008 11:40:31 AM.

Re: TTC after MC support thread

Posted by sweetdreamz1181

Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by sweetdreamz1181

Posted by MetsGirl07

Bumping

how is everyone feeling??

this past weekend i have become and emotional wreck.. all i did when my dh and I were alone was cry.. i usually am a very strong rational person and could handle anything but this time I cant.. since this baby really wasnt planned but once i saw that BFP i knew this was what i wanted and i couldnt wait to give birth.. dh and I werent going to officially start ttc until our 1 yr anniversary and yesterday dh told me that he thinks we should wait till we try again so we are more finincially stable and i think this is making me worse.. on top of it all i know i have not miscarried yet because all i have seen is blood (sorry for the tmi) no clots nothing yet and its been 8 days .. then i have people telling me well it still could be ok you could go back and there will be a heartbeat some people just bleed i just cant take this anymore .. i have never wanted to go to a docs appointment so bad in my life.. wed cant come fast enough.. i know when i get that BFP next time i am not going to tell anyone... bad enough dh and i have to deal with this on our own i have people all day long giving their own opinion and i cant take it anymore sorry for the long post but thanks for hearing me vent

Jackie.. i completely understand how you are feeling.. DH and I are still going through it.. we were not technically "trying" either.. but when i got my BFP , it was such a happy moment.. we were not financially ready either.. but we are going to start trying when we can , regardless of being financially ready.. its too much of a risk to keep waiting and something could be wrong with me.. if i keep having MC or what not.. so why dont you sit down with DH and talk to him about all the possibilities.. that you can MAKE it work!!
and i also said the same thing.. this time when i get my BFP.. im not telling anyone.. it just hurts more when people keep saying things to you , and make dumb comments.. i learned my lesson.

if you ever want to talk .. please dont hesitiate.. we are going through the same thing together!

thanks deanna.. dh actually told me last night that he was really saying it as an idea and doesnt really want to wait so that made me feel much better .. in all reality nowadays no one is ever finically ready with the way prices keep rising on everything and I have the luxury of working from home when I do have the baby so that's a plus for me.. my main concern in waiting was that what if this happens again or something else goes wrong... I was a nervous wreck when I became pregnant because a lot of people I knew went threw miscarriages and problems but everyone kept telling me but your young blah blah nothing is gonna go wrong but i guess i knew deep down that something wouldn't be right... i hope to hear you get your BFP as soon as you start trying again

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Hi ladies...I am beside myself right now...I lost my baby today. I was just 7w3d today An emergency visit to my OB & a sono confirmed that the little pea that we saw just yesterday was no longer there...I just got home from an emergency D&C at Good Sam. I can barely breathe right now - I feel empty & am in shock. I've been reading some of your posts on this thread now, though, and want to thank you all for being here...I have a feeling that I might be posting a lot the next few days

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Posted by jam11308

Hi ladies...I am beside myself right now...I lost my baby today. I was just 7w3d today An emergency visit to my OB & a sono confirmed that the little pea that we saw just yesterday was no longer there...I just got home from an emergency D&C at Good Sam. I can barely breathe right now - I feel empty & am in shock. I've been reading some of your posts on this thread now, though, and want to thank you all for being here...I have a feeling that I might be posting a lot the next few days

Re: TTC after MC support thread

Posted by jam11308

Hi ladies...I am beside myself right now...I lost my baby today. I was just 7w3d today An emergency visit to my OB & a sono confirmed that the little pea that we saw just yesterday was no longer there...I just got home from an emergency D&C at Good Sam. I can barely breathe right now - I feel empty & am in shock. I've been reading some of your posts on this thread now, though, and want to thank you all for being here...I have a feeling that I might be posting a lot the next few days

Re: TTC after MC support thread

Posted by jam11308

Hi ladies...I am beside myself right now...I lost my baby today. I was just 7w3d today An emergency visit to my OB & a sono confirmed that the little pea that we saw just yesterday was no longer there...I just got home from an emergency D&C at Good Sam. I can barely breathe right now - I feel empty & am in shock. I've been reading some of your posts on this thread now, though, and want to thank you all for being here...I have a feeling that I might be posting a lot the next few days

Re: TTC after MC support thread

Posted by jam11308

Hi ladies...I am beside myself right now...I lost my baby today. I was just 7w3d today An emergency visit to my OB & a sono confirmed that the little pea that we saw just yesterday was no longer there...I just got home from an emergency D&C at Good Sam. I can barely breathe right now - I feel empty & am in shock. I've been reading some of your posts on this thread now, though, and want to thank you all for being here...I have a feeling that I might be posting a lot the next few days

Re: TTC after MC support thread

Posted by Rach257

i am so sorry...my heart is absolutely broken for you. i was just reading some of your posts on the PG board yesterday....my god, i am SO sorry.....

