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MrsBumbleb
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what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
It would be at my house (25 miles one way from her house), 3 kids (4, 2.5, 1) for about 40 hours a week.
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Posted 2/21/10 9:09 PM  |
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luckyinlove
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
Honestly, nothing -- I don't think you should have to pay their grandmother to watch her grandchildren. Unless of course the arrangement is more for her financially than it is for your benefit. I just think it is awkward. My mother watches my DD and if I ever offered to pay her, she would be insulted. JMHO
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| Posted 2/21/10 9:12 PM |
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ChilisWife
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
I was going to agree that you shouldn't have to pay her anything, but then I read that you have THREE really young kids and it would be FORTY hours per week. Wow, you are lucky she is willing to do it...I'd definitely pay her but I have no idea what. I know nannies get $10 - $15/hour.
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| Posted 2/21/10 9:17 PM |
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sal79
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
i dont know, but are you sure she's up to it? thats a lot. maybe, instead of paying her directly, you can hire someone to help out? does she want the money?
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| Posted 2/21/10 9:19 PM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
Posted by luckyinlove
Honestly, nothing -- I don't think you should have to pay their grandmother to watch her grandchildren. Unless of course the arrangement is more for her financially than it is for your benefit. I just think it is awkward. My mother watches my DD and if I ever offered to pay her, she would be insulted. JMHO
i agree. my mom will be watching 2 under 2 full time and refuses to accept anything. she's looking forward to it and loved watching DS when DD wasn't born yet. i don't think it matters whether it's 1, 2 or 3 kids
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| Posted 2/21/10 9:20 PM |
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Dani77
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
I agree with the PPs... my MIL will be watching my DS once I get a job again... but she already watches her 2 granddaughters...one is 6 the other 4. She already volenteered to watch DS for us....she always wanted a grandson... but she's still nervous about caring for a newborn lol
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| Posted 2/21/10 9:27 PM |
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cjb88
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
my MIL also loves watching DD and cant wait to have DS too! However, I do know people whose parents have quit their job so they can watch the grandchildren, because the couple would have been paying more for childcare then the grandparent's take home salary, and they couldnt affford to go without the salary, so i think it really does depend on the situation and what everyone can afford.
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| Posted 2/21/10 9:28 PM |
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Palebride
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
My father watches Lily for us full time.
He was retired before she arrived, but had a small part-time job that he gave up to watch her. So we pay him the money he made with that job. It's not a lot of money....but we appreciate all that he does for Lily and want to make sure he's compensated for it.
I see nothing wrong with paying a grandparent to watch your child(ren) full time. It's not an occasional night of babysitting....it's a full time job!
I would suggest talking to her to see what she would like...
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| Posted 2/21/10 9:29 PM |
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NinaLemon
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
Posted by cjb88
my MIL also loves watching DD and cant wait to have DS too! However, I do know people whose parents have quit their job so they can watch the grandchildren, because the couple would have been paying more for childcare then the grandparent's take home salary, and they couldnt affford to go without the salary, so i think it really does depend on the situation and what everyone can afford.
I agree, although it would be nice if everyone could do it for free, 40 hours with 3 kids is a lot. My parents don't expect to be paid when they watch DS, but at the same time they would not do full time daycare either.
I am sorry I don't know what a good rate is, but I don't want you to think you should feel bad about paying your parents to watch DC.
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| Posted 2/21/10 9:32 PM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
Maybe $250-300 per week???
I really dont know...especially for 3 kids, 40 hrs/week what the going rate is. I was thinking $50 a day.
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| Posted 2/21/10 9:33 PM |
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Candy Girl
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
Those of you with Moms, Dads and in-laws who watch your kids full time for free have no idea how lucky you are.
My Mom is severely disabled, my dad is dead and both of of in-laws are gone as well. I had to go back to work when DD was 10 weeks old and I hired my sister. She drove 10 miles to my house every morning and was there before 8. She left at 4:30 or 5 when i got home and then went to nursing school. We paid her a living wage--450 a week. If she could do it for free, she would have, but she needed to survive too. It was very reassuring to have her there when DD was so young rather than a Nanny, which I personally wasn't comfortable with.
Anyway, a 25 mile commute, three kids and 40 hours a week deserves some sort of compensation, even if it's a gift card for a bi-weekly massage/facial at a nice spa!
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| Posted 2/21/10 9:59 PM |
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maybesoon
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
I didn't pay my inlaws, but they are well off, I only had 1 DC and I dropped him off every day. not sure what you should be paying her, maybe 200 / week? she will be spending gas $ to get to your house, 50 milies per day,
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| Posted 2/21/10 9:59 PM |
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Mkr09
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
Yea I would say $250-$300 a week. We offered my ILs money to watch DD#1 and now they will be watching both our DDs when I go back to work in May....they would not take it.
I would say offer what you feel comfortable with and see what she says.
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| Posted 2/21/10 10:05 PM |
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alisha
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
Wow I am surprised so many of you say nothing.
I would pay my MIL to take care of my three kids FT - it is hard work regardless of whether or not she is their grandmother!
My sister takes care of DD and I pay her what I would pay for a FT day care. She comes to my apt everyday and stays late whenever we ask. It is like I have a nanny for half the price.
I also keep a stocked fridge for her.
