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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Posted by NervousNell
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Never. I have been telling DH we should start, but he trusts no one besides the grandparents.
I'm pretty much the same. I don't trust anyone except my sister and parents. I don't even want a stranger in my house at all to be honest
Date night happens if the grandparents are available... that’s it...
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Posted 10/4/17 12:14 PM |
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nraboni
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How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
I chose "other" because we never do. The only time we use a sitter is if we have an event that we must attend.
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Posted 10/4/17 12:41 PM |
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b2b777
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How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
I chose other because we use grandparents and siblings as sitters when we need to and once every couple months when we have a date. However I work FT and have a babysitter that watches my kids while im at work. I dont use her for sitting on the weekends though -- that would just be too much on her. Unless it was an emergency I would never ask. I am currently considering hiring a sitter for occasional date nights. I have a great reference but have subconsciously been putting it off.
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Posted 10/4/17 1:09 PM |
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
maybe every 4-5 weeks? Depends - sometimes we go to a concert, sometimes its for a friends party or birthday type of thing, and sometimes its just we need some time alone together.
We go out plenty with DS, but we do need adult time out too at nice places!
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Posted 10/4/17 1:44 PM |
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AliceCullen
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Never. We have no reliable family and I don't trust a stranger in my house. We will have a "date day" every couple of months where we take a day off of work while our son is in daycare. We usually go to a movie and early dinner.
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Posted 10/4/17 2:47 PM |
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Maybe once every 2 months or so.
ETA we usually use one of my IL's to babysit
Message edited 10/4/2017 3:38:20 PM.
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Posted 10/4/17 3:37 PM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Usually about twice a month. We're fortunate to have sitters who we trust and who are available regularly.
I'd be happy just making a bonfire in the backyard and sitting out there with DH after the kids are in bed, but it's also nice sometimes to get dressed up and act like fancy adults once in a while too lol.
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Posted 10/4/17 4:50 PM |
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ml110
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How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Hardly ever. We don't have family close. And I just have a hard time trusting sitters- my boys are a handful!!! Plus all the making sure the house is straightened up fir the sitter, that they know where everything is, that the boys get fed before or while she's here, and the money.... it's just easier not to go out. If we had family close that offered, I'd go out all the time! lol my parents are 2 hours away and my in laws are 4.5 hours away. But my in laws don't even offer to watch the boys- even when we saw them 2 weeks ago and it was my husband's birthday, they didn't even say "you guys go out for dinner, we'll watch the kids" It's annoying especially since I'm a SAHM and with them all the time..... but it's just how it is until they're old enough for us to leave them alone....
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Posted 10/4/17 5:00 PM |
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MrsO
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
We do it a few times a year. We have 4 kids so it is tough to leave someone with them all. I think that is great you do it once a month. Keep it up and your helping your kids and not harming them.
I would love to do once a month
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Posted 10/4/17 5:01 PM |
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PitterPatter11
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How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
We were going once a month from January-May and then we got busy. We went away for our anniversary in July. I hope to start up once a month again next month.
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Posted 10/4/17 5:19 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
My parents watch my DS while we go out for half the day (like 3ish till 11 or so) I wanna say on average 2-3 times a month. Sometimes more, sometimes less. It all depends. This weekend since we have plans Saturday and Sunday evening, they're watching him both nights. I feel VERY lucky.
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Posted 10/4/17 6:31 PM |
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bunnyluck
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How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
At least once a month! But ideally 2 to 3 times a month. The sitter is either my mom, a close friend of mine, or my cousin who we pay. We used to use a sitter we found on care.com who was fantastic but has since graduated and she works weekends as a Nurse.
Date night is essential to us. We both are stretched extremely thin between work, the kids, dh is in also in school part time and other priorities. We get almost no quality time together during the week so we really prioritize one on one time as much as possible. We love doing dinner, drinks, listening to any kind of live music,and doing an occassional overnight (NYC or AC). We do that maybe quarterly.
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Posted 10/4/17 7:33 PM |
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Sparrow
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Posted by OhBaby2
Just wanted to a take a little poll to see how often other parents are getting out for date nights. I don't mean if you use a sitter to watch your kids for overall daily/weekly childcare purposes... more like the evening out for dinner with your SO and/or friends.
Recently, DH and I have been on a once a week kind of pattern and sometimes I wonder if that's too often to be leaving the kids (although it's usually in the evening only an hour or so before their bedtime anyway). At the same time, having those evenings out gives us much needed alone time that we really appreciate so I think that's important too.
