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CrankyPants
I'm cranky
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Mama Cranky
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"mom, I want you to stay home with me"
Claire usually loves day care, can't wait to go, play with her friends. She loves her teachers, they adore her.
Last night and today she says to me that she doesn't want to go to school she wants to stay home and wants me to stay home with her
I explained that mommy works, that we have lots of time together do lots of fun things and she was fine, had no problems at drop off this morning.
But, it's stuff like this that makes me think hard about the choices DH and I have made for our family. I know that we are making the right choices, I have confidence in our "plan" for our family. I also know it has only happened 2x since she was born and I know that in 2 years she will be going to regular school and it won't be a "choice" of mine that causes her to say this since all kids go to school, but still, it hits hard.
ETA: Please-don't respond with, "this is why I could never be a WM"
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Posted 7/29/10 12:45 PM  |
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maymama
my little loves
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
no advice just hugs. my son is 12 weeks and i just started back. it almost broke my heart this morning when i went into his room to kiss him goodbye this am and he was laying there playing in his crib. when he saw me, he had the BIGGEST smile on his face  it was so hard to leave the house after that. i can only imagine what it will be like when he is asking me to stay with him  
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| Posted 7/29/10 12:49 PM |
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Linda1003
love my 2 boys
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Linda
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
Im dreading when/if my son does this to me!!! I'd probably declare that day a mommy and son "holiday".
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| Posted 7/29/10 12:49 PM |
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pinkandblue
Our family is complete, maybe
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Stephanie
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
Ugh, those are the worst
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| Posted 7/29/10 12:52 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Erica
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
I'm a WM too and ok with it. I do dread the day he says that to me. That's why in the summer I took a lot of long weekend to spend with him. Although b/c we're moving now I'm saving the days for the week we move.
RIght now I drop him off and he goes to play with his fav toy then crawls to one of his fav teachers to be picked up. THis is the part that I love seeing him in daycare and seeing how happy he is there
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| Posted 7/29/10 12:52 PM |
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eddiesmommy
best buds!
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Melissa
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
Been there and its HEARTBREAKING! DS has done this a few times!
Im sorry
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| Posted 7/29/10 12:59 PM |
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Rycois
Blessed with 2blue/2pink
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J
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
I hate this part too. I know Ryan has a good day at school - once he's over me leaving, but I get a lot of fight before I go.
This morning he said, "I don't like school. I miss you when you go to work"
We all have days when we question this stuff (that's what calling in sick is for  )
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| Posted 7/29/10 1:01 PM |
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KrisT
Two Boys for Me!!
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Kristin
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
I am a working mom. My son is only 5.5 months old, but I know that it is inevitable that this is going to happen one day
Even though I am sad to leave him some mornings, I always smile as I say goodbye to him. I also tell him all the time why mom goes to work - even though he can't understand me yet
But like you said, you made the right choice for your family and that is what is most important
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| Posted 7/29/10 1:04 PM |
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dawnygirl25
Growing up soo fast..
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Dawn
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
omg this is heart wrenching. I work PT and EVERY day that i go to leave the past few weeks DD has said this. Its killing me,
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| Posted 7/29/10 1:04 PM |
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sunflowerjesss
Mommy to 3!
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
DS isn't quite that vocal yet but there have been a few times where he cries when DH leaves for work.
Breaks my heart. But I try to explain the same things to him as you did.
It just pulls on your heart strings!!
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| Posted 7/29/10 1:27 PM |
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twinkletoes807
Mommy's Girls! ♥
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Gabi
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
I am dreading the day that my DDs are able to and say this to me.
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| Posted 7/29/10 1:36 PM |
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Calla
My girls
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
I'm home, and my daughter (5) regularly asks me why I'm so boring. So, you can't win except by making yourself happy!
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| Posted 7/29/10 1:37 PM |
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LaurenExp
Waiting patiently for baby sis
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L-Diddy EDD 11/11/11 :)
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
I'm so sorry...
