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HeathKernandez
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
I give 300 for family members.. For a co worker, I'd probably give 200.
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
I'm not into the "cover your plate" theory either. Some halls are over $200 a head now....to me the gift is based on how well I know the person, not the luxuriousness of their event.
We got back much less than we spent on our wedding but we never expected anything more!
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| Posted 10/9/08 3:51 PM |
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OStewarts
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
$300.
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| Posted 10/9/08 4:06 PM |
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Luv2bAmom
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
Posted by HeatherRose
are you talking cash as a gift or an actual present??
depending on how well we know the couple we give any where from $200-$300+ for the 2 of us. (i figure that 200 is the minumim to cover the plates)
I agree, DH & I never give less than $200
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| Posted 10/9/08 4:14 PM |
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Aries14
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
no less then $200
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| Posted 10/9/08 4:14 PM |
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VirginiaDeb
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
We usually give $200.
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| Posted 10/9/08 4:44 PM |
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
Posted by KellyFG
I'm not into the "cover your plate" theory either. Some halls are over $200 a head now....to me the gift is based on how well I know the person, not the luxuriousness of their event.
We got back much less than we spent on our wedding but we never expected anything more!
ITA! It's not my problem if the couple went all out and then expect their guests to cover their plate if it's $200+. We usually give $200-$300 as a couple. We give more for really close friends and family.
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| Posted 10/9/08 4:51 PM |
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DancinBarefoot
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
IMHO, a cash gift should never exceed what you can afford.
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| Posted 10/10/08 9:02 AM |
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kahlua716
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
Posted by LaurenExp
$200 to co-workers, not close family, distant friends
$300 to close friends
$500 to close family
ITA
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| Posted 10/10/08 9:05 AM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
i always give $250
if DH or I am in the wedding then we give more.. 
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| Posted 10/10/08 9:36 AM |
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Faithx2
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
Posted by Jenn627
Posted by bluegreen08
$250 is a nice gift. $300 is a generous gift
IMO
I agree...
I agree as well
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| Posted 10/10/08 9:38 AM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
I base what I give on how well I know the couple, not how much they are most likely paying for the wedding.
Typically, it's $200 for a couple we hardly know or are not close with, $300 for close friends, not so close family etc. $500 for close family. But honestly, you give what you can afford. My cousin AND my best friend are getting married next summer and Ava is the flower girl in both weddings, plus we have to fly to California for one of the weddings, so there's no way we can do $500 as a gift for both weddings. It's just the way it is.
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| Posted 10/10/08 9:45 AM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
Posted by bluegreen08
$250 is a nice gift. $300 is a generous gift
IMO
This is what I always give. I try to buy back the price of the plate.
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| Posted 10/10/08 12:21 PM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
Posted by Mikismom
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Understandable about wanting to cover plate.. but if shes paying $150.. I cant see expecting people who barely know you to pay $300...
I do not, and never have bought into the whole "cover your plate" thing....a wedding is not a fund raiser, give what you can afford and to be honest, unless I was VERY close with a co-worker, I would decline the wedding invite all together
Steph, I seriously heart you! I agree with you word for word.
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| Posted 10/10/08 12:24 PM |
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JenBenMen
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
I just gave $350 to co-workers but they are also good friends of mine outside the office
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| Posted 10/10/08 12:45 PM |
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ThePinkGoose
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
The minimum I give if attending as a couple is $300. After knowing how expensive my wedding was, I would feel bad giving anything less. If I couldn't afford it, I would decline the invitation. However, this is just my opinion.
At our wedding, we had people that gave less and people that gave alot more. It just depends on the person.
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| Posted 10/10/08 12:54 PM |
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roxygrl8
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
i just went to a co-workers wedding at Westbury Manor last friday.
He made it quite clear that he was paying something like $174 a plate. So with that. I would love to cover FH and I's plate. But I could only afford to give him $300.
I gave my sister $500 when she got married. My cousins I gave them $200.
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| Posted 10/10/08 1:16 PM |
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roxygrl8
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
Posted by AnaMaree77
The minimum I give if attending as a couple is $300. After knowing how expensive my wedding was, I would feel bad giving anything less. If I couldn't afford it, I would decline the invitation. However, this is just my opinion.
At our wedding, we had people that gave less and people that gave alot more. It just depends on the person.
Agreed- I would also turn down the invitation if I couldn't afford it at the time being.
My sister once got $50 from her co-worker who brought a guest. She was shocked. But you know. . .
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| Posted 10/10/08 1:18 PM |
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MrsM-6-7-08
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
Posted by roxygrl8
i just went to a co-workers wedding at Westbury Manor last friday.
He made it quite clear that he was paying something like $174 a plate. So with that. I would love to cover FH and I's plate. But I could only afford to give him $300.
