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em doesn't really have a 'true' schedule.... it entirely depends on her nap times....

if she got in a nice, 3 hour nap with the sitter, she'll typically be up until 10 or 11. so i get to see her for about 6 hours and dave will see her for 2 (he gets home at 9:15).

if she doesn't have a good nap - she'll fall asleep in the car on the way home and i will only see her for 4-5 hours & dave won't see her until she wakes up for food...

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My DS goes to bed about 9 but I kind of like it that way because we get about 2 1/2 hours together. My DH picks him up about 4:30, gives him a bottle and he'll take about a 45 minute nap. So when he gets up I have enought time to play, feed him and give him a bath. And because he had a little nap he's extra happy.

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7pm...I'm home some days though, but regardless, its 7pm. DH is home at 5:30 so he has the 1.5hrs w/her at the end of the day

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Im a teacher so by the time i pick her up from my moms and get home its about 3:30. 3:30 - 4:30/5ish i spend with her (feeding, playing) Then Dh gets home and spends his time with her while I cook and straighten up. After dinner we play with the jungle mat, take a bath (every other night) read a story and then she gets her bottle around 9. In bed no later than 10. So I guess all together thats about 3-4 hours

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I pick up DD at 4:30 and she goes to sleep around 8-8:30

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im bad.. DS is 4 yrs old... i get home like 5.. and he stays up till 10/10:30... on weekends hes up sometimes till midnite... hes sooo delish, and such a good boy, we have such fun together...

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I know many parents keep their kids up because they want to spend time with them and I'm not flaming anyone who does so, to each its own. Whatever works for you. In my case I would rather have my baby well rested then to keep him up so I can have him to myself. I would feel incredibly selfish doing so. I spend about 1/2 hr in the morning with him and 2 hours when I pick him up from the babysitter. He can not function without his sleep. He's always been a great sleeper and a happy baby because of it. Sleep is one of the #1 priorities on my list for him. I wouldn't deprive him of food so why would I deprive him of sleep. KWIM?
It's sad I can't have more time with him as I so wish I could, but I know as he gets older his schedule will change and eventually the time we spend together on the week will increase. So for now this is all I can have with him during the week. But in 57 days I will be off for the summer and I will be spending every moment with him. So in my case I guess I have that to look forward to!

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I went back to work FT when DS was 3 months. I always had his bedtime at 9pm. Its always what worked best for us as a family.

The one factor that we had in our favor though was that I didnt have to go to work early and my ILs came to pick him up in the AM, so I never had to wake him up early. He used to sleep 9-7:30 from about 3 months until 18 months.

Now he is 2, I am a SAHM and I still put him down at 9.

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I work full time and I get home around 530-6pm.

I TRY to keep DS up as long as I can but he usually gets cranky and wants to eat dinner at 630ish and is in bed between 7-8pm, depending on if it is a bath night, etc.

He can't keep his eyes open. So I spend maybe 2 hours with him

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I feel the same way, I dont get home from work till 6:45pm and now that he is starting day cate next week the nights I have to pick him up we wont get home until 7:30pm so I put him down at 9pm.

I dont feel its too late and I just cant give up that time with DS, feedings, bath time and story time is the best part of the day (however exhausting!!!)

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I don't get home until 7:30 on a good night but more likely 8. DS goes to bed around 9 so 1.5 hours. WOW it really s*cks when you think about it like that.

We just bought a house and my commute is about to double and it's devastating to me to think I'm never going to get to see him at night.

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I work until 4pm and i'm home by 4:15.

When jacen was a baby, he was going to bed around 6:30pm.

Now at 21 months he goes to bed around 7:30/8pm.

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We pick her up at 6ish, but we don't get home until 7:30...we were putting her to bed around 9:30 so we could spend time with her, but she was fooling around in her room for over an hour so we started putting her to bed around 8:30....so I only got to spend an hour with her during the week.

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Not enough!!!

We get 30 minutes to an hour together in the morning, not counting the car ride in. I get her at about 4:30-5, we're home half an hour later, and she goes to bed at 7.

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i feel lucky..i get to spend almost 4 solid hours with them before bedtime which is at 7pm. they are exhausted by the end of the day!

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I pick DS up around 4:15, we get home at 4:30, and he goes to bed at 8. He usually takes a nap for 45 mins of that 3.5 hours though.

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We get home about 6:30pm. During the evening, we play with DS, feed him twice, give him a bath, etc. DS goes to sleep at 9:30-10pm when we go to bed. I don't keep him awake, if he looks sleepy, he'll nap in his swing (he is napping now). I don't think it is selfish to want to spend time with him. He almost always takes an evening nap either in his swing or in our arms, which is fine with me. My son is a great sleeper, STTN all the time. He is such a happy baby and I don't think he is being harmed at all by the late bedtime.

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I pick DS up around 6 pm. He goes to bed at about 730

We are out the door at about 640 am every morning. I start work at 730am and I need to have him dropped off by 7
I cant keep him up any later because I have to wake him up so early and I feel SO bad that I have to wake him that early. Its sucks

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DS is 5 months.
We get home around 6-6:15. His bedtime routine gets started right away because he's so tired. There are times I can't even get 5 mins of playtime with him. He's asleep between 6:30-7:30.

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Athan is 2 years old

I pick him up from my mom at around 7:00 pm so I spend some time with him there and in the car going home. He usually goes to bed at around 9 so I would say I see him for about 2 hours usually on a weeknight.

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I pick my daughter up at 3:30, she goes to bed around 8:30.

reading these posts, I realize how lucky I am that I get 5 hours with her everyday.

my husband gets home around 7:15 so he only gets about an hour with her.


I like that she stays up until 8:30, otherwise she wouldn't see daddy all week. I hope it stays that way, but if she starts needing an early bedtime obviously we will adjust.