Was this handled correctly???

Dh and I live in a coop on the first floor. We just got new neighbors around thanksgiving/Christmas. Late 20s couple. We never see them. We introduced ourselves when they moved in and barely got a hello, let alone a smile. Whatever. I'm not looking to make friends.

They have been a nightmare. First couple of weekends, music blasting. The first weekend they moved in, music was blasting til 3AM! We let it go. They probably had a house warming. I get it.

Every morning at 5:30-6 am they run down the stairs and slam the door when they leave. Music blasts til 11 to the point where I have to blast my tv. And they drag their dining room chair across the apt. It's so loud !!

I asked dh to speak to them but we kept putting it off. Last night I asked him again and so he knocked on their door. He brought them a pack of furniture felt to put under their chairs.

Dh was nice and told them if they don't mind keeping the music down after 10 because we go to sleep early and to please put the felt under their furniture. The girl was apologetic said she had no idea and that was it.

Well this morning they left the package of felt unopened in my mailbox. Wtf does that mean? "Fk u?"

We haven't heard furniture dragging or music but it's 11 am so they might be at work or sleeping.

Did we handle it correctly??

Was this handled correctly???

I don't think I would have given them felt for their furniture, it's a bit passive aggressive, but you were correct in speaking to them first. Now if they continue to make noise, you can report them to the board. I know in my coop you are supposed to speak to your neighbor first about them breaking the house rules, you did. Now feel free to report them to the board and call the police if need be.

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I think you kinda went too far with the furniture pads. I kinda feel like when you like in an apt, co op etc you have to deal with noise and the chairs is part of it. The music was definitely something I would have talked to them about.

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Is there a rule that a certain % of their floor must be carpeted?

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honestly, i would habe handed them right back to you. i think that was rude.

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He handed them to them nicely. It's wasnt a "here. Use these". We had an extra pack since we just put some under our chairs. There was no hostility on our end. I thought we were being nice and saving them the hassle. Jeeez

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So the first time you brought this up to them you handed them a pack of felt pads? I would find that very rude. I've lived in apartments and condos and I think the noise is just a part of living in that setting.

The music is another issue, they should not have loud music at inappropriate times. That I would say something about or complain to the board.

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Was this handled correctly???

I don't know, I don't think the pads were THAT rude. My guess is the girl showed the guy the pads and he got annoyed. I would just report them to the board if it happens again.

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I can deal with chairs dragging here and there. This is non stop. We have both questioned if they have more sq footage and where the heck they're dragging their chairs to. It goes on for hours.

Whatever it is, we were trying to be nice and save them the trip to the store. If they took it the wrong way, ohwell. we weren't trying to be mean. i think its a d!ck move to return them to us in our mailbox in the middle of the night. Why not speak up right then and there??

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How were we passive aggressive ? We had an extra pack. Dh told them (they were both there) that we just put them on our chairs not only for noise but for scratching the wood.

Dh said they have carpet and it's just a small dining area. So they are following the rules. We just can't understand how and why anyone would drag their chairs so frequently. Like, where are you going!?!!!!

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You didnt mean to be rude but you dont have that type of relationship with them, so I can see why her Dh would have take it as passive aggressive and rude. But what's done is done.

Next time report the music to the Co-op board. If you want to clear the air, perhaps have Dh talk to her DH and say that he didnt mean it as rude and presented it as much. But it depends on the type of people they are.

Eta; Oh i saw they were both there, so cancel the second conversation.

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Was this handled correctly???

speaking to them was a great idea. I don't doubt when your husband handed them the felt, he did it with malice, but from their end it might of come of as rude. I might have taken it and used or might now. For me it might have depended on my mood that day. You did state you don't know them well. See how it goes, you made the first move. Good luck

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Yes, I think that's what it means. Maybe they need to get different felt for the size of their chairs, but probably not. I don't think you were wrong to talk to them. It was a good try. If they break the noise rules, I would report them.

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They're up from their slumber. Chair dragged but not anywhere as bad as the last few months. It's their first time living on their own so they are clueless. We have been nothing but nice to them. Bringing in huge furniture packages when ups would leave them out in the rain, introduced ourselves, shoveled for them. Been PATIENT when they want to turn up til 3am. Anyone else would've exchanged words by now. If they took it the wrong way, it has everything to do with their ego. Dh approached them with kindness and offered a solution on the spot.

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Agree with MsSissy, try not to take the felt return as anything. It might be hard but keep it friendly. You never know what might be going on in their life. If you see them I would smile and wave. They might feel embarrassed having a neighbor say something, plus hand them felt. You might end up as great friends :)

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I can be a ***** and blast MMMbop when they're asleep. I can be petty, too. I doubt it'll come to that.

As for the felt not being the right size, the package had two page squares where you cut them to fit. Ohwell.

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my initial thought was that maybe they felt bad and bought their own felt pads and wanted to give you yours back. if you haven't heard the furniture, maybe they put their own felt pads on

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Was this handled correctly???

I think what you did was fine. Hopefully they just didn't know that you could hear them with the music and chairs and such. if you never lived above someone before it is a bit of a learning curve to realize that what your doing inside your apartment effects those directly around/below you. I personally think they may have been embarrassed and are buying their own felt pads and gave you yours back so it didn't look like they "needed" that from you. You were much nicer than i would have been!

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Just how you are offended that they gave you the felt back; you could somewhat understand how they could've been offended when they were handed over the felt; whether it was done nice or not.

You did what you needed to do. See what happens over the next few days. Maybe they had their own remedy and decided to give them back to you.

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