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sunflowerjesss
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WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Someone very, very, very close (and when I say close I mean a family member) to us recently regifted a present to DS that we had given her child for Christmas last year.
The present was about $20. Now normally I would just say whatever and move on, but this is not the first time it has happened.
I know Christmas is not about the presents. But it is coming down to principle now.
And I am not completely anti regifting. I just feel it should be better executed and not given back to the same person that bought it.
So, if you were me, would you say something?
eta - please don't quote, I may remove.
Message edited 12/22/2010 9:33:05 AM.
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RobinG
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
eh...I wouldn't say anything, but I do agree that regifting to the original gifter is just soooooo tacky!! She must have forgotten who she got it from, right? I wouldn't say anything, because I wouldn't want to start something that could potentially grow into a big issue/. She could play the money card on you (whether it's true or not), etc. How about you buy things that your child will like for the next holiday!!  You could also suggest that maybe you don't exchange an actual gift, but do something fun with all of your kids together next year, like making a GB house or ornaments, or ice skating or something?
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| Posted 12/22/10 9:34 AM |
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BethanyLynn
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Wow! Totally tacky. I would say something in a joking way..like "hey didnt we give that to X last year..lol"
Just to make it known that you are onto her!
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| Posted 12/22/10 9:36 AM |
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jasmine
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
are you sure it was a regift? maybe her child liked it so much that she decided to buy it for yours?
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| Posted 12/22/10 9:36 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
OMG that's so funny Did she think you wouldn't realize?
I'd just give gift cards from now on 
Message edited 12/22/2010 9:37:41 AM.
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Waste06
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
If I was really peeved and didn't care about seeming ungracious...
I would say, "Oh my gosh, this is the same gift we gave XX last Christmas!! Did they like it? How often did they play with it? Did you get a lot of use out of it?? Where did you find it? Did you buy it at XX store, because it was so had to find last year. I actually thought they discontinued this model!"
All the while knowing that they simply re-gifted it back to me. I'd make big fuss about the amazing coincidence and similar tastes and watch them squirm.
Otherwise, I'd probably just b!tch to my mom or my DH about it, and just let be. That or buy their kid a really nice gift knowing that I'll just get it back again next year.
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| Posted 12/22/10 9:37 AM |
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Aries14
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Hmmm.. I don't think I would say anything either. If anything maybe something like "Oh that's so funny, I got (insert child's name) the same excat thing last year!".
Message edited 12/22/2010 9:37:59 AM.
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| Posted 12/22/10 9:37 AM |
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sunflowerjesss
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Posted by StayForever
Otherwise, I'd probably just b!tch to my mom or my DH about it, and just let be. That or buy their kid a really nice gift knowing that I'll just get it back again next year.
Funny, I said to DH I'm going to wrap it up again and give it to her youngest DS for his birthday in August.
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| Posted 12/22/10 9:43 AM |
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ali120206
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Posted by jasmine
are you sure it was a regift? maybe her child liked it so much that she decided to buy it for yours?
I was thinking this as well.
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| Posted 12/22/10 10:21 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Posted by ali120206
Posted by jasmine
are you sure it was a regift? maybe her child liked it so much that she decided to buy it for yours?
I was thinking this as well.
Me too! How do you know it was the same item?
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| Posted 12/22/10 10:46 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by ali120206
Posted by jasmine
are you sure it was a regift? maybe her child liked it so much that she decided to buy it for yours?
I was thinking this as well.
Me too! How do you know it was the same item?
That was my first thought. I've done that with some things, especially when DC really love an item. I figure if they like it, other kids the same age will, too.
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| Posted 12/22/10 11:11 AM |
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
my cousin (DS Godfather) regifted a toy to my DS and I was very upset! it's just the principal , I knew who they originally bought it for, they told me the story. then give it to my DS 
I REALLY wanted to say something, but at the end of the day I did not bc I wanted to keep the peace 
now if it were something I bought for them , I would be forced to say something, nicely of course
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| Posted 12/22/10 11:14 AM |
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jam11308
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Posted by jasmine
are you sure it was a regift? maybe her child liked it so much that she decided to buy it for yours?
I was going to ask the same thing. I often do that for my friends who have younger DC than my DS
ETA: Because of this, I wouldn't say anything...I wouldn't say anything even if I was sure it was the same exact one that I gave them though.
Message edited 12/22/2010 11:23:44 AM.
