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Yeah, the is pretty ballsy. I personally agree with BJ, and would find the BIGGEST box I could find and put a check in there. People have no class.

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I always give $$ but this to me is tacky.

Coupled with the fact that SHE gave you a boxed gift infuriated me.

I would give her a GC to a store it isn't a box afterall

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Wow that is tacky to put on an invitiation.
I wanted cash too, but you get what you get.
So rude to print that on an invite.

SOOOO TACKY!

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I would give them nothing.

Totally rude and proves that their wedding was a fundraiser.

Absolutely inappropriate.

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I would absolutely not give them a check at all. I'd buy something off the registry and have it shipped to their house.

I know it's the "NY" thing to do ("cover the plate"), but to be so blatant about it is disgustingly greedy. And really, what is so wrong about giving a tangible gift instead of money? When did that become unacceptable? It seems more and more couples expect to receive cash and turn their noses up at actual gifts.

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Disgusting and tacky as hell. I would probably buy a gift from their registry and have it sent to their house just to teach them a lesson.

My dad got a wedding invite and it actually had a separate card that said "Your present is gift enough, but if you decide to give one, please give cash only."

W T F!?!?

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I don't care what the reasoning was for writing it, dictating what type of gift a guest should bring is rude, period.

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I personally am not bothered by it because people do some really strange things when it comes to weddings that I can't even understand, but if I felt like being spiteful I'd bring a boxed gift.

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While I don't like the wording "No Boxed Gifts!" I do understand that they may just not want to bring a lot of large gifts home with them. I don't think it necessarily implies that they are demanding cash.

However, I think it would have been nicer to include a little card, separate from the invite, to gently and nicely remind people to ship any large packages to their home.

The wording on the invite is what makes it tacky, IMO (I know, I know, you all hate that word ).

If I saw that on an invite I would gossip about it with my friends and then give them what I had originally planned.

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WOW.

I'd send a registry gift to her house!

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Posted by queensgal

Just go with a gift bag

I think it's tacky, just my opinion.

Is this wedding in the NY area? If so, I think this is very tacky as most people give cash anyway...I just don't think you should specify on your invitation how you want a gift to be given. You shouldn't invite people with the expectation of anything in return. JMO

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just to spite them i'd probably put the envelope in a box and wrap it.

i can't stand when people TRY to be polite about saying cash only please. granted we didnt register for our wedding only because we already lived together for 2 years and i didnt want a bridal shower but we never put "no boxed gifts" on our invites. we accepted all gifts with smiles on.