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Do you have the fisher price rock and play? It really helped with my second ds.

My ds was like your baby, he had terrible reflux, colic and gas. He cried for 3 months straight, it was so depressing. We could never take him out because he was so miserable. I crried, my dh was falling apart , it was tough. He was born early, 5 lbs and was just miserable.

Ask your mil to take a day off, you need the help! Your baby is going to snap out of this soon, like a switch. Is dc on Zantac? If not tell , ask your PED about it

My ds is now 3, I have to tell you he is the sweetest kid. I look back on his baby days and feel sad that I wished those days away. I really did.

Second ds was norm, he also had reflux and I thought why meeeeeeeeee, again with a colicky baby.


Please get someone to help you, you need a break. I know how it feels

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I had a similar situation. Also keep in mind that 7 weeks is the peak of fussiness/crying (I know your baby is more than fussy but you know what I mean). We saw improvement when the formula was changed due to the milk allergy and at 12 weeks things got a lot better.

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What you are describing is totally normal. The feelings of sadness, the worrying, the never ending crying. My second baby cried all day day long, it seemed. Even with my third, I remember being stressed that "something was WRONG" because he cried so much those first few weeks.

It gets better, I PROMISE it does. Your baby is not miserable. It's their only way to communicate. your hormones are still wonky, and it's OK to feel disappointment that this isn't that amazing, beautiful experience so many woman say they have. It took me a long time to feel like a mother, to truly love my firstborn the way I had thought I was supposed to. I cannot imagine how much worse I would have felt if I'd been through the IF you went through. Go easy on yourself.

You'll get there. In the meantime, talk to your OB. There is no reason to suffer from the baby blues. Many hugs to you.

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By the way, I found that after 7 weeks, things slowly got better. My second baby truly was colicky. I swear that kid cried all day every day. She was never happy. I remember driving home with my husband from Target when she was about 6 weeks old and breaking down crying because I felt like my life was over. HOW was I going to function with a toddler and a baby that cried all the time.

It got sooooooo much better. I know it feels like it won't but I promise you that it will.

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I have no advice, just wanted to say you are doing a great job with your son. He is still so new in this world and is having a rough time adjusting. That's not your fault and there's no one in this world better than you to get him through it! I truly hope he turns around quickly.

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IT WILL GET BETTER I PROMISE!!!!!

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What you are feeling IS normal. For those who never experienced colicky babies, it is heartbreaking and downright depressing to watch a little one scream endlessly.

I have been there twice and I will admit to just hating life. But it got better. With time, with trying different formulas, speaking to the ped, and dealing with it.

The 5s worked wonders. And you know what worked great too? The vacuum right up against her. The white noise totally soothed her. I'd wear her in the Bjorne And vacuum all day. It worked for us.

Hang in there.

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DS was the same way the first 3 months of his life. We were all miserable and I wanted nothing more than to have my old life back. He slowly got better and now at 13 months he is the happiest, most even tempered child. Ask for help. My parents, my in laws, and my best friend all helped out- one day my MIL came over to watch him and I met a friend for lunch and a pedi. I felt like a million bucks, and 2 hours out of the house helped me come home and face the challenges all over again. Hang in there, it will get better!!!

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Like everyone said....it gets better!

Your baby absolutely doesn't hate you or hate life. I'm sure there is some kind of issue that is keeping the baby uncomfortable and it's so hard because they can't tell you and diagnosis can take awhile. But you will get through this and there will be moments of pure joy to come. We have all had days where we cry and feel terrible for our babies and are sure that we are "failing" them in some way. Your hormones are still insane and you are normal in many of your feelings.

I hope you guys can figure out what is going on. Lots and lots of for you!

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My first DS was like yours. DH and I wondered why he was so miserable. He did have reflux and milk protein sensitivity, so we switched to Alimentum, which helped a lot.

But even with that, he was still "cranky" a lot until he was about 3 months old. It was a looong time for me to deal with this. I was sad and anxious a lot. I also had PPD which made me even sadder and I had a really hard adjustment to being a Mom.

I know you have heard it before, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. it gets better as they get older. Some babies, and I am not sure why, have a hard time settling themselves down. They cry a lot.