Luckily we are in a financial position to do that; if we weren't I would still pay her something that I can afford. Or compensate her in another way (vacations, other big ticket items).
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| Posted 2/21/10 10:16 PM |
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MrsRivera
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
Sit down and ask her what she thinks is fair. My guess is, you won't wind up paying her as much as you would an outside nanny. BUT, she definitely deserves SOMETHING for watching them f/t.
My mom watches DD for me just a few hours a week while I tutor. She has offered to watch my DD and my DS (coming in June) for me so I can go back to work next year. I said no, because she waited all this time to be retired not so that she could become a mom again! But if she DOES watch them a few days a week, you'd better believe I'll be paying her. Yes, they are her grandchildren, but it's a TOUGH job, no matter how much we both love them!
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| Posted 2/21/10 11:43 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
We always paid my mom $10 an hour but that was PT for 1 kid.
My MIL will only take $5 an hour for both my kids since DD is usually at a friend's house or at school. I'm sure if her and FIL weren't retired she wouldn't take anything.
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| Posted 2/22/10 12:03 AM |
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Sunday
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
Posted by cjb88
my MIL also loves watching DD and cant wait to have DS too! However, I do know people whose parents have quit their job so they can watch the grandchildren, because the couple would have been paying more for childcare then the grandparent's take home salary, and they couldnt affford to go without the salary, so i think it really does depend on the situation and what everyone can afford.
ITA. If I wanted my mom to watch my kids this would be the exact situation- she only works for about $350 a week, so it would be nice for her to "switch" to babysitting but I would not feel right about her just quitting and doing it for free when I know she needs that $.
My DH's mom, on the other hand, is 10 years older than my mom and would never want to get paid for sitting but she would be retired and in a financially different place.
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| Posted 2/22/10 1:22 AM |
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LifeIsGood77
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
My mom will be watching DD (9 weeks now) for full weeks and I am paying her $225 a week. I'm paying her becuase she gave up looking for a part time job so she could be with DD instead. Also, I'm giving her a little more than half of what we were going to pay a nanny for 4 days a week. She;s helping me, I'm helping her to have some money to cover the gap. I know that she wishes she could do it for free, but it's just not possible.
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| Posted 2/22/10 7:38 AM |
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
40 hours a week for 3 kids is a MAJOR commitment. She could be working at a job FT.
There is no way I could not pay her for that many hours/kids.
I think $300 is the minimum I would pay her.
If she refuses, it's one thing but I could never take for granted the amount of work it will be for her and assume it would be free.
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| Posted 2/22/10 7:39 AM |
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A3CM
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
i would say about 300+ a week.
that is a 50 mile RT on gas and wear and tear on the car.
if she refuses the money at least offer to pay her for her gas & meals each week
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| Posted 2/22/10 7:51 AM |
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butterfly20
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
Posted by mommyonli
i would say about 300+ a week.
that is a 50 mile RT on gas and wear and tear on the car.
if she refuses the money at least offer to pay her for her gas & meals each week
ita.
our 1 ds daycare is 275 a week so 300 for 3 kids would be a good fanily deal.... if she doesnt want $ then offer the gas money.
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| Posted 2/22/10 7:56 AM |
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
Thank you all for your responses. We are in a tough spot. MIL does not have a job and needs money. We need cheaper child care. What seems like an easy solution really isn't. She thinks she should get paid close to (actually used to want the same amount) what we pay for our child care which I think is soooooo nervy. I understand in a perfect world grandparents would watch their g-kids for the pure joy but that's just not the case. She would be driving a long distance every day and would work long hours so I think she deserves to get paid. We were thinking about 325.00 a week. I'm sure she'll want more.
DH is really on board with this more so than me. I personally don't think DH realizes what a HUGE commitment it would be and how exhausting it would be for a 61 year old woman to do this job. I also have concerns about my 4 year old who has been in child care since 3 months old. He is so used to the structure, socialization and academics now that I don't think she could provide him with that environment. As I'm typing this I have all these reasons why I'm thinking this is not the best solution. Since all of my paycheck was going to child care I'm thinking maybe I'll build a little nest egg and then stay at home myself.
I"m really just babbling so if you got this far thanks for listening!
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| Posted 2/22/10 8:01 AM |
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DRMom
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
Posted by Palebride
My father watches Lily for us full time.
He was retired before she arrived, but had a small part-time job that he gave up to watch her. So we pay him the money he made with that job. It's not a lot of money....but we appreciate all that he does for Lily and want to make sure he's compensated for it.
I see nothing wrong with paying a grandparent to watch your child(ren) full time. It's not an occasional night of babysitting....it's a full time job!
I would suggest talking to her to see what she would like...
ITA-and we're not talking a few hours a week here. This is a full time job! Plus mileage every day. I would say $8-10. Not as much as you would pay a pro but enough to make a difference.
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| Posted 2/22/10 8:03 AM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
I can't believe she is requesting a certain amount of money!!
I agree with PP's nothing but moving forward I would say $200-$250 and that is being generous. IMO.
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| Posted 2/22/10 8:11 AM |
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babymakes3
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Re: what is a fair price to pay your MIL to watch your kids?
I would say about $10-12 an hour. It's tax free too so she has to remember that she's retaining it all. And it's still cheaper than 2 kids in daycare.
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