Re: TTC after MC support thread

Posted by sweetdreamz1181

I am soo sorry i myself just came back from my appointment for a sonogram and the sac was gone I have to have a d&c tomorrow and im soo upset and scared

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Thanks so much ladies

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I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I also miscarried almost a year ago. It's so painful and heartbreaking and very unfair - but time does heal all.
Be well.

Re: TTC after MC support thread

Posted by jam11308

Posted by sweetdreamz1181

I am soo sorry i myself just came back from my appointment for a sonogram and the sac was gone I have to have a d&c tomorrow and im soo upset and scared

I'm so sooo sorry for your loss - I read about it the other day & you've been in my thoughts and prayers all week

Please don't be afraid of the d&c...the procedure itself was relatively easy (I just feel tired & achy today, but no pain)...it's the emotional aspect of it that I'm having problems with, though. The "why"...the emotional pain You'll make it through ok though and we can work on healing together...please FM me if you need to vent or cry. I'm here for you and I'll be thinking of you tomorrow

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Hi ladies, I can't believe I am typing this, it still doesn't feel real I wasn't going to even look at this site at all anymore after what happened, but after talking with a couple girls on here, I think it is helping me cope......I had to have a D&C last friday. I was 6 weeks. The doctor said there was no heartbeat and the sac that the baby was in had already started to collapse. That was the first appt DH and I went to, we were so excited, only to leave absolutely heartbroken.

We are doing a little better emotionally, they said to try again after I have a normal AF cycle. So, that is what we are gonna do. We are also waiting to tell people next time we get pregnant, we told everyone right away last time, and that is the worst to have to explain what happened over and over again.

Anyway, good luck to all of you

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Posted by Jul1013

Hi ladies, I can't believe I am typing this, it still doesn't feel real I wasn't going to even look at this site at all anymore after what happened, but after talking with a couple girls on here, I think it is helping me cope......I had to have a D&C last friday. I was 6 weeks. The doctor said there was no heartbeat and the sac that the baby was in had already started to collapse. That was the first appt DH and I went to, we were so excited, only to leave absolutely heartbroken.

We are doing a little better emotionally, they said to try again after I have a normal AF cycle. So, that is what we are gonna do. We are also waiting to tell people next time we get pregnant, we told everyone right away last time, and that is the worst to have to explain what happened over and over again.

Anyway, good luck to all of you

Re: TTC after MC support thread

Posted by MetsGirl07


Julie, im so proud of you posting on here! it takes ALOT of courage to talk about it.. you are a strong girl, and i admire that! i feet so terrible for what you have gone through.. i too did NOT want to go on this site anymore, but i am glad that i DID! it really helped me mentally,, after talking to all the girls on here.. everyone is so extremely nice and helpful! we are all here for you!!

hang in there, and we will get through this together!!

Re: TTC after MC support thread

Posted by Jul1013

Hi ladies, I can't believe I am typing this, it still doesn't feel real I wasn't going to even look at this site at all anymore after what happened, but after talking with a couple girls on here, I think it is helping me cope......I had to have a D&C last friday. I was 6 weeks. The doctor said there was no heartbeat and the sac that the baby was in had already started to collapse. That was the first appt DH and I went to, we were so excited, only to leave absolutely heartbroken.

We are doing a little better emotionally, they said to try again after I have a normal AF cycle. So, that is what we are gonna do. We are also waiting to tell people next time we get pregnant, we told everyone right away last time, and that is the worst to have to explain what happened over and over again.

Anyway, good luck to all of you

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Well I saw one of my oldest friends last night & I told her what happened. I hadn't told her that I was pregnant yet, so it was all a surprise for her. I honestly wasn't expecting her to fully understand, as a baby is the last thing on her mind right now, but I was just hoping for a simple "OMG I'm so sorry...do you want to talk about it?"

Instead I was floored when she got a HUGE smile and yelled "Congratulations! You WERE trying!! I KNEW IT!!! I KNEW IT!!! Don't worry about the baby, at least now you know that you can get pregnant!!!" (I've had "female issues" for years, so the possibility of my getting a BFP has always been questionable). Is it me or was that harsh? Congratulations?!? W*T*F?! I'm in tears now thinking about the look of happiness of her face...why would you focus on the happiness of the pregnancy when it's no longer there?! I don't know if I'm going to be able to see her for a while...