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sunflowerjesss
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Posted by GoldenRod
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by ali120206
Posted by jasmine
are you sure it was a regift? maybe her child liked it so much that she decided to buy it for yours?
I was thinking this as well.
Me too! How do you know it was the same item?
That was my first thought. I've done that with some things, especially when DC really love an item. I figure if they like it, other kids the same age will, too.
Because I checked and it is no longer being sold. 
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| Posted 12/22/10 11:38 AM |
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
are you sure it wasn't just the same item and not the same gift you gave?
I know times are tough for people right now but that is exactly why I would never re-gift - I'm afraid I would give it back to the same person!
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| Posted 12/22/10 11:42 AM |
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Momma2Be
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
DH's sister did this to us and we didn't say anything. DH and I just laughed about it and made fun of her after she left.
Not only did she re-gift the present we gave our nephew for his 1 year old birthday, she gave it back to us in the same gift bag we had wrapped it in....she never even took it out of the bag! When I reached in and pulled out the gift, we realized she even forgot to take out the birthday card we had included 
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Dulcinea
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Posted by Momma2Be
DH's sister did this to us and we didn't say anything. DH and I just laughed about it and made fun of her after she left.
Not only did she re-gift the present we gave our nephew for his 1 year old birthday, she gave it back to us in the same gift bag we had wrapped it in....she never even took it out of the bag! When I reached in and pulled out the gift, we realized she even forgot to take out the birthday card we had included
Wow, that's really thoughtless and tacky and says alot about them and what they think of your gift. They can't even be bothered to open it up?
If that happen to me, I would be mad and point it out, say something like 'I guess [nephew's name] didn't like the gift wrap, I noticed the gift we got him wasn't even opened...'
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Bridex100
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Posted by jasmine
are you sure it was a regift? maybe her child liked it so much that she decided to buy it for yours?
this was my first thought. maybe they liked it so much that they wanted to give the same to your DC?
if they really did regift, i wonder if they really forgot that you gave it to them last year or if it was some sort of signal. seems very odd and rude if this was the case!
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ali120206
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Posted by Dulcinea
Posted by Momma2Be
DH's sister did this to us and we didn't say anything. DH and I just laughed about it and made fun of her after she left.
Not only did she re-gift the present we gave our nephew for his 1 year old birthday, she gave it back to us in the same gift bag we had wrapped it in....she never even took it out of the bag! When I reached in and pulled out the gift, we realized she even forgot to take out the birthday card we had included
Wow, that's really thoughtless and tacky and says alot about them and what they think of your gift. They can't even be bothered to open it up?
If that happen to me, I would be mad and point it out, say something like 'I guess [nephew's name] didn't like the gift wrap, I noticed the gift we got him wasn't even opened...'
I would return the card - and say something like oh, somehow this got into the present you gave DS!
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BeachMom
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
I would have gone on and on about how great it was that's why you bought it for their DC last year. and ask how much their DC likes it and is that why they picked it out.
I like to be the obnoxious one in the family
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| Posted 12/22/10 1:14 PM |
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sasha96
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
I wouldn't say anything directly, but I'd probably say, "Oh, how funny! We gave that to so and so last year...she/he must have loved it!".
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Posted by BethanyLynn
Wow! Totally tacky. I would say something in a joking way..like "hey didnt we give that to X last year..lol"
Just to make it known that you are onto her!
absolutely this is exactly what i would do
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| Posted 12/22/10 1:18 PM |
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Daisy32
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Posted by Larasmommy
Posted by BethanyLynn
Wow! Totally tacky. I would say something in a joking way..like "hey didnt we give that to X last year..lol"
Just to make it known that you are onto her!
absolutely this is exactly what i would do
good idea!!! I would say something like "oh how funny we have the same taste.....b/c I'm pretty sure we got this for your son last year too!!"
Innocent enough
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| Posted 12/22/10 1:46 PM |
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mrskmurphy
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
I'd say it with a hint of sarcasm though, so they know that I know, but they can't really accuse me of being rude. lol
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| Posted 12/22/10 1:48 PM |
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Re: WWYD - Regarding receiving a regift?
Posted by sunflowerjesss
Because I checked and it is no longer being sold.
I have a friend who does the majority of her christmas shopping during the sales right AFTER christmas. So she shops for the following year (so items could be unavailable now, but she has them to give)
could be a scenario like that, or could be a re-gift. But if its a nice new item, I don't mind the re-gift of toys so much (just uber tacky that it was re-gifted to the giver).
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