DS is now 4, and the greatest kid. He rewarded us for our early suffering by becoming an excellent sleeper starting at around 3 months, and still is to this day. My second DS was also much calmer.
Don't feel guilty- take breaks when you can, time will pass, things will get easier- and you will get to the point when you enjoy your baby!!

It doesn't help that media can portray new mothers in a state of bliss, like those celeb moms. It can make you feel guilty for being a normal person with actual issues with mothering a newborn.

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What about trying the Moby Wrap and just keeping him strapped to you all the time? I know it wouldn't be a break but it may provide comfort to him in general and therefore some comfort for you.

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My son was a MISERABLE baby, but was awesome after he turned about six months old, you just gotta hang in there! Its hard being a Mom, and I think its hard being a baby. Just try your best to soothe him and if you find something that works, stick with it. PLease see someone for your ppd.

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DS cried for the first six months of his life. He cried through 3/4 of his baptism, to the point where the priest (who knows me) looked right at me and told me to quiet him down. (as if i could!)

naps were a pain then and are a pain now (at 21 months)
What worked for us was lots of stimulation. We would show him all different rattles, walk around and show him objects in the house, anything to keep his interest for even five seconds and then on to the next thing. eventually his brain would be so tired he'd fall asleep, if only for 30 minutes at a time.
for me, when DH got home i locked myself in our bedroom or took a bath for at least an hour. i refused to come out and let DH handle everything. That 1 hr a day did wonders!
Some babies just cry.
Hang in there! it will get better!

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the first 3 months are rough! sometimes it's still hard long after that...but often times...it eases up.

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I feel for you, I really, really do. If possible, try to remember that babies often pick up on the feelings of their parents too. So if you are always tense the baby will react that way too. Can someone come over a few times a week so you can take a nap or go somewhere to relax?

It will get better- hang in there!

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honestly, i would find a chiropractor that specializes in babies. what i've learned from seeing one regularly and having DS see him for his ear infections, is that birth is a traumatic thing. There can be neck and spinal injuries that you would never know about in the baby just from coming out of the birth canal. and this can be causing them pain and the crying for hours. DS was a vacuum assited birth and had a large head. He could very well have had some cervical/spinal issues that were causing him grief.

seriously..im not blowing smoke.

DS had a little palpation (what the chiro refers to the spot that needs adjusting) in his neck behind his ear. He had chronic ear infections between 8mo to a year. I never realized it but DS never liked when we touched back there..he would always flinch or swat.
Chiro did a few manual adjustments to DS and the ear infections calmed down and we were able to touch him back there.

he was also colic and cried for hours a day as an infant.

Please look into this. it might save your life.

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This was Cailen.

He isn't a miserable person - just a baby that cries. A lot.

I never thought it would end. It does.

I have the happiest child ever. Once he got through infancy, he was the happiest little guy ever. You will see!

He loved the swing and walks though!

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Awww, the baby doesn't hate you!! He's just telling you something is bothering him, in fact he's asking for you.
I think a GI consult is a VERY GOOD idea!! HE may need Rx meds and maybe even special formula. Get a poopy diaper tested (reg Ped should be able to do that) and take it from there. Payton HATED the car seat and bouncy, I think they made her belly worse. But the swing became a God send...once we turned off the mobile and music...we were over stimulating her at first with all that going on.
It's hard, you guys are all trying to figure each out. And having gone through IF for years to get where you are makes it harder,,I know..I warned you about the guilt of "What was I thinking?". SUX big time. Just keep reaching out, take whatever little bits of rest you can, maybe you and DH should switch off some days/nights so at least of you is out for some quiet time.
Hang in there!!

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It sounds like the over eating for comfort reasons may be contributing to the pain and spitting up. There's just so much food that they can take at that age. will he take a pacifier?

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yes...i think every mom has been there!!! don't get too down on yourself.

i was reading your posts and i had just responded about nutramigen enflora. I switched from alimentum to this product on my MDs suggestion and it worked. Something about the probiotic helped his belly.

with DD I used gent lease and it saved my life from an annoying gassy baby.

The miracle blanket saved my life at night and the baby bjorn helped a lot during the day. He eventually grew out of the colic and the allergy.

Hang in there