And now today is my first day back at work...and I want nothing other than to be home right now curled up on the couch. I can't deal with being here right now

Sorry about the vent...I just needed to get it out

Message edited 6/6/2008 10:48:57 AM.

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Posted by jam11308

Well I saw one of my oldest friends last night & I told her what happened. I hadn't told her that I was pregnant yet, so it was all a surprise for her. I honestly wasn't expecting her to fully understand, as a baby is the last thing on her mind right now, but I was just hoping for a simple "OMG I'm so sorry...do you want to talk about it?"

Instead I was floored when she got a HUGE smile and yelled "Congratulations! You WERE trying!! I KNEW IT!!! I KNEW IT!!! Don't worry about the baby, at least now you know that you can get pregnant!!!" (I've had "female issues" for years, so the possibility of my getting a BFP has always been questionable). Is it me or was that harsh? Congratulations?!? W*T*F?! I'm in tears now thinking about the look of happiness of her face...why would you focus on the happiness of the pregnancy when it's no longer there?! I don't know if I'm going to be able to see her for a while...

And now today is my first day back at work...and I want nothing other than to be home right now curled up on the couch. I can't deal with being here right now

Sorry about the vent...I just needed to get it out

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Posted by MetsGirl07

first of all .. i am soooo sorry you had to deal with that! is she really a good friend of yours.?? cause she really was NOT acting like it!
that is such a rude comment to make, if someone did that to me , i would feel the same way! i am VERY sensitive with this whole MC .. i understand how you are feeling, and this just topped it off

and about the work issue.. i know EXACTLY how you are feeling.. i totally didnt want to go back , and when i did it was sooooo hard for me to even look at my work, and have my coworkers ALL DAY say they are sorry.. all i wanted to do was be at home by myself just watching tv. but it DOES get a little better with time.. i never wanted to believe that, but it does.

i will be here all day if you want to chat some more!! maybe keep your mind off things !

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Posted by jam11308

Posted by MetsGirl07

first of all .. i am soooo sorry you had to deal with that! is she really a good friend of yours.?? cause she really was NOT acting like it!
that is such a rude comment to make, if someone did that to me , i would feel the same way! i am VERY sensitive with this whole MC .. i understand how you are feeling, and this just topped it off

and about the work issue.. i know EXACTLY how you are feeling.. i totally didnt want to go back , and when i did it was sooooo hard for me to even look at my work, and have my coworkers ALL DAY say they are sorry.. all i wanted to do was be at home by myself just watching tv. but it DOES get a little better with time.. i never wanted to believe that, but it does.

i will be here all day if you want to chat some more!! maybe keep your mind off things !

Right?!?! I know that I'm extra sensitive right now, but that was like the worst reaction & thing she could say to me! I just stared at her, mouth wide open with tears in my eyes...I had no words...

4 more hours to the weekend...just trying to hang in there...

Congrats to you again on your other post!!! You must soooo excited! I know that you've been waiting for this!!

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Today is actually 4 weeks exactly since my D&C and I got to work today and someone that I haven't seen at work in a while came up to me and was like, "I heard the good news, your're pregnant" I wanted to die! I hate having to explain when people are just finding out I was pregnant and don't know about the MC. I know it is not their fault, but it just brings it back to the table all over again......I just want to leave work today Sorry...Just needed to vent

Message edited 6/6/2008 12:16:15 PM.

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Posted by hmm12

Today is actually 4 weeks exactly since my D&C and I got to work today and someone that I haven't seen at work in a while came up to me and was like, "I heard the good news, your're pregnant" I wanted to die! I hate having to explain when people are just finding out I was pregnant and don't know about the MC. I know it is not their fault, but it just brings it back to the table all over again......I just want to leave work today Sorry...Just needed to vent

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Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by hmm12

Today is actually 4 weeks exactly since my D&C and I got to work today and someone that I haven't seen at work in a while came up to me and was like, "I heard the good news, your're pregnant" I wanted to die! I hate having to explain when people are just finding out I was pregnant and don't know about the MC. I know it is not their fault, but it just brings it back to the table all over again......I just want to leave work today Sorry...Just needed to vent

ughhh.. the same thing happened to me too ... its the WORST feeling.. i just wanted to cry right then and there. then it kind of ruins your whole day..

i said to myself , then next time i get a BFP i will NOT tell everyone like i did the last time.. then i wont have to deal with it.

honey, feel better.. i know it s u c k s. right now.. but hang in there!!