I gave my sister $500 when she got married. My cousins I gave them $200.
I gave my sister 500 as well
She got married at westbury manor, on a sunday and paid $45 a head
Its crazy how the price fluctuates so much
A cousin, or other family member i would give 300
Someone like a coworker i would give more thats because DH owns the business and i work with him, so we would give 500 to an employee getting married
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legallyblonde
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
I had 2 tables of co-workers at my wedding. Most of them gave us $250 per couple (although I don't doubt there was the "secret meeting" discussing what to give amongst them. Honestly, I thought it was very generous of them.
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| Posted 10/10/08 2:55 PM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
I usually give $300 but I am going to a wedding where the couple gave us $200 so I am giving them $200 so as not to make them feel uncomfortable AND to save $100. 
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Kara
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
Posted by roxygrl8
Posted by AnaMaree77
The minimum I give if attending as a couple is $300. After knowing how expensive my wedding was, I would feel bad giving anything less. If I couldn't afford it, I would decline the invitation. However, this is just my opinion.
At our wedding, we had people that gave less and people that gave alot more. It just depends on the person.
Agreed- I would also turn down the invitation if I couldn't afford it at the time being.
My sister once got $50 from her co-worker who brought a guest. She was shocked. But you know. . .
I'd have been really upset if someone didn't come to my wedding only because they felt they could not afford to give a nice enough gift. I invited people to my wedding to share in one of the biggest days of our lives - not to get gifts. I understand that people want to be generous, but generous is relative to one's circumstances.
Yes, I've complained about the horrible regift (a cookbook with a personal note inside written to someone else!) and the fact that my SIL didn't give us so much as a card (heck, she didn't even RSVP to my bridal shower, let alone come)... but that was out of frustration that they couldn't have been more thoughtful (i.e. - a card), not frustration that they weren't generous enough. It also doesn't change the fact that I wanted them there to share in my day even if they could not (or in this case simply did not) give a gift or a very generous gift. My wedding was expensive, too, but that was my choice. I didn't expect people to cover their plates.
Other guests also couldn't afford to give us a generous gift or a gift at all, but they wrote us lovely cards that I will keep forever. It's not about the gifts.
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Ophelia
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
Posted by Kara
I'd have been really upset if someone didn't come to my wedding only because they felt they could not afford to give a nice enough gift. I invited people to my wedding to share in one of the biggest days of our lives - not to get gifts. I understand that people want to be generous, but generous is relative to one's circumstances.
I agree with this.
if people did that at my wedding, I'd have been paying THOUSANDS for an empty hall. I'd rather to at least have the food I am paying for be EATEN by those I love and respect (ie people invited to my wedding) than have them NOT come b/c they "can't afford" it.
they are MY guests. a gift is a BLESSING not a requirement.
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| Posted 10/10/08 3:21 PM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
Posted by Kara
Posted by roxygrl8
Posted by AnaMaree77
The minimum I give if attending as a couple is $300. After knowing how expensive my wedding was, I would feel bad giving anything less. If I couldn't afford it, I would decline the invitation. However, this is just my opinion.
At our wedding, we had people that gave less and people that gave alot more. It just depends on the person.
Agreed- I would also turn down the invitation if I couldn't afford it at the time being.
My sister once got $50 from her co-worker who brought a guest. She was shocked. But you know. . .
I'd have been really upset if someone didn't come to my wedding only because they felt they could not afford to give a nice enough gift. I invited people to my wedding to share in one of the biggest days of our lives - not to get gifts. I understand that people want to be generous, but generous is relative to one's circumstances.
Well said. I hate this cover the plate nonsense. If a person choose to go and spend a fortune on their wedding that is their choice but expecting people to reimburse them for it is crazy IMO.
When I was planning my wedding I didn't expect anyone to repay me for what I pay per plate. I just wanted my family and close freinds to be there celebrating a special time in my life. There were guests at my wedding that only gave me a card and I was very grateful for it because what was written in those cards meant more to me than the $$$$.
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: What is the going rate for wedding gifts these days..
Posted by Kara
I'd have been really upset if someone didn't come to my wedding only because they felt they could not afford to give a nice enough gift. I invited people to my wedding to share in one of the biggest days of our lives - not to get gifts. I understand that people want to be generous, but generous is relative to one's circumstances.
well said Kara. i know everyone is different but i would hate for someone to have declined my wedding because they didn't have $$ for a gift. that would be more upsetting to me than not receiving a gift.
and what happens if you say yes to the wedding and then your financial situation changes in the 2 mos after you send that rsvp? should one say "Yes we'll attend, pending our bank account has a cushion -- but if we can't attend, we'll let you know a few days beforehand that our budget is low." That's just silly!
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