Re: Unannounced guests

Posted by Bella0701

Posted by Sandy55

Posted by Sweets13

Posted by BriBri2u

Posted by Sweets13

Growing up family and friends always stopped over unannounced and they were always welcomed. The visit would turn into coffee or dinner. My parents loved having people over and still do.

It rubbed off on me because I dont mind unannounced guests at all. My door is always opened.

I do call or text friends before stopping over because not everyone welcomes unnanounced guests the way some others do.

Same here...it doesn't phase me at all and I don't find it rude. My MIL stops over announced whenever she wants to drop something off or just say hi. It doesn't phase me.

Reading some of these responses is amazing. I guess we really are the minority

I just find it amazing that people only clean when they have guests coming over. Really???

I clean "daily" because I can't live in filth. Isn't that why most people clean their homes?

Nope. I do NOT have the time to clean the house every day. Yes I leave the house with my PJ's on the floor and the bed unmade. Besides, what if my hubs and I were and my MIL knocks on the door????

exactly...I don't have the time to clean my house every day either..but I wouldn't say that my house is filthy.

Re: Unannounced guests

Posted by Sweets13

Posted by Bella0701

Posted by Sandy55

Posted by Sweets13

Posted by BriBri2u

Posted by Sweets13

Growing up family and friends always stopped over unannounced and they were always welcomed. The visit would turn into coffee or dinner. My parents loved having people over and still do.

It rubbed off on me because I dont mind unannounced guests at all. My door is always opened.

I do call or text friends before stopping over because not everyone welcomes unnanounced guests the way some others do.

Same here...it doesn't phase me at all and I don't find it rude. My MIL stops over announced whenever she wants to drop something off or just say hi. It doesn't phase me.

Reading some of these responses is amazing. I guess we really are the minority

I just find it amazing that people only clean when they have guests coming over. Really???

I clean "daily" because I can't live in filth. Isn't that why most people clean their homes?

Nope. I do NOT have the time to clean the house every day. Yes I leave the house with my PJ's on the floor and the bed unmade. Besides, what if my hubs and I were and my MIL knocks on the door????

exactly...I don't have the time to clean my house every day either..but I wouldn't say that my house is filthy.

When I say "daily" I mean maintain. Wipe down the kitchen and bathroom. Put things away, etc.

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Can't stand it. Totally rude. It's always intrusive imo.

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No one has ever done this to me

But its beyond rude, you should nip it in the bud asap!

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Posted by Sweets13
I just find it amazing that people only clean when they have guests coming over. Really???

I clean "daily" because I can't live in filth. Isn't that why most people clean their homes?

Message edited 5/23/2011 5:46:53 PM.

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I grew up in an open door policy home myself BUT I can see how someone who is not used to living like this can be annoyed/put off by someone just stopping by.

Message edited 5/23/2011 5:49:43 PM.

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Posted by MamaLeen

Posted by Sweets13
I just find it amazing that people only clean when they have guests coming over. Really???

I clean "daily" because I can't live in filth. Isn't that why most people clean their homes?

I think what most people mean is that their homes are not as clean as they would prefer when a guest comes over (maybe new hand towels, vacuum once more etc,). I doubt it means they live in filth as I am sure most people also can't live like that.

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Posted by Sweets13

Posted by MamaLeen

Posted by Sweets13
I just find it amazing that people only clean when they have guests coming over. Really???

I clean "daily" because I can't live in filth. Isn't that why most people clean their homes?

I think what most people mean is that their homes are not as clean as they would prefer when a guest comes over (maybe new hand towels, vacuum once more etc,). I doubt it means they live in filth as I am sure most people also can't live like that.

thanks for the explanation.

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I think it's something really rude- family or not.

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My house is generally clean ALL the time but I still like to at least straighten up when someone is coming over (even if it's just the tv repair guy!). I could be in the middle of laundry and have my undies on the floor....When DH and I are watching TV, i'm notorious for taking my bra off and just leaving it on the sofa....stupid things like that. It doesn't mean i'm not "clean" or "living in filth" I think that's being a little extreme, I have to shake my head at the comments people make on here sometimes. Not everything is BLACK AND WHITE!

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doesn't bother me at all.

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Posted by AnaMaree77

My house is generally clean ALL the time but I still like to at least straighten up when someone is coming over (even if it's just the tv repair guy!). I could be in the middle of laundry and have my undies on the floor....When DH and I are watching TV, i'm notorious for taking my bra off and just leaving it on the sofa....stupid things like that. It doesn't mean i'm not "clean" or "living in filth" I think that's being a little extreme, I have to shake my head at the comments people make on here sometimes. Not everything is BLACK AND WHITE!

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well its annoying but it will probably die down in the next month or so... my mother did this to my sister when she first had her DD. The first month she dropped by every night! I asked my mom if she thought she may be annoying my sister and she's like,"i'm the grandma! I should be able to see her when I want!" But eventually she stopped going. So hopefully it dies down after a while!

