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maybemommy10
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
No I would be fine with that. I work with mentally ill adults so the stigma I see everyday is so sad.
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| Posted 10/14/10 5:54 PM |
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
Nope, absolutely not.
I've worked in group homes and residential programs and there is A LOT of oversight.
There was one guy we were always worried about as staff and we kept a tight reign on him.
With that said, things can happen anywhere.........remember last week's news with the guy at Dave & Busters?
If people with issues are going to be in the community, at least have it be a setting like this where they can have a close eye kept on them.
I used to go onto the grounds of Creedmore at night when I worked at a residential program in Queens and we used to have a saying that at least there we KNEW the people were crazy and we could be on our guard. You never really know if the person next to you (or your neighbors in general!) are going to turn out to be nuts!
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| Posted 10/14/10 6:14 PM |
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sunnyplus3
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
My Mom has worked for MaryHaven for over 10 years. They have many group homes for developmentally delayed adults. She works in one of the houses as well as in one of the schools.
The group homes are in very nice areas, although sometimes they are on busy roads. They are very large, so the number of people living there is probably about the same as the size of a family that might buy a home that large.
They spend a FORTUNE keeping the houses mint, inside & out. With MaryHaven some of the "consumers/clients" (I hate those names) have very severe issues, but they have a lot of supervision. My Mom would do ANYTHING to protect them & keep them from harm or from causing a scene.
The doors in the houses are all alarmed so its really hard for anyone to wander off unnoticed. Most of them have special driveways that allow the bus to get in & out & provide ample parking for the staff.
I know there have been times that things have not gone smoothly & my Mom has told me about rare instances when a person doesnt want to get on the bus or something & I'm sure the neighbors sometimes hear.
One of our elderly neighbors here would sometimes come out into the street & scream "help me" when her aid would go to the store. Sometimes things happen with neighbors that you can never really control no matter how much your taxes are.
I would have NO problem with a MaryHaven house next to mine.
As for a sober house, I'd need to know more about the organization running it before I can decide.
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| Posted 10/14/10 6:17 PM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
Yes it would and does bother me. We did have a group home across the street from us. The people were strange and were always lurking around my house.
I was glad to see them go!
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| Posted 10/14/10 6:18 PM |
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Danamz
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
Posted by lipglossjunky73
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that wouldn't bother me but a section 8 type housing - no way in hell.
Yeah - there is a big thing going on in Northport about that now!
Wow, yes I'd be opposed.
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| Posted 10/14/10 6:20 PM |
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Part of my job as a Service Coordinator is helping people with disabilities locate independent apartments in the community. The people I work with get a subsidy from the program I work for to live in their own apartment, where they pay 1/3 of their income towards the rent.
I have connections to a few apartment buildings/landlords, but for the most part, EVERYONE hangs up on me when I tell them I am a social worker trying to assist someone find an apartment who is coming out of a nursing home.
From what I have been told by several legal advocates, this is quite illegal as well but there's not much I can do about it.........gotta choose my battles especially with the gazillion other problems I have to attend to daily.
For many of my people who are already in the community, the amount of crap landlords/management companies pull to try to get them out is disgusting as well.
I'm not saying everyone is squeaky clean and there haven't been a few bad apples to spoil the bunch, but honestly, this stuff happens with the general population. Look at the amount of threads that pop up on here regularly about crazy neighbors, tenants who aren't paying their rent, etc. etc. etc.
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| Posted 10/14/10 6:23 PM |
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MrsPowers
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
I would not be opposed to a group home in my neighborhood.
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| Posted 10/14/10 6:31 PM |
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mikeandjess
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
I'd be fine with it. I work with the developmentally disabled population and have seen several respite homes. The people are not dangerous and you know the house will always be maintained and in great condition. I have a feeling I know which home you are talking about because my agency is opening up a new one and sent a letter to neighbors in the community about it. I think it's a great thing, I say yay.
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| Posted 10/14/10 6:42 PM |
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Mrs213
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
I would not want it there...
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| Posted 10/14/10 7:04 PM |
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Erica
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
I have a school for children with autism that backs up into my neighborhood. They just approved it to expand and build housing for adults with autism and I didn't hear one person oppose it (at least from neighbors)
As long as it starts slow and is good for the community - you can't just throw 100 unit rehab center somewhere KWIM?
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| Posted 10/14/10 7:45 PM |
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groovypeg
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
when we lived in east northport we lived down the street from a house for the mentally ill-schizophrenia etc. we never had any problems. now, we live a block away from a house for adults with developmental delays and they are the nicest group. i would never ever have a problem with a group home in my neighborhood, but i am also a spec ed teacher and have family members with DD.
i think many people would change their minds if they had a child with special needs. wouldn't you want them to have the same opportunities as we have? the opportunity to learn how to be independent and productive members of society?
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| Posted 10/14/10 7:49 PM |
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DaisyGirl
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
Posted by lipglossjunky73
But what about developmentally delayed adults? Would you be ok with that?
That wouldn't bother me as long as it was run correctly. I have been in a situation where there was a home around the block from mine that was supposed to be for DD adults but there were people with anger issues and who had been in jail living there. There was also no supervision. I was not ok with that.
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| Posted 10/14/10 8:27 PM |
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VirginiaDeb
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
I think it depends on the type. We used to live downstairs from a group home (it was in an apartment). They were all nice guys.
DH has worked in a few group homes over the last 3 years. As long as it's a good company, they're run really well.