How about everyone else?
ETA: I meant just like an out for a few hours kind of sitter or relative watching your kids, not like an overnighter. Although some weeks I wish I could do that more often
Do you mean a literal sitter or anyone who is watching your kids, family included? I see several people saying never but I'm assuming they do go out with family babysitting.
I've never hired an actual babysitter but my mom babysits for us once or twice a month and we go out to dinner or run errands during the day on the weekend.
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Posted 10/4/17 8:01 PM |
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
My kids have never slept over anyone's house, and both grandparents live five minutes away. I once drove to Baltimore and back in one day and picked up my little guy (he was maybe a year old?)
My husband and I used to go out maybe once a week and drop the kids off in the evenings at grandmas , usually so we can run errands and wewind up scarfing down any sort of meal as quick as we can tonget them home for bed. Our thing is concerts so we def have one of our parents come over for that.
Now that we just had a third, we don't go out as often
Although I often think about just checking into a hotel one town over so I can take a shower and a nap in peace lol
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Posted 10/4/17 8:36 PM |
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MrsG823
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How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Never.
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Posted 10/5/17 12:25 AM |
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Posted by Sparrow
Posted by OhBaby2
Just wanted to a take a little poll to see how often other parents are getting out for date nights. I don't mean if you use a sitter to watch your kids for overall daily/weekly childcare purposes... more like the evening out for dinner with your SO and/or friends.
Recently, DH and I have been on a once a week kind of pattern and sometimes I wonder if that's too often to be leaving the kids (although it's usually in the evening only an hour or so before their bedtime anyway). At the same time, having those evenings out gives us much needed alone time that we really appreciate so I think that's important too.
How about everyone else?
ETA: I meant just like an out for a few hours kind of sitter or relative watching your kids, not like an overnighter. Although some weeks I wish I could do that more often
Do you mean a literal sitter or anyone who is watching your kids, family included? I see several people saying never but I'm assuming they do go out with family babysitting.
I've never hired an actual babysitter but my mom babysits for us once or twice a month and we go out to dinner or run errands during the day on the weekend.
Either a hired sitter or family/grandparents DH and I moved 6 months ago and went from having my mom, my SIL and a trusted sitter to literally knowing no one to watch our kids and thankfully through a service we found a lovely woman who has been great for letting us get out for some adult time. When my mom came to visit recently, she watched our boys do we could go out to dinner for our anniversary but she'll probably only come once every 6 months or so.
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Posted 10/5/17 3:26 AM |
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
About three times a month sometimes less sometimes more.
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Posted 10/5/17 9:19 AM |
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
4 times ever and my oldest is 8. 3 of the times have all ocurred in the last 2 years. And the sitter that I had that I really trusted with my boys has now moved away We have no family anywhere close by (1,000 miles away) so now we'll go back to zero date nights. When we lived in NY we only went out to dinner once and left DS1 with my parents.
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Posted 10/5/17 9:23 AM |
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Wow! I am so surprised at all the nevers! We go out all the time. We are cutting back expenses so we are trying to rely only on family but I still feel like we make it out a decent amount.
I am curious as to what is stopping most people? Is it not trusting other people to watch your kids? Is it financial? Is it having no desire to go out alone as adults? We are very lucky because we have family nearby, but even in the past we had a handful of hired babysitters that our kids really love!
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Posted 10/5/17 9:38 AM |
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Posted by lululu
Wow! I am so surprised at all the nevers! We go out all the time. We are cutting back expenses so we are trying to rely only on family but I still feel like we make it out a decent amount.
I am curious as to what is stopping most people? Is it not trusting other people to watch your kids? Is it financial? Is it having no desire to go out alone as adults? We are very lucky because we have family nearby, but even in the past we had a handful of hired babysitters that our kids really love!
I don't trust anyone other than my parents and my sister to watch my DD and especially in my home. I don't like to burden my parents -as they have a life of their own and my sister -as she has kids of her own-- too often. We take DD everywhere with us. She can sit in a fine restaurant. DH doesn't drink so it's not like we will be going out to bars or sitting at a bar having drinks or anything like that. Our nights out are dinner pretty much. And she comes with us. Every Saturday night we go out to dinner with her. I don't find that we talk about or do anything different when we are out to dinner alone. To me, it's pretty much the same. I go out often for work with clients etc- to restaurants and bars and sometimes to events like concerts or sporting events that are sponsored by vendors- so on the weekend I'm over it. I have my fill of adult time, bars, restaurants, etc I'd prefer to stay home, and relax, with my family.
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Posted 10/5/17 10:06 AM |
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Posted by TwinMommyToBoys
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Mago
Never. I have been telling DH we should start, but he trusts no one besides the grandparents.
I'm pretty much the same. I don't trust anyone except my sister and parents. I don't even want a stranger in my house at all to be honest
Date night happens if the grandparents are available... that’s it...
same here--my parents, in laws and my brother and sil. Believe me they don't offer or watch them often so we don't get many date nights, couple times a year.
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Posted 10/5/17 10:57 AM |
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Posted by lululu
Wow! I am so surprised at all the nevers! We go out all the time. We are cutting back expenses so we are trying to rely only on family but I still feel like we make it out a decent amount.
I am curious as to what is stopping most people? Is it not trusting other people to watch your kids? Is it financial? Is it having no desire to go out alone as adults? We are very lucky because we have family nearby, but even in the past we had a handful of hired babysitters that our kids really love!
I don't want a stranger watching my children or in my home. My brother and SIL offer, my SIL's cousins have actually watched also. My in laws will do an over night occasionally ( maybe 4 times a year)< my parents will do for us to go to dinner. It works out. As they get older I may feel differently.
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Posted 10/5/17 11:00 AM |
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Posted by lululu
Wow! I am so surprised at all the nevers! We go out all the time. We are cutting back expenses so we are trying to rely only on family but I still feel like we make it out a decent amount.
I am curious as to what is stopping most people? Is it not trusting other people to watch your kids? Is it financial? Is it having no desire to go out alone as adults? We are very lucky because we have family nearby, but even in the past we had a handful of hired babysitters that our kids really love!
For me, it's because my son is special needs so I can't just hire any babysitter to watch him, so we can only can rely on our parents. We usually ask our IL's more because my parents see the kids often (they live nearby) so it gives the IL's a chance to see the kids.
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Posted 10/5/17 11:16 AM |
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Posted by lululu
Wow! I am so surprised at all the nevers! We go out all the time. We are cutting back expenses so we are trying to rely only on family but I still feel like we make it out a decent amount.
I am curious as to what is stopping most people? Is it not trusting other people to watch your kids? Is it financial? Is it having no desire to go out alone as adults? We are very lucky because we have family nearby, but even in the past we had a handful of hired babysitters that our kids really love!
I generally do not trust non-family members watching my daughter. I have a couple of friends I trust but they are busy mom’s too. My husband works a lot and spends a lot of time traveling for work—sometimes for 1-2 months at a time. We enjoy family time when he is home. My daughter is 3.5 and loves going out to dinner with us—she is well behaved in restaurants-she is in bed most nights by 8:30 so dh and I have plenty of alone time. It is difficult for me to justify spending $20 an hour on a sitter just to go out and eat. I am a SAHM and we are living on one salary for the past 4 years and paying for our health insurance through a private policy since my dh is a small business owner. That $60-$80 we save every week on a sitter adds up. It allows us to go on vacation and also allows dd and I to visit dh while he is away for extended periods of time. My dh and I had our daughter in our late 30’s so we had a lot of time to enjoy going out alone- we are happy with our life and our choices.
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Posted 10/5/17 11:19 AM |
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Re: How often do you use a sitter for date nights?
Posted by lululu
Wow! I am so surprised at all the nevers! We go out all the time. We are cutting back expenses so we are trying to rely only on family but I still feel like we make it out a decent amount.
I am curious as to what is stopping most people? Is it not trusting other people to watch your kids? Is it financial? Is it having no desire to go out alone as adults? We are very lucky because we have family nearby, but even in the past we had a handful of hired babysitters that our kids really love!
If we didn't have DD's daycare teachers to watch her we'd probably never go out.We obviously trust them, they're trained to watch kids and they know DD (and vice versa). I don't think I could leave her with someone I didn't know and we have ZERO family around to help. So for someone with no family and no babysitting contacts I could see it being very difficult.
It's also not cheap, a dinner out and babysitting ends up costing several hundred dollars. It's worth it to us because we never have a second where we aren't 'on' whether we're at work or with DD but I could absolutely see it not being worth it to others.
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Posted 10/5/17 1:02 PM |
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