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I dont consider family dropping in as an issue.

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Posted by Sandy55

Posted by Sweets13

Posted by BriBri2u

Posted by Sweets13

Growing up family and friends always stopped over unannounced and they were always welcomed. The visit would turn into coffee or dinner. My parents loved having people over and still do.

It rubbed off on me because I dont mind unannounced guests at all. My door is always opened.

I do call or text friends before stopping over because not everyone welcomes unnanounced guests the way some others do.

Same here...it doesn't phase me at all and I don't find it rude. My MIL stops over announced whenever she wants to drop something off or just say hi. It doesn't phase me.

Reading some of these responses is amazing. I guess we really are the minority

I just find it amazing that people only clean when they have guests coming over. Really???

I clean "daily" because I can't live in filth. Isn't that why most people clean their homes?

Nope. I do NOT have the time to clean the house every day. Yes I leave the house with my PJ's on the floor and the bed unmade. Besides, what if my hubs and I were and my MIL knocks on the door????

Message edited 5/25/2011 11:11:31 AM.

Re: Unannounced guests

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by Sandy55

Posted by Sweets13

Posted by BriBri2u

Posted by Sweets13

Growing up family and friends always stopped over unannounced and they were always welcomed. The visit would turn into coffee or dinner. My parents loved having people over and still do.

It rubbed off on me because I dont mind unannounced guests at all. My door is always opened.

I do call or text friends before stopping over because not everyone welcomes unnanounced guests the way some others do.

Same here...it doesn't phase me at all and I don't find it rude. My MIL stops over announced whenever she wants to drop something off or just say hi. It doesn't phase me.

Reading some of these responses is amazing. I guess we really are the minority

I just find it amazing that people only clean when they have guests coming over. Really???

I clean "daily" because I can't live in filth. Isn't that why most people clean their homes?

Nope. I do NOT have the time to clean the house every day. Yes I leave the house with my PJ's on the floor and the bed unmade. Besides, what if my hubs and I were and my MIL knocks on the door????

Ditto.
As a FTWM, with a DH who works an opposite schedule, I have literally 1/2 an hour to myself each night. (I have actually figured that out to the minute). In that half an hour I can maybe eat a sandwich and not starve to death, or clean my house.
Guess what I chose?
Filth doesn't bother me. Nobody has ever died from an unmopped floor or an unmade bed.
As long as the board of health isn't knocking on my door, I find a clean house to be the least of my worries.
Life is too short.
I just can't be anal like that.

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I find that rude also, and as PP said sometimes I am around my house without a bra or during the summer in short shorts. Sometimes I am going to do laundry and I am dividing the clothes in the middle of my living room or I am siting in my couch folding clothes. I like to have some notice so I can pick up and be dress.

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I don't mind guests at all.
I love when my neighbors knock on my door and come in.

I hate cheerios on my floor...I feel like I am living in a crack house...but those that matter don't mind and those that mind don't matter.

People always came into my mother's house. If I get a welcomed vibe from people, I don't care what their house looks like.

The only thing I am bad about is I never offer anything to drink...we are a water/milk household...so I hate that I only have water to offer.

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As long as I'm wearing a bra, you can come on over.

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I dont mind...

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Don't like when people stop by unannounced. There are just times when I'm not up for entertaining. MIL is famous for this And yes, I like to straighten up before people come in but my house is by no means "filthy". Just want everything put away and dishes done before people come in. It's one thing if someone stops by quickly to drop something off, but not to come in and expect to hang out. I think that's rude.

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I think that's very rude and inconsiderate to to this to you. You both need bonding time with you DD! She should know what having children does her being a mom herself. I understand about keeping family close and all but she should call first. If the shoe was on the other foot I bet she would want you to call first. I would kindly tell DH how you feel. It's not so much to ask to have her call first before coming over. I agree this needs to be nipped in the bud cause the longer it happens it will never get correct.

Glad to hear that DH told her to call first.

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Doesn't really bother me-I need my house orderly for my sake.

I need us to be up and dressed and not in PJs past 9 on most days-just for my own sanity.

If you catch us on a bad day, that's okay-I'll still put up tea and coffee.

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I haven't read all of this thread...but I have read some comments that make me want to respond again...

I don't only clean the house when people are coming over...however, I also don't spend the entire day scrubbing every corner of the home...I will if people are coming by. I'll put the mail away...I'll take my sneakers away from the front door and put them in the closest... I'll straighten out any crooked chairs...

I don't work the typical 9-5 day...so if I'm not all dressed for the day by noon, it's not because I'm a slob...it's because that's my work schedule...

Re: Unannounced guests

Posted by dpli

I am the only person on LIF that doesn't mind a pop-in, I guess.

However, I don't have people in my life that make a habit of it or are super annoying. I really don't care how clean my house is if someone does pop in. If you want the house to be clean, wait for an invitation.