Would you bring your child to this party?

Towards the end of October we have a joint surprise party for DH's father and DH's aunt. The party is in Brooklyn at a restaurant and is from 7-11pm. Lots of family from out of town will be coming to the party. I was talking to my MIL on the phone about something unrelated and she asked what my daughter would be wearing to the party and if I had bought an outfit for her yet. I paused before answering as I was genuinely surprised that she thought DD was going to come. I politely said that she wouldn't be attending and that it would just be DH and I.

DD is 17 months old and goes to sleep around 7pm. DH and I had not even for a second considered bringing her due to the party's start time and location -- we booked our usual babysitter as soon as we got the invite in the mail. MIL seemed surprised/upset/confused/a bit mad that we weren't going to be bringing her and said that so many of the out of town family members were looking forward to meeting her/seeing her again. Am I missing something here? Would you bring your toddler to a party that starts at their bedtime? If it were a party in someone's home I *might* consider it (but to be honest, it'd be highly unlikely) as I could put her down in a pack and play in a different room, but this is in a restaurant with a 35-40 minute drive in each direction. WWYD?

Message edited 10/6/2016 9:13:15 PM.

Re: Would you bring your child to this party?

Absolutely not

Would you bring your child to this party?

Definitely not

Would you bring your child to this party?

Okay, thanks, ladies! You are making me feel sane. The thought of bringing her with us NEVER even crossed my mind - not for a nano second. I think MIL assumed that since one of the people being celebrated was DD's grandpa that we'd bring her, but even that rationale doesn't make sense to me. It we were to bring her, I feel that DH and I wouldn't be able to enjoy ourselves and that we'd end up leaving early, which I wouldn't want to do.

Message edited 10/6/2016 9:28:31 PM.

Re: Would you bring your child to this party?

I wouldnt. Party is much too late. I do understand your MILs disappointment. But youre making the right choice. Your lil one would be exhausted and you wouldnt be able to enjoy the party.

Would you bring your child to this party?

Yes, especially a family party with lots of family from out of town. I just brought my 2.5 year old to my cousin's sweet 16 on Friday evening-- it started at 7:30 pm. I feel that it is important for my dd to be party of family celebrations- she is very easy going and always has fun. She generally falls asleep on the way home and sleeps in the next day.

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No way

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Re: Would you bring your child to this party?

Posted by gina409

Posted by MrsG823

Yes, especially a family party with lots of family from out of town. I just brought my 2.5 year old to my cousin's sweet 16 on Friday evening-- it started at 7:30 pm. I feel that it is important for my dd to be party of family celebrations- she is very easy going and always has fun. She generally falls asleep on the way home and sleeps in the next day.

I feel it's important as well

But my children would be the exact opposite

Think spawn of ***** on speed

And my kids can go to bed at 8 or at midnight. Still
Up at dawn

Would you bring your child to this party?

My kids, yes. My kids don't go to bed till 9:30-10. Sometimes later. They'd be ok.

Would you bring your child to this party?

You know your child. I could bring mine.

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Depends. If it was a big party and rarely happened that I saws all this family, then yes I prob would bring her. When my twins were 6 months old, my niece had a huge sweet 16 from 7-11 on a Friday night. It wasn't even up for debate not to bring them. I'm not gonna lie. It was hell on earth and we did stay till the end. Even though it was hard, I'm glad we did. One of DH's aunts passed away shortly after the party but all she could talk about was our boys and how she was to see them.

Would you bring your child to this party?

I would not and if I did decide to bring her to see relatives there is no way I would be staying till 11:00 and then driving home from Brooklyn. Could you bring her, but not stay the whole time?

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I would and I have. My DS is 14 months old and usually goes to bed about 8:30. We had my cousin's wedding a few weeks ago. He slept in the car on the way there and we brought in the stroller with us. Around 9:30 I put on his pj's and he fell asleep in the stroller when he was ready. No issues. But like a PP said, you know your child.

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Re: Would you bring your child to this party?

No way! Baby stays home for sure!
We went to a late night family party a few years ago and didn't bring dd and people give us cr&p abt it. My cousin brought his young kids and towards the end of the party he told my dh that we did the right thing by leaving dd at home.
People are selfish. If it were so important to the family to see the baby, then they should make a point to come visit another time.

Would you bring your child to this party?

Depends on the kid. I probably could but don't know if I would. I certainly wouldn't have as much fun with her there.

Message edited 10/6/2016 11:10:32 PM.

Re: Would you bring your child to this party?

Nope. Not jysr because of the late time. Because at that age, DD was similar to the above mentioned devil's spawn.
Nobody would enjoy themselves

Re: Would you bring your child to this party?

depends on who is coming and what babysitter options I have at home.

My kids have adapted to falling asleep with noise, they would be fine in a stroller, our city mini reclines alot... and my youngest is actually 17 months old and going out to a 7pm dinner later this month... If he doesn't like the stroller someone would gladly hold a little baby.

Would you bring your child to this party?

Definately not.

Would you bring your child to this party?

My child goes to bed at 7:30 sharp everyday. I however make exceptions for holidays and parties. Tonight for example, we have a wedding and he's going. He'll be up WAY past his bedtime. We usually bring the stroller and he passes out by 10.

Would you bring your child to this party?

That's tough. I definitely wouldn't want to. If my family wanted my kids to come they wouldn't have planned that late of a party to begin with! One exception was a recent wedding they were in. They came to the reception for an hour or two and then I had my parents pick them up, bring them home to my house and put them to bed. Would something like that be an option?

Also, if all this family is coming to town for the party there would probably be a casual get together the next day. Is there any time before or after family can see her?

Would you bring your child to this party?

I would. We have set bedtime during the week but on weeekends and special occasions all schedules go out the window.

Would you bring your child to this party?

My child, yes, she happily can stay up to midnight. My nephews hell no, the spawn switch comes on at 730am.

Would you bring your child to this party?

No way. It depends on the child, but my DD needs to be in bed at her bedtime.