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| Posted 10/14/10 8:33 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
I think this post adresses two very different things. A respite home is WAY different then a group home. Its not just about who lives there but rather it being more like a hotel which this girl is correct. I definitely would not like various people coming in and out etc... i think its normal to feel that way regardless of the population. I wouldnt care if it were a group home and the environment was stable all the time but I would not like a respite home. I deal with this population and I have a sibling who is MR so I am certainly not against handicapped/disabled.
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lvdolphins
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
No, It would not bother me.
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| Posted 10/14/10 9:01 PM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
There is a home for adults with special needs around the block and it has never bothered me,nor has it ever been a problem. I never even see them. The park and handball court on the otherside of the street is where the troubles are.
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| Posted 10/14/10 9:48 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
Keep in mind that i work with children and adults who are psychotic and those who are developmentally disabled and have done so for the past 15 years.
I would not mind living near a group home for developmentally disabled adults with adequate supervision.
I WOULD mind living near a half-way house or a psych ward or a home for people who are mentally ill. One day of missed meds and my family is put at risk. I'd like to decrease my risks.
There is a BIG difference between the two populations. Ive had both in my classroom at the same time and yes, I did fear the psych population but did not the DD population.
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| Posted 10/14/10 10:15 PM |
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smdl
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
Posted by groovypeg
i think many people would change their minds if they had a child with special needs. wouldn't you want them to have the same opportunities as we have? the opportunity to learn how to be independent and productive members of society?
That's so true!
I think it depends on the situation. Developmental Delayed or MR, is not the same as mentally ill especially if requiring supervision and medication.
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| Posted 10/14/10 10:20 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
Posted by smdl
Posted by groovypeg
i think many people would change their minds if they had a child with special needs. wouldn't you want them to have the same opportunities as we have? the opportunity to learn how to be independent and productive members of society?
That's so true!
I think it depends on the situation. Developmental Delayed or MR, is not the same as mentally ill especially if requiring supervision and medication.
I actually dont think this is true.
The question isnt asking about MR housing. its asking about respite housing which i could totally see why it would become a problem. its not necessarily who or what. To me i want the same people whoever that may be to be there all the time. Not in and out. Respite works almost like a hotel situation. different weekends. never permanent.
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| Posted 10/14/10 10:23 PM |
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smdl
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
Posted by PrincessP
Posted by smdl
Posted by groovypeg
i think many people would change their minds if they had a child with special needs. wouldn't you want them to have the same opportunities as we have? the opportunity to learn how to be independent and productive members of society?
That's so true!
I think it depends on the situation. Developmental Delayed or MR, is not the same as mentally ill especially if requiring supervision and medication.
I actually dont think this is true.
The question isnt asking about MR housing. its asking about respite housing which i could totally see why it would become a problem. its not necessarily who or what. To me i want the same people whoever that may be to be there all the time. Not in and out. Respite works almost like a hotel situation. different weekends. never permanent.
The title also said "group home" so I answered with that in mind. I also think the duration is not necessarily a factor for most people as much as the type of issues those people are having.
Being around people with special needs is a bit disturbing. It's not the norm! And honestly without DS, I would have never tried to get to know about this population. Just being honest! But his school has adults with special needs. This is a huge eye opener on how we percieve people and reality. Ours and theirs!
In general, anyone different than "us" (the regular typical people!) , see any housing for people with special needs as a threat to our daily "safe and normal" life. Sometimes the threat is justified, sometimes it's not.
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| Posted 10/14/10 11:14 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
Posted by smdl
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Posted by smdl
Posted by groovypeg
i think many people would change their minds if they had a child with special needs. wouldn't you want them to have the same opportunities as we have? the opportunity to learn how to be independent and productive members of society?
That's so true!
I think it depends on the situation. Developmental Delayed or MR, is not the same as mentally ill especially if requiring supervision and medication.
I actually dont think this is true.
The question isnt asking about MR housing. its asking about respite housing which i could totally see why it would become a problem. its not necessarily who or what. To me i want the same people whoever that may be to be there all the time. Not in and out. Respite works almost like a hotel situation. different weekends. never permanent.
The title also said "group home" so I answered with that in mind. I also think the duration is not necessarily a factor for most people as much as the type of issues those people are having.
Being around people with special needs is a bit disturbing. It's not the norm! And honestly without DS, I would have never tried to get to know about this population. Just being honest! But his school has adults with special needs. This is a huge eye opener on how we percieve people and reality. Ours and theirs!
In general, anyone different than "us" (the regular typical people!) , see any housing for people with special needs as a threat to our daily "safe and normal" life. Sometimes the threat is justified, sometimes it's not.
I agree that the title of this post has everyone juggling back and forth with both topics....group homes and respites...both VERY different.
BUT...
if the main focus is what the girl wrote on FB, I dont think Liza should be all that mad bc she is technically correct.
In terms of general group homes, yes I agree, they should exist in residential areas without any commotion.
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Goobster
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
the lack of stability in the residents would be an issue for me, as well as many people constantly coming and going
I have passed up a few neighborhoods b/c of this.
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| Posted 10/15/10 12:05 AM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
Posted by mikeandjess
The people are not dangerous and you know the house will always be maintained and in great condition.
Sadly this is not true:( The house that was across from me was in awful condition. It took a long time to close it.
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| Posted 10/15/10 6:52 AM |
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mikeandjess
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by mikeandjess
The people are not dangerous and you know the house will always be maintained and in great condition.
Sadly this is not true:( The house that was across from me was in awful condition. It took a long time to close it.
that's very unfortunate. I've seen some group homes that weren't as nice as others but I've never been to one that I would consider awful condition. Not even close. I'm surprised they were able to get away with it.
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