You know, its funny because I'm so torn. Right now I drop DS off at day care and he doesn't even care that I'm leaving...which sort of hurts. But the alternative is so painful, also.
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| Posted 7/29/10 1:52 PM |
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bluekat16
My boys :-)
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Kathy
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
Just giving you hugs
I'm sure my heart will break if DS says that to me in th e future.
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| Posted 7/29/10 2:02 PM |
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CrankyPants
I'm cranky
Member since 7/06 18178 total posts
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Mama Cranky
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
Posted by Calla
I'm home, and my daughter (5) regularly asks me why I'm so boring. So, you can't win except by making yourself happy!
 It's so true!
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| Posted 7/29/10 2:39 PM |
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Bridex100
Two Under Two Mommy
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Momx100
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
DS doesn't talk yet but he gets upset every morning that I leave. It breaks my heart everyday.
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| Posted 7/29/10 2:51 PM |
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Janice
Sweet Jessie Quinn
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
2 times since birth!
Josh tells me regularly he would like to get on a school bus and leave me.
atleast the weekend is right around the corner.
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| Posted 7/29/10 2:56 PM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
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annoyedTTCer
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
Posted by CrankyPants
Claire usually loves day care, can't wait to go, play with her friends. She loves her teachers, they adore her.
Last night and today she says to me that she doesn't want to go to school she wants to stay home and wants me to stay home with her
I explained that mommy works, that we have lots of time together do lots of fun things and she was fine, had no problems at drop off this morning.
But, it's stuff like this that makes me think hard about the choices DH and I have made for our family. I know that we are making the right choices, I have confidence in our "plan" for our family. I also know it has only happened 2x since she was born and I know that in 2 years she will be going to regular school and it won't be a "choice" of mine that causes her to say this since all kids go to school, but still, it hits hard.
ETA: Please-don't respond with, "this is why I could never be a WM"
I said the same thing to my mom and dad as a kid and they told me they work so we can have a nice home and money to do things when school/work at out
I remember that talk like it was yesterday and its the same thing I will tell Logan when it comes up.
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| Posted 7/29/10 3:15 PM |
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azoodie
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
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Xelindrya
Mommy's little YouTube Star!
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Veronica
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
Ugh that has to hurt.
*note to self* Plan mommy & me days monthly if I can manage it.
I'm actually thinking of taking off on August 3rd to stay home with my little one and veg.
I love working. I love all the parts of it. I am 100% comfortable with what I am doing for her and our family. I am also the breadwinner here so its not even remotely an option to not work.
I know she's gonna hurt me like this though. 
I'm still dreading the day she says "I hate you!"
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| Posted 7/29/10 3:42 PM |
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Bxgell2
Perfection
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
It hurts - definitely stings when that happens. I try to do 2 things when it does - first, I make a point of taking a day off in the near future and having a fun day with the girls when I feel like they, and I, need it.
Second, I try to remember that, at the end of the day, I'm working to improve all of our lives, including myself, and that I am setting a wonderful example for my daughters that they can balance having a family and career aspirations.
And, as much as it hurts, there are other moments when I feel like my heart is going to leap out of my chest, like when Alex tells me she wants to be just like me, a lawyer, when she grows up  Or, when she brags to her teachers about her mommy who helps other children 
And, by the same token, it all balances out - there are days when Alex literally pushes me out the door at school, or tells me to go to work or go home while she plays with her friends. Or, days when Yael literally leaps into her teacher's arms in the morning.
It all evens out in the end....
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| Posted 7/29/10 3:44 PM |
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MsMBV
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Me
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
DS is on this kick lately too. It is heart-wrenching, and after I calmly tell him that it is ok to be sad, but I still have to go. I usually get into my car & have a breakdown.
But I think it is just a phase, and he'll soon realise that staying home with mommy may not be as fun as school
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| Posted 7/29/10 4:05 PM |
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6plusnoodles
LIF Zygote
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
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| Posted 7/29/10 4:37 PM |
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brownie
Baby #1 is here!
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Re: "mom, I want you to stay home with me"
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