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Honestly?.. I had no problems w/either

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hands down, the first year with baby was the hardest for us.. it took us until after DS was a year old to really get back to "us" (and some days we still realllly have to work at it )

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I say marraige, but it was not because of the marriage but rather because 3 weeks after my wedding my mom was diagnosed with Lung Cancer and died 4 months later.
If you just look at adjusting to marriage vs adjusting to parenthood than parenthood is harder. Marriage was easy really. DH and I didnt live together first but we didnt have too many issues to iron out.

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The first year of marriage was very hard for us. I'm surprised we survived. But we did and by time Charlie came, things were great. The first year with him wasn't easy but it was it was awesome for the 3 of us.

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Posted by dm24angel

The 1st yr of having a baby has been the hardest thing I have ever done in my life and the hardest thing in my marriage EVER.

I 100% believe no one prepares you or warns you about this.

I talk about it a lot, mainly b/c I was ILL PREPARED for the changes and adjustments and when I ask others about it, they look at me like Im nuts.

I KNOW IM NOT.

I talk to NEW moms and they say the same thing.

I feel sad that many women are not honest about it b/c I truly believe that for "most" its harder then you would think.

For those its easy on, I envy you

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Posted by smdl

DS is a great kid but it is nothing like being married/living with DH at the beginning.

Since having DS, I am sleep deprived, lost of lot of personal freedom, it's no longer get up and go. Everything revolves around DS. Simply because of his age and he is completely dependent on us for everything. It's draining! When DH and I were just together.... Ahhh the good old days!

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I chose other because I am not finding either "hard" as a couple. For me, being a SAHM is way harder than any job I ever had.

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GREAT question....I have to say the first year of children

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Definitely first year of marriage.

First we were very young I was 20 DH 23....and we never lived together or really on our own. That was very rough.

It hasn't been a year yet with DD (6 months) but we have been married for 8 years and struggled most of those with IF so honestly yes parenthood has its rough times (colic, sleepness nights, etc) but so far I have to say it has brought us closer as husband and wife and I definitely appreciate him more. Not just because he's a good husband but because he's an excellent father. I don't think I have experienced this much love for him or DD in my entire life Also DD is a pretty good baby and just seeing her smile or laugh brings me so much joy.

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I dont think it was the first year for either, my first kid, the hardest year was probably last year (6yrs old) and my hardest year of marriage was this year (3rd year)

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I didn't find the first year being married very hard at all...maybe b/c we had been together for a very long time at that point. I have found the first year of having DS much more difficult...MAINLY because he doesn't sleep! I think if he would consistently nap and sleep at night I would have a different answer!

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first yr with dd by far.
It became ALOT more expensive.
We were tired as hell.
I dont think it was the worst thing Ive ever been through but marriage was absolutely fine.

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I would have to say that the first year with a child was the hardest.

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Posted by nrthshgrl

Without question, the first TWO years after having a child.

Hang tight...once you get into the groove, ah back to bliss!

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I got pregnant right after we got married. I have no frame of reference. It has all been hard....

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Posted by dm24angel

The 1st yr of having a baby has been the hardest thing I have ever done in my life and the hardest thing in my marriage EVER.

I 100% believe no one prepares you or warns you about this.

I talk about it a lot, mainly b/c I was ILL PREPARED for the changes and adjustments and when I ask others about it, they look at me like Im nuts.

I KNOW IM NOT.

I talk to NEW moms and they say the same thing.

I feel sad that many women are not honest about it b/c I truly believe that for "most" its harder then you would think.

For those its easy on, I envy you

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OMG the first year with DS

NO CONTEST

First year of marriage was a breeze for us

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First year of marriage was a breeze.
First year of having a child was hard.
I was stressed, DH didn't "Get it"..a lot of back and forth, but, DH caught on quickly and thank goodness it has gotten easier.

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Definitely having a child! The first year of marriage was pretty easy actually, some adjustments, but nothing that life changing overall. But having a child changed our lives.

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I said marriage, but we were married for 5 years when DS came along, we had our groove going by then.

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First year of marriage.. a total breeze.. but we lived together for 4 yrs prior to getting married. First year with Jacob??? Not so breezy!! Totally NOT what i was expecting, its def the hardest job EVER but with the most rewards. I may be the only mother who does not yearn for those infancy days back again. I am sooooooooo glad they are looooooooooooong GONE!!!

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I spent the majority of our 1st year married preggo. (3 months after the wedding). Needless to say, it was a challenge that I wouldn't have traded for the world!!!

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Posted by dm24angel

The 1st yr of having a baby has been the hardest thing I have ever done in my life and the hardest thing in my marriage EVER.

I 100% believe no one prepares you or warns you about this.

I talk about it a lot, mainly b/c I was ILL PREPARED for the changes and adjustments and when I ask others about it, they look at me like Im nuts.

I KNOW IM NOT.

I talk to NEW moms and they say the same thing.

I feel sad that many women are not honest about it b/c I truly believe that for "most" its harder then you would think.

For those its easy on, I envy you

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First year with children HANDS DOWN!

First year of marriage was a breeze, we traveled, partied with bottles of wine until the wee hours and had a lot of fun. First year with Kerri was harder. Travel was minimal, partying involved bottles of formula till the wee hours and while we had fun, it was less due to sleep deprivation

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well, my 1st year of marriage was also my first year (part of, at least) w/ a child b/c we conceived on our wedding night and 9 months later, rocco joined us. we lived together for 4.5 yrs before and didn't face as much stress as balancing our lives with this new 3rd person who NEEDS love and attention more than we do, kwim? it gets easier though, you just have to find the balance.