Re: Would you quit your job and become SAHM?...

I did it and we have no regrets. Couldn't be happier!

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Re: Would you quit your job and become SAHM?...

Re: Would you quit your job and become SAHM?...

I don't think so.

I think I would make an awful SAHM. I give them so much credit.

When I am home for more than a few days with DS, I want to pull my hair out.

I need the adult interaction. I need my own financial security. I've worked my whole life since I was a teenager and never had to ask or rely on anyone for money. I don't think I would be comfortable not having my own money.

I also don't drive or have any mommy-friends so I tend to feel trapped when I am home with DS.

Ideally, I would love to work 3-4 days a week.

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Im planning on leaving my job sometime this year b/c the commuting costs are just so $$$ and with daycare, im basically working to pay for train passes and daycare. Im either going to do something part time, or work on my business from home full time.

THe issue is health insurance. DH can get at his job for him for a good price, but for all 3 of us its totally unaffordable. Actually for me and Dh its unaffordable. So we're going to put DS on CHIPS (PA insurance) and im looking into freelancers union or a private plan for me.

I would like to be home with DS for the first few years of his life.

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If I could have the same great medical/optical/dental benefits, then yes. In a heartbeat

Re: Would you quit your job and become SAHM?...

nope, I enjoy working

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I like my situation now. I'm on a sabbatical and DD is in daycare pretty much full time. (9:30-4:00) She has friends, loves her teachers, and is learning so much. I still prepare all of her meals, play with her in the AM and PM, bathe her, and spend all weekends and holidays with her. I will be a SAHM during the summer, as I was last year.

I think it's very hard to be a SAHM Mom during the winter. Actually, I think it's hard to be a Mom period during the NY winters--all of the layers and puffy coats and diaper bags and hats and mittens and then your own puffy coat and car keys and stroller and blahblahblahblahblahblah...


Anyway, I guess what I'm trying to say is that I like having it both ways. I'm getting paid very little now, but my position is secure and i can BREATHE. I am very lucky for this time.

I have to go back in late April. Dread.

Re: Would you quit your job and become SAHM?...

I did. I gave up a career after going to college many years, for many degrees.

I never thought it would be but being at home is HARD and exhausting. But it's the right thing for us, even though it's hard. I know I will look back and be glad that I did it. I could never deal with others watching my DD, I am too much of a control freak.

But luckily I don't have to watch my $ habits (not that I buy too much nowadays anyway).

Message edited 2/14/2010 10:58:10 PM.

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Re: Would you quit your job and become SAHM?...

No, I love what I do. I worked hard to get where I am and don't what to give it up. I was home for a year with DS#1 and I hated it. I am not cut out to be a SAHM.

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Absolutely not. Contributing to a 401(k), contributing toward my social security, career growth, etc is enough to keep me working - even if I was breaking even each month.

Our friend just died last week leaving a widow with 3 kids - a widow who worked on & off part time in accounting for the past 10 years. She's now on her own.

Another friend's marriage ended in divorce after 10 years. After getting royally screwed on the house AND child support (he's paid none for the past few years - otherwise he was paying less than $300 a month), she is the sole support.

My feeling is either by death or divorce, my marriage will end one day. If it's not me that dies, I'm the one that's supporting this family.

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I definitely would but I would probably have a home based part time business as well to earn extra money that I could use for "fun" or for savings accounts for my kids.

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Message edited 2/15/2010 5:59:48 AM.

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The question is IF money is not an issue, would you be a SAHM?

Yes. But being a SAHM is not all that glamorous and easy for all of us. While you do spend time with your child, well you DO spend A LOT of time with your child. You have to "replace" what people get paid to do at daycare... aka entertain your kid ALL DAY LONG.

I am a SAHM during the week and work on weekends when DH is off.

Sometimes I can't wait to go to work to get a break.

It does get exhausting. Especially when they have a bad day. 12+ hours of whining in a day gets old very quickly.

Yet, I love it more than working FT. And I am happy to be able to enjoy DS. Since I have been home almost 2 years ago, we can just to GTGs, go to WPF, zoo, aquarium, uncrowded beaches in the Summer. We don't need to go place only on weekends, we can run errands during the day, etc...

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yes & no, I can't decide. How about part-time. As much as I bawled going back to work last week, once i was there and I knew DS was ok and happy, then I was ok and it gave me a different kind of "break"

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a big NO!!!! I dont do anything that is fulfilling, but I need my sanity and my job is my sanity

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I go back and forth on this....Sometimes, I want to run screaming from the house when they are driving me insane. But, when I am at work, I miss them and feel guilty. I don't know......

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Re: Would you quit your job and become SAHM?...

I think I would like to work part time ideally. Somewhere close to home that I didn't have to take 5 parkways to get to Maybe some sort of consulting 2x a week.

Re: Would you quit your job and become SAHM?...

I wouldn't simply because of the field I work in...I'm a teacher and I have a teaching job in a school district that is very local to our house (less than a mile from our house) and I would be too scared to give up that job because I know so many people are struggling to get positions. I would like to take 1-2 years off when/if I have my next baby.

If I worked in a field where I could easily get a position in the future, I wouldn't hesitate!

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I think I would still get something part time. I would love to quit my full time job because I only get to see DD for about an hour and a half each day...but I don't think I could stay home all day every day. Even on maternity leave I was out of the house every day. My ILs also babysit for free so I know I could still depend on them if I got something part time.

Re: Would you quit your job and become SAHM?...

I did!!! While I worked hard for my education/license....being home with my son (only one at the time) meant more to me. I own my house outright-no mortgage and have a nice chunk in the bank/retirement. I work per diem as a consultant to keep my name in the field.

I love being a SAHM. My DH is very supportive and for me that's a big key in my happiness. I still have plenty of "adult interaction" and don't miss the working world at all.

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When I was on maternity leave I would have said yes but now that I'm back I'm not so sure. He is really doing so well in daycare and I like having my own time. I'd like to have him in day care part time and me work part time. That would be awesome.

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Ideally I would go part-time if I could. When I say "if I could", I mean if it was available to me.

I do enjoy working and DS has wonderful people caring for him while I'm at work.

I don't feel either of us is losing out at all.