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JP826
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Re: WWYD? Invited to a wedding we are not going to
If it was a family member, I would def send a check, but since it is a co-worker & someone you have never even met, I wouldn't send them anything & wouldn't feel obligated to either.
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KrisT
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Re: WWYD? Invited to a wedding we are not going to
Like some of the other posters said, I would still send a small gift. There is definitely no need to spend a lot of $$.
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| Posted 6/30/08 2:13 PM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: WWYD? Invited to a wedding we are not going to
i could never not send a gift. i usually send $100 to a wedding we don't attend, even if we're not close with the person or are low on funds. we've done this many times, especially for out of town weddings.
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| Posted 6/30/08 2:45 PM |
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CallMeMrsO
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Re: WWYD? Invited to a wedding we are not going to
Posted by 5ofClubs
I would write 0 and I would not send anything. If you don't go IMO you don't need to give a gift. I never expected anything from people that didn't go to our wedding.
ditto unless you had close ties to these people which seems like you dont- so dont worry i had family decline and they never sent me gifts it wasnt a big deal..... 
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| Posted 6/30/08 2:53 PM |
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LaurenExp
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Re: WWYD? Invited to a wedding we are not going to
If I can't attend I put a 0 in the number attending, usually say I'm sorry I can't be there and if I have a valid reason (last time I was actually going to be in Florida) and I send a check for like $50, although I don't think its necessary. A few of my no's gave gifts, some didn't.
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| Posted 6/30/08 3:02 PM |
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lucyloo
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Re: WWYD? Invited to a wedding we are not going to
0 as the number attending and something off the registry
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| Posted 6/30/08 3:55 PM |
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Bri
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Re: WWYD? Invited to a wedding we are not going to
Posted by vmac
Posted by KittyTheStray
Posted by Kara
No, you don't HAVE to buy a gift, but I would. I didn't get gifts from many of the people who didn't come to my wedding and honestly never even thought about it until today... so I doubt they'd be offended or anything if you didn't send something. That said, if I were invited to someone's wedding and couldn't go for whatever reason, I'd still send a gift, as I think it's the appropriate thing to do.
If you don't want to or can't afford to, then don't. If you can afford to send a little something, i think it would be nice, especially since this is someone your DH works with.
ITA. No one that responded 'no' to my wedding sent anything, but I personally always send a small gift if I respond no.
I agree with the above posts, I would either send a small gift or I would even send my DH to work with a card and small gift like a bottle of wine. When DH and I got married a few of his coworkers cam by his desk and gave him small gifts, and they weren't invited to the wedding. Since your DH works with him, I think it's best you send something.
I agree.
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| Posted 6/30/08 5:12 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: WWYD? Invited to a wedding we are not going to
Posted by ave1024
You may not know them and don't want to send a gift but your DH does. So you are putting him in a situation that makes him look cheap if you don't send a gift.
exactly
if there are only 5-6 co-workers and they all get a gift, except you, your DH will look cheap and it will get around
People talk.
ETA: OR - have your DH buy him dinner or drinks, then you don't have to buy a gift
Message edited 6/30/2008 5:30:22 PM.
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| Posted 6/30/08 5:28 PM |
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mrs-schrute
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Re: WWYD? Invited to a wedding we are not going to
I invited several co-workers who were not able to come to my wedding and I didn't expect a gift from them at all. If you never socialize with these people I don't think you need to send a gift. But if you were to send a small gift, I wouldn't send a check. I would send something small but useful from the registry or a gift card. HTH :)
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| Posted 6/30/08 5:52 PM |
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PegaLega
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Re: WWYD? Invited to a wedding we are not going to
Posted by MrsPorkChop
write o with a line through it and write thank you for the invite sorry we wont be able to make it
no need to send a gift, unless you are really close with them
ITA
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| Posted 6/30/08 6:05 PM |
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HillW9608
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Re: WWYD? Invited to a wedding we are not going to
Posted by stephanief
I would not send a gift either
Neither would I.. i just sent out my invitations and so far have received 1 NO.. but I def. would not expect money or a gift!!!!
Dont get me wrong, it would be nice but I would def not expect it 
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| Posted 6/30/08 6:26 PM |
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lilacwine
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Re: WWYD? Invited to a wedding we are not going to
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
Posted by ave1024
You may not know them and don't want to send a gift but your DH does. So you are putting him in a situation that makes him look cheap if you don't send a gift.
exactly
if there are only 5-6 co-workers and they all get a gift, except you, your DH will look cheap and it will get around
People talk.
ITA. Here's how I learned that people who send a "no" response send checks:
flashback - 2005
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| Posted 6/30/08 7:26 PM |
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