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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
I also think adult homes can be a little creepy. And they are definitely run as for-profits with not a lot of care given to the tenants IMO.
I took a guy out of one here on LI. They had us meet in the "basement" there when I had to do my visits. Looking back, that was probably not the smartest move. It totally reminded me of that movie Hostel.
FWIW though, this place was located in an area that I KNOW most of us would never consider living anyways, which is probably why it was located where it was.
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PearlJamChick
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
No, it would not bother me.
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| Posted 10/15/10 9:01 AM |
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neener1211
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
I have a group home next door to me for special needs, and we only found out about it the day we moved in. The previous owners had 'issues' with the house for some stupid reason and they hid the fact that it was there. They brought us cookies and plant as housewarming. I've also been over there to give them back mail that was delivered to our house, and when I come in they all say in one big cheer 'Hi Janine!!' They had previously feared the homeowner that lived in our house, and he was very nasty to them. Brought me to tears when the supervisor told me some of the things he did.
I actually like having the house there. When we took down some trees in our yard, we paid for one of theirs to be taken down that was overgrown. The 'kid's say hello to us in the morning if they see us, they wave to us and say hello to our kids. They are very nice neighbors.
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| Posted 10/15/10 9:11 AM |
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
Posted by neener1211
I have a group home next door to me for special needs, and we only found out about it the day we moved in. The previous owners had 'issues' with the house for some stupid reason and they hid the fact that it was there. They brought us cookies and plant as housewarming. I've also been over there to give them back mail that was delivered to our house, and when I come in they all say in one big cheer 'Hi Janine!!' They had previously feared the homeowner that lived in our house, and he was very nasty to them. Brought me to tears when the supervisor told me some of the things he did.
I actually like having the house there. When we took down some trees in our yard, we paid for one of theirs to be taken down that was overgrown. The 'kid's say hello to us in the morning if they see us, they wave to us and say hello to our kids. They are very nice neighbors.
Awww, this post absolute warms my heart.
I have said this before but my absolute favorite job ever was working at a group home for MR/MI diagnosed adults in Queens. If I could survive on $21K a year, I would totally retire in a place like that!
I always tell DH and my co-workers that if I came into a lot of money, I would love to open up my own business running group homes or independent apartments because there is such a need for them.
Several of my co-workers and I have actually talked about pooling our resources together and doing something like this in the next 5-10 years and starting small. I think this is probably how a lot of programs have started, especially if you have the backing of the parents.
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| Posted 10/15/10 9:19 AM |
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rojerono
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
My niece has multiple handicaps. She is 36 now and lives home with her father and brothers (my sister died). She often goes to 'respite' - a group home with other adults like herself. She loves it - the plan activities and they get a taste of what it is like to be semi-independent. She would like to one day live in a home like this full time. Her dad isn't ready for that yet - he loves her and is afraid that nobody will be able to care for his child the way he does - but he's preparing himself with these little breaks she takes.
The home that she goes to is lovely and big and well taken care of. It's in a nice area. The other adults there have varying degrees of handicap - but they are well supervised by people who seem to genuinely care for them.
I've been told that this house was protested against HEAVILY. People were totally up in arms and angry that they would dare put a home like this in a GOOD neighborhood. And when asked where they SHOULD put it.. the answer was "Someplace where the neighbors don't care."
Well neighbors tend to care everywhere. NIMBY exists in all towns. The ones some consider 'downtrodden', the ones others say have 'bad' school districts. Everyone wants them someplace else. Somewhere 'worse'. Suggestions were to put them where they have homes for pedophiles, halfway homes, jails, known drug areas, etc..
My niece is 36 and handicapped. She's tiny - maybe 5'1" or 5'0". She isn't very street savvy. Why would anyone think it would be a good idea to have her home be in a 'bad' neighborhood?
But.. after all of that.. and after reading some of the responses on this thread - I GET it. I get why people are afraid to have this in their neighborhood. Resale value. I'm sitting here and lights go off.. everyone is afraid that nobody will buy a house near a group home. And for a split second I thought - "Given THAT.. I don't know that I'd want one across the street.."
I can now count half a dozen folks who would immediately cross my house off the list if a group home opened in my area and I wanted to sell.
But after that moment passed (and my guilt has started to fade) - I can say that I would have no issue provided that the home is well supervised. I would have an issue with certain types of facilities.. but not a type where there is no danger to my family.
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| Posted 10/15/10 10:17 AM |
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Danamz
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
Posted by lipglossjunky73
But what about developmentally delayed adults? Would you be ok with that?
Yes
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| Posted 10/15/10 11:20 AM |
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CaseyGirl
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
There is one around the corner from me for developmentally disabled adults, and another in the opposite direction for men who are recovering from alcoholism I believe. Never hear a peep from either.
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| Posted 10/15/10 1:49 PM |
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Tine73
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
There is a home for adults with psychiatric disabilities on my road abut about 4 blocks away. There is no sign outside, it's just a big huge house. We have lived here for over 3 years and I honestly never even noticed it until about a year ago. I googled the address a bunch of times and nothing ever came up. I saw this post, googled it again, and voila = found it!
Needless to say, it doesn't bother me but its far enough away form me to not affect me.
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| Posted 10/15/10 2:33 PM |
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MrsFlatbread
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Re: Would you be opposed to having a group home/ respite home in your neighborhood?
Posted by KevinNKristin8-15-08
No I would be fine with that. I work with mentally ill adults so
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