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Sixofus
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Re: What are your thoughts?
I would choose another hospital!
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Melmel821
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Re: What are your thoughts?
I think they are encouraging the babies to stay in the room for bonding and if the mother is nursing.
I know I wanted DD in the room with me.
I completely understand needing rest regardless of type of delivery. Especially second time + moms.
If you really need some rest before going home I can't imagine they wouldn't let the baby stay in the nursery.
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| Posted 11/21/13 6:57 AM |
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lynnd126
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Re: What are your thoughts?
With ds1 I had a lot of pain and they were basically forcing muscle relaxers down my throat every time I asked for a Tylenol. I was literally high. I gave the baby back once bc I felt like I was going to nod off and drop him. I think I would have cried if that wasn't an option.
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| Posted 11/21/13 7:34 AM |
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RSquared0907
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What are your thoughts?
DD roomed in with me and that's what I wanted, but I do think that you should have the choice.
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| Posted 11/21/13 8:09 AM |
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ali120206
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What are your thoughts?
If she wants him brought to the nursery, I would ask a different nurse.
The hospital I delivered at in NJ was this way when I had DS 2 (I had both boys there and it changed in between). I delivered him at 7:30 at night, basically had been up 24 hrs, was exhausted, DH was going home and I was told the baby was going to stay with me. Another nurse came in and I explained my situation. She was so nice and said it wasn't a problem and he spent the night in the nursery so I could have some time to recover. It shocked me because they couldn't take DS 1 fast enough (he came at 9:10pm at night).
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| Posted 11/21/13 8:18 AM |
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ABCiverson
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Re: What are your thoughts?
I have given birth in 3 different hospitals, 4 times. 2 hospitals in California and 1 in Arizona. None of the hospitals even had a nursery(except for NICU). My babies never left my sight. Even if the nursery was an option I would never let them leave my side anyways.
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| Posted 11/21/13 8:46 AM |
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mrsboss
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What are your thoughts?
The hospital I delivered at (in FL) also discouraged having the baby brought to the nursery. In fact, there really wasn't a nursery. I didn't sleep once in 2 days+ I was there. Thank god DH I had my own room and DH stayed over with me.
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| Posted 11/21/13 9:05 AM |
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jams92
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What are your thoughts?
i would pick another hospital! did she tell them to take the baby to the nursery at any point while she was there?
when i went to the hospital tour at LIJ i was told they ahve a "room in" policy and they want the babies with the moms at all times. but when dd was actually born they had no problem having her in the nursery over night
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| Posted 11/21/13 9:07 AM |
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evenedan
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Re: What are your thoughts?
I think it's a terrible policy based much more on cost-cutting than on mother-child bonding.
I had a C-section at Winthrop a year ago and I really didn't sleep for three days afterwards. They gave me the hardest time about keeping the baby in the nursery for even a short time. Finally on night two of no sleep I started sobbing to one of the nurses in the middle of the night, I just had surgery and hadn't slept in two days and the baby wouldn't stop crying. The nurse agreed to take her into the nursery but brought her back 45 minutes later. I remember feeling all kinds of sorry for myself, like how's it possible i just had major surgery and nobody is helping me?! I really felt like I got zero support from the nursing staff. By the time I was discharged (and I chose to leave a day early because it was so miserable there) I had the worst migraine of my life and was a total zombie.
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JSDB
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Re: What are your thoughts?
I delivered at NYU and they strongly recommended having baby room in with you, which was what I wanted to do and did do. But they still offered the option of sending baby to the nursery. I think you should have the choice. In fact, my roommate's baby screamed 24/7 literally to the point that the nurses recommended they put the baby in the nursery the second night so everyone could try to get some sleep.
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| Posted 11/21/13 9:25 AM |
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nycgirl
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Re: What are your thoughts?
They probably make exceptions...
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| Posted 11/21/13 9:25 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by ourhappysurprise2012
That's ridiculous...so sick of "entities" telling women how to act and what to do!
Yep.
BS if you ask me.
I was paying a ton of money for a private room- and I wanted my last 2 nights of sleep before i came home to 3 years (so far) of sleepless nights.
I had just given birth...cut me a break.
And what about mom's who had C Sections and couldn't move around well.
For God's sake the woman just had MAJOR abdominal surgery- give her a freaking break!
And this bonding stuff is BS- you have your WHOLE LIFE to bond with your child- having them away from you so you can get a few hours sleep the first 2 days isn't going to create a sociopath.
Jeez.
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| Posted 11/21/13 9:29 AM |
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dlj97
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What are your thoughts?
I see nothing wrong with it. It is YOUR baby after all - why should someone else take care of them? Obviously if you are medically unable to I feel differently.
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| Posted 11/21/13 9:35 AM |
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isabelle2137
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Re: What are your thoughts?
I had two babies at Winthrop via c section. My first baby was in the NICU, so no nursery questions there. Two years later, my second baby arrives and the nurses were downright nasty to me about leaving my baby overnight. I'm sorry, but I know first hand how dangerous sleep deprivation is. If a patient is telling you they need to rest, that's the end of the discussion. I still think Winthrop is a great hospital, but the mentality over there sure has changed. And not for the better.
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Cacarina
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by lcherian
I'm interested in knowing the basis for the policy. Is there some type of psychological benefit for the baby?
Honestly, my guess is it is a cost saving measure. Less nurses needed in the nursery to feed/care for the babies...
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| Posted 11/21/13 9:38 AM |
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Cacarina
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by secretlyTTCagain
I delivered at NYU and they strongly recommended having baby room in with you, which was what I wanted to do and did do. But they still offered the option of sending baby to the nursery. I think you should have the choice. In fact, my roommate's baby screamed 24/7 literally to the point that the nurses recommended they put the baby in the nursery the second night so everyone could try to get some sleep.
I delivered at NYU as well and I had the same experience. It was encouraged that she stay in the room, but when I was ready to lose it in the middle of the night, the nurse took her with no problem and let me sleep for a few hours. I also had a roommate baby who cried all night and it sucked.
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EricaAlt
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by Cacarina
Posted by secretlyTTCagain
I delivered at NYU and they strongly recommended having baby room in with you, which was what I wanted to do and did do. But they still offered the option of sending baby to the nursery. I think you should have the choice. In fact, my roommate's baby screamed 24/7 literally to the point that the nurses recommended they put the baby in the nursery the second night so everyone could try to get some sleep.
I delivered at NYU as well and I had the same experience. It was encouraged that she stay in the room, but when I was ready to lose it in the middle of the night, the nurse took her with no problem and let me sleep for a few hours. I also had a roommate baby who cried all night and it sucked.
See, I can see encouraging the baby to stay in the room. That doesn't bother me. Only if you have your own room. I delivered at LIJ and had a roommate that had the baby in the room the entire time and he cried all night. In NJ they didn't have the nursery, but I had the room to myself.
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Posted by dlj97
I see nothing wrong with it. It is YOUR baby after all - why should someone else take care of them? Obviously if you are medically unable to I feel differently.
So when you got home you took care of your baby all day and all night everyday? That's ridiiculous. We moved into our new house the same weekend DS was born (he came early) so my husband spent the 2 days I was in the hospital painting and getting the house ready. I had NO ONE to help me at night, and most of the day I was on my own. I was exhausted - and I don't think I brushed off my responsibility for bring him to the nursery for 5 hours so I could sleep.
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Dee0522
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by NervousNell
Yep.
BS if you ask me.
I was paying a ton of money for a private room- and I wanted my last 2 nights of sleep before i came home to 3 years (so far) of sleepless nights.
I had just given birth...cut me a break.
And what about mom's who had C Sections and couldn't move around well.
For God's sake the woman just had MAJOR abdominal surgery- give her a freaking break!
And this bonding stuff is BS- you have your WHOLE LIFE to bond with your child- having them away from you so you can get a few hours sleep the first 2 days isn't going to create a sociopath.
Jeez.
Amen!
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NervousNell
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by Cacarina
Posted by lcherian
I'm interested in knowing the basis for the policy. Is there some type of psychological benefit for the baby?
Honestly, my guess is it is a cost saving measure. Less nurses needed in the nursery to feed/care for the babies...
Ding ding ding!
It's ALL about money. Always.
It's all business.
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| Posted 11/21/13 9:58 AM |
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Jenn627
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Re: What are your thoughts?
I'd be upset that I couldn't send the baby to the nursery, then I'd feel guilty for feeling upset, then I'd embrace it. 
eta: I also think the mentality of "you should have to do it all on your own" is complete bulllshit. IT TAKES A VILLAGE.
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| Posted 11/21/13 10:00 AM |
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mnmsoinlove
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Re: What are your thoughts?
After my second dd was born I was violently sick vomiting non stop for hours following my csection. The nurse who was on at night was so annoyed my dh asked the nurse to put the baby in the nurse for a few hours so I could rest or at least throw up without the baby. I wanted to hold and bond with my dd but I was so sick I couldn't. I was really sick and I couldn't believe how they actually expected me to care for a newborn while throwing up. I don't think the nurses really want to do that much anymore.
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MrsA714
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by GoodThoughts
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Can you tell us what hospital this was?
Richmond University Medical Center on Staten Island.
I had a friend deliver there a few weeks ago and she didn't mention this. I know she was able to send the baby to the nursery when she wanted to rest. From what I understand, many hospitals are encouraging mothers to keep the baby with them at all times but it's not mandatory. I don't think it's a bad thing at all to encourage this but if mom needs time to rest she should be able to.
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dlj97
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by ourhappysurprise2012
Posted by dlj97
I see nothing wrong with it. It is YOUR baby after all - why should someone else take care of them? Obviously if you are medically unable to I feel differently.
So when you got home you took care of your baby all day and all night everyday? That's ridiiculous. We moved into our new house the same weekend DS was born (he came early) so my husband spent the 2 days I was in the hospital painting and getting the house ready. I had NO ONE to help me at night, and most of the day I was on my own. I was exhausted - and I don't think I brushed off my responsibility for bring him to the nursery for 5 hours so I could sleep.
I pretty much did. I EBF both of my DDs and therefore had to be up to nurse them around the clock. If I had to get up to nurse anyway I saw no sense in waking DH to change a diaper when I could do it myself.
And most people have their DH stay with them in the hospital. I get that that can't always be the case.
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| Posted 11/21/13 10:44 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by Cacarina
Posted by lcherian
I'm interested in knowing the basis for the policy. Is there some type of psychological benefit for the baby?
Honestly, my guess is it is a cost saving measure. Less nurses needed in the nursery to feed/care for the babies...
I agree, when we took the tour of NSUH they "encouraged" this
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