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MrsK
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CIO
At what age did you start to let your child cio to go to bed??
Just curious??
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Posted 8/29/07 4:05 PM  |
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pinkandblue
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Re: CIO
at around 3 1/2 months, we started to let her cry for a few minutes (about 10) before going in to soothe her..she was doing great but now she is teething (again) and it is pretty bad so I have been rocking her to sleep but we are going to try to CIO again tonight
good luck
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| Posted 8/29/07 4:18 PM |
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CkGm
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Re: CIO
We did it with Grace for naps at 4mths but modified- I would only let her cry for a few minutes. Then full out for night time at 5 months. It has worked great for her. Now she will either go down without crying at all or cry for about a minute or so. She also now sleeps through the night and didn't before. But it wasn't really tramautic to do- I don't think I would have done it with her if she cried for more than 20 minutes ever. She never did.
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| Posted 8/29/07 4:19 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: CIO
We started at 2 months but that was because we had to take him out of the swing cold turkey (neck issues).
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| Posted 8/29/07 4:21 PM |
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johnsae
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Re: CIO
We started last week (9 weeks) and it's been AWESOME. The first night she cried for 50 minutes, second night 40 minutes, 3rd night she didn't cry at all, 4th she cried for 10 min and last night she didn't cry at all! And she's been sleeping through the night each time we do CIO. Highly recommend it.
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| Posted 8/29/07 4:23 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: CIO
I wanted to add that even when we do CIO, I will rock her for a few minutes and then put her into her crib, it is important that you put them in the crib tired but not sleeping.....
I hope tonight goes smoothly for us, teething and all 
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| Posted 8/29/07 4:24 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: CIO
Posted by johnsae
We started last week (9 weeks) and it's been AWESOME. The first night she cried for 50 minutes, second night 40 minutes, 3rd night she didn't cry at all, 4th she cried for 10 min and last night she didn't cry at all! And she's been sleeping through the night each time we do CIO. Highly recommend it.
wow, I admire your strength, I could not let her cry for more than 20 minutes, I do not know why, it breaks my heart
Luckily, Mikayla usually is sleeping after 5 minutes or so
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| Posted 8/29/07 4:25 PM |
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johnsae
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Re: CIO
Posted by stephanief
Posted by johnsae
We started last week (9 weeks) and it's been AWESOME. The first night she cried for 50 minutes, second night 40 minutes, 3rd night she didn't cry at all, 4th she cried for 10 min and last night she didn't cry at all! And she's been sleeping through the night each time we do CIO. Highly recommend it.
wow, I admire your strength, I could not let her cry for more than 20 minutes, I do not know why, it breaks my heart
Luckily, Mikayla usually is sleeping after 5 minutes or so
Well, DD was having issues with waking up every time we put her down in her crib. I would literally be spending 4 hours a day trying to get her to go back to sleep over and over again. Now I put her in her crib when she is drowsy and not asleep. So, hearing her cry a little is less exhausting then staying awake for hours on end trying to soothe her back to sleep. It works for us. 
Message edited 8/29/2007 4:28:58 PM.
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| Posted 8/29/07 4:28 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: CIO
Posted by johnsae
Posted by stephanief
Posted by johnsae
We started last week (9 weeks) and it's been AWESOME. The first night she cried for 50 minutes, second night 40 minutes, 3rd night she didn't cry at all, 4th she cried for 10 min and last night she didn't cry at all! And she's been sleeping through the night each time we do CIO. Highly recommend it.
wow, I admire your strength, I could not let her cry for more than 20 minutes, I do not know why, it breaks my heart
Luckily, Mikayla usually is sleeping after 5 minutes or so
Well, DD was having issues with waking up every time we put her down in her crib. I would literally be spending 4 hours a day trying to get her to go back to sleep over and over again. Now I put her in her crib when she is drowsy and not asleep. So, hearing her cry a little is less exhausting then staying awake for hours on end trying to soothe her back to sleep. It works for us.
That is so good that it is working well, I may need to go back to CIO with Mikayla...damn teething 
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| Posted 8/29/07 4:53 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: CIO
Posted by johnsae
Posted by stephanief
Posted by johnsae
We started last week (9 weeks) and it's been AWESOME. The first night she cried for 50 minutes, second night 40 minutes, 3rd night she didn't cry at all, 4th she cried for 10 min and last night she didn't cry at all! And she's been sleeping through the night each time we do CIO. Highly recommend it.
wow, I admire your strength, I could not let her cry for more than 20 minutes, I do not know why, it breaks my heart
Luckily, Mikayla usually is sleeping after 5 minutes or so
Well, DD was having issues with waking up every time we put her down in her crib. I would literally be spending 4 hours a day trying to get her to go back to sleep over and over again. Now I put her in her crib when she is drowsy and not asleep. So, hearing her cry a little is less exhausting then staying awake for hours on end trying to soothe her back to sleep. It works for us.
That is so good that it is working well, I may need to go back to CIO with Mikayla...damn teething
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| Posted 8/29/07 4:53 PM |
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waytogo
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Re: CIO
Around 5 months since he was starting school and for some reason I was terrified that he'd get kicked out...
He did a couple of 45 minute+ crying sessions and has been great ever since. I never let him CIO overnight since I always felt he had a reason...At 8 months he's now sleeping 10-12 hours a night straight no waking 
Now he's talking and will say dadada when he's awake as opposed to crying his sleepy cry so we know when he's sleepy and when he's awake...
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| Posted 8/29/07 9:13 PM |
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MrsK
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Re: CIO
Thanks for your responses!
DD is only going to be 2 months. I was thinking about giving it a try in a about a month but wanted to make sure 3 months was to little still. right now she will olny fall asleep in the swing or if I rock her....then she pops right up as soon as I lay her down! She will NOT take the paci so it's been difficult.
I'll give it a try if she's still difficult in another month. It takes me about 2-3 hours to put her to bed for the night now
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| Posted 8/29/07 9:18 PM |
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Lucky
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Re: CIO
Posted by MrsK
Thanks for your responses!
DD is only going to be 2 months. I was thinking about giving it a try in a about a month but wanted to make sure 3 months was to little still. right now she will olny fall asleep in the swing or if I rock her....then she pops right up as soon as I lay her down! She will NOT take the paci so it's been difficult.
I'll give it a try if she's still difficult in another month. It takes me about 2-3 hours to put her to bed for the night now
That's a really long time. Your DD is young though. Do you have any bedtime routine going yet? If not, you might want to think about it. Are you sure when you start trying to get her to sleep that she is tired and/or not overtired? The sleep thing can be so tricky...there are so many things to consider.
We did a modified CIO at about 5 months. We didn't do the full CIO. I couldn't handle it. But I did get DD to take the paci and get hooked on a lovey. Those 2 things really helped. Now she can't fall asleep without either one....we've created a monster!!!
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: CIO
We started last week (9 weeks) and it's been AWESOME. The first night she cried for 50 minutes, second night 40 minutes, 3rd night she didn't cry at all, 4th she cried for 10 min and last night she didn't cry at all! And she's been sleeping through the night each time we do CIO. Highly recommend it.
IMO 9 weeks, even 5 months, is too young to let a baby CIO for 50 min. I won't let DS cry for more than 15-20 min. at the most. I actually think it is mean in a way. I dont think you can spoil a child at that age. They are looking to be held and rocked b/c they need it for their growth and development. Of course you do not want to hold them all night, b/c if you do it constantly you can establish bad habits, but if