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I would just sign it. You said your block was so big and nothing was close to your house so you dont have to worry about your kid missing anything. Parking is an issue anyway, so your holiday guest would have that issue even before the party. I wouldnt ruin the whole blocks party for one holiday. (and I do understand the importance of said holiday).

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Also, correct me if I am wrong, but isn't it a solemn day too? Like maybe not the best day to have a raucous block party going on in the background while you are trying to observe your holiday? Totally insensitive on your neighbors part.

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Would I be a really nasty neighbor?

I understand it is one of the holiest of holidays but you can't expect the world to stop because of it. I would care if my neighbros had a party on easter christmas or next Tuesday.

I never expect anyone to change plans because of any reason (religous or not). As for people coming to your house....its a block or two extra walk not miles. And for yoour kids beign upset.....my guess is things will come up year after year that they might not be able to do because of the holiday. Once they hit school age they might have birthday parties etc that will conflict. IMO learn young.

I would sign and just not go.

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I don't think they should have the block party that day. That's just flat out thoughtless and disrespectful! It is the HOLIEST DAY OF THE YEAR for Jews. That's a big deal and a big inconvenience to your guests who have been fasting.

And I wouldn't be happy if there was a block party on Easter Sunday. Or Good Friday, which is supposed to be a solemn occasion.. I wouldn't want my children to participate because I'm teaching my children to respect their religion. This, of course, would be a huge fight with a 3 year old and a 5 year old and I would be so angry with the organizers for creating this situation.

I understand why you don't want to sign. I don't know what I would do..

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Idk if it is the same but I can tell u when we did our block party here,I'm in queens theubgavebis 2 dates to pick from.

WE did not have a choice a maybe these were the two dates given and they did a vote and this one won

So it was either this date or no party,not like they were trying to be mean

Maybe ask whoever is running it to send a email explaining how you feel



Side note in regards to Christmas and Easter
There is always always places open by me

Would I be a really nasty neighbor?

I think for one year it's not worth being "that" neighbor and spoiling it for everyone else. You're only concerned with how this affecting you, when clearly the majority think differently. Having sour grapes and trying to rain on everyone else's parade is not neighborly. Do you want to make a big stink? What will that accomplish? I think you have to be an adult and realize that the block party can't revolve around you or a potential tantrum from your son. I would sign and not participate. And net year, why not get involved in the planning so you can't be apathetic to the decisions that are made?

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Posted by Jax430

Posted by Jacksmommy

Posted by alli3131

I understand it is one of the holiest of holidays but you can't expect the world to stop because of it. I would care if my neighbros had a party on easter christmas or next Tuesday.

I never expect anyone to change plans because of any reason (religous or not). As for people coming to your house....its a block or two extra walk not miles. And for yoour kids beign upset.....my guess is things will come up year after year that they might not be able to do because of the holiday. Once they hit school age they might have birthday parties etc that will conflict. IMO learn young.

I would sign and just not go.

I gotta be honest....this is one of the most ignorant comments. The world pretty much does stop on Christmas, or at least in America it does. I NEVER find a grocery store or ANY store open for that matter. The SAME thing happens on Easter Sunday!!! YOU might not notice it because you are CELEBRATING! But it happens. And having a child miss a birthday party, is not the same as a party going on your own block!

I agree that there is a huge difference between a block party and a birthday party that your child cannot attend. Also, in regard to walking an extra block or two, let me tell you that it makes all the difference in the world when you have not had food or water for 25 hours! My DH barely makes it to the end of the fast. He would not be able to walk the two blocks (and he has broken it a tiny bit early when he needs to b/c he has come come close to passing out).

What makes the planning of this block party completely obnoxious is that it totally disregards the religious beliefs of at least one family on the block. It's very different than a kid's birthday party, which just involves picking a date when the kid and his parents are free. No, you can't accommodate everyone's plans when organizing a block party, but this is blatantly disrespectful!

Would I be a really nasty neighbor?

At first I was thinking I would sign and just not participate.

I am Catholic and honestly- I have no clue about Jewish holidays- aside from Chanukah. Now that I see from others it is the holiest Jewish holiday and so on- I would probably not sign. To exclude an entire group of people, plus be disrespectful of their need for quiet, is just totally wrong.

Perhaps, though, the people who picked that date had no idea, like me, of what's involved in the holiday- or even that it IS a holiday.

If I were you- i'd write an e-mail to the organizers explaining your stance- the practices of the holiday and ask them to try another date. If they can't agree- you won't be signing.

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I know in our town, majority wins, so even if some of the neighbors refuse to sign, the party still goes on. And we do get a number of neighbors who begrudgingly sign our request form (we always inform them they are not obligated by any means, but I guess they feel better being vocal about it.)

And as the planner for the block party, we do take holidays and other major events into consideration and I don't think the weekend of Yom Kippur would even be an option.


I understand your feelings, but if my neighborhood decided to have the block party on a day that I could not participate, regardless of the reason, I wouldn't begrudge them.

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I am curious how many families will be celebrating? If it is many then I totally understand

But if it was just your family or say 2 more and this was the only day that worked then I would feel bad for all the othe kids on the block

It is a sucky situation.

I would try to talk. To the planner bedorwbubknowbit assign or not sign anything

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I think when you involve the town (getting permits, etc) they need to consider holidays and high holy days. If it were just a couple of neighbors getting together for a party, it's no big deal. But I wonder if the town would even approve of this. However, I personally would sign it, if the town did approve it.

Would I be a really nasty neighbor?

I would sign bc it's one year and I wouldn't want to get involved in drama. I would also send a nice note, explaining why you can't participate- maybe even attach it to the signature clipboard so the other houses could see. ftr I think it's rude, but I'd let it go one time.

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Would I be a really nasty neighbor?

Just don't sign then. If it bothers you this much. If they ask why, say its a religious holiday for you and you'd prefer it wasn't on that date. Its not like you think you, by yourself, can stop them, its just the principle of the matter. You won't sign because of your own family obligations.

Now what happens afterwards is just a matter of majority rules. American as apple pie.

As far as christian vs jewish holiday, I think they both get equal play in ny (more so than other areas of the us) and I personally WANT to go out and enjoy time with my family on Easter and constantly get annoyed to see things closed. Its become a going joke for us.

To each their own.

But if they came by asking 'sign this so we can have a party on 9/11' I'd probably refuse. Its not a religious thing, but if I felt the party wasn't in line with what I felt was respectful, I'd decline my signature. Doesn't matter your REASONS why you don't want to sign. You shouldn't feel forced into signing at all. But that's just my humble opinion.