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maybesoon
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Re: Would this bother you or did my DH overreact?
I would have liked if parents went along WITH sister to go to the park. For some reason it would bug me if my sister took him on a bus to the park by herself, esp if noone told me. you left DS to your parents care, not your sister, I guess that's why I would be thinking this way
ETS, I'm not a big fan of CP or the city really to begin with, that's part of it too
Message edited 1/23/2010 6:42:45 PM.
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Would this bother you or did my DH overreact?
I trust anyone watching Ava to take her wherever they'd like because I trust their judgement. So I, personally, feel he overreacted, however, that's me.
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| Posted 1/23/10 7:04 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: Would this bother you or did my DH overreact?
Nah, I am with him on that. I don't blame him based on what you wrote.
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| Posted 1/23/10 7:07 PM |
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Kidsaplenty
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Re: Would this bother you or did my DH overreact?
Posted by prncsslehcar
I trust anyone watching Ava to take her wherever they'd like because I trust their judgement. So I, personally, feel he overreacted, however, that's me.
ITA. While it would have been nice to get a call first, she probably didn't want to bother you guys and figured it was no big deal.
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| Posted 1/23/10 7:22 PM |
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Reese32
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Re: Would this bother you or did my DH overreact?
I do think he overreacted. Your sister's not a kid, she's 27. Also, if I leave my daughter with someone over night, I'm trusting them to make the right decisions for her. And if that means letting her go on an outing with her aunt, that's fine. It's not like your parents sent her out with the neighbors, or someone you don't know.
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| Posted 1/23/10 7:23 PM |
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ME75
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Re: Would this bother you or did my DH overreact?
overreacted-she's your sister not some distant family aquaintance! not to mention she is a comptetent adult who loves your son and would look out for him as you would. my mom watched my DD a few weeks ago and my sister took her out for pizza and i never got a call. i totally and completely trust my family with my children as i'm sure you do too.
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KateDevine
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Re: Would this bother you or did my DH overreact?
Posted by Reese32
. Your sister's not a kid, she's 27. .
This made me laugh b/c I was younger than that when I had DS and I didn't realize it until just now
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Janice
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Re: Would this bother you or did my DH overreact?
I am torn.
On one hand, when I leave Josh with my parents...my sisters do have access to him and take him different places. I trusted my parent's judgement, so if they feel my sisters are okay with him, then I roll with it.
On the other hand, there are people in our life who dh would feel completely comfortable leaving josh with and there is no way I see the situation in the same light.
DH dismisses me as an overreacter...but I have feelings towards certain people...who would not be bringing josh to central park.
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GoldenRod
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Re: Would this bother you or did my DH overreact?
I don't think he overreacted. You left DS with your parents, not your sister. DH doesn't trust your sister, so that has to be weighed into this. Just because you do, he's DS's parent too, and has a right to be concerned about DS.
The bus ride would give me an issue, too. There's not safety equipment on a bus, and I don't want DC on a moving vehicle without car seats.
Just because sis is 27 and a long-time babysitter, doesn't mean DH trusts how she does it, or that she's even good (I'm not questioning her ability, but just saying that doing something a long time doesn't automatically make you an expert.....)
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rose825
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Re: Would this bother you or did my DH overreact?
I would have been mad. My ILs once took Ryan on a subway ride and I was very mad because they didnt ask us.
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nbc188
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Re: Would this bother you or did my DH overreact?
Hmm...not sure on this one. Your sister sounds very responsible, meaning she wouldn't NOT hold his hand while walking there on the street, wouldn't be texting/etc and not paying attention to him while playing at the park....right? So I guess I'd say he overreacted a bit.
Though, I am the mother who was soooo uncomfortable with ANYONE but DH or I driving DD around for months and months, even his mom, who watches her 3x/week. 
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KateDevine
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Re: Would this bother you or did my DH overreact?
Posted by GoldenRod
I don't think he overreacted. You left DS with your parents, not your sister. DH doesn't trust your sister, so that has to be weighed into this. Just because you do, he's DS's parent too, and has a right to be concerned about DS.
The bus ride would give me an issue, too. There's not safety equipment on a bus, and I don't want DC on a moving vehicle without car seats.
Just because sis is 27 and a long-time babysitter, doesn't mean DH trusts how she does it, or that she's even good (I'm not questioning her ability, but just saying that doing something a long time doesn't automatically make you an expert.....)
She lives with them, so in essence, he was left with her too (IMO). To me, if I said "I left DS with my mom" that includes my dad b/c he lives there too and Caroline b/c she lives there too...
And we've taken him on NYC buses before, so you could say she is "acting as is"
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Salason
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Re: Would this bother you or did my DH overreact?
I think he overreacted. If my brother did that, it wouldnt have bothered us.
ETA: Maybe this is because I am very used to the city and CP... perhaps someone who didnt have a deep comfort level with the city would be nervous about it?
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headoverheels
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Re: Would this bother you or did my DH overreact?
I would never expect any of my family members to ask me if they could take DS somewhere... but that's me. And DH is even more laid back than I am, so I don't even think it would cross his mind. I can't say that your DH overreacted because I don't know how he is with your family. Was it because she took C3 out, or because it was in the city?
ETA: My sisters are both younger than I am, one is 24 and one is 27, and I don't consider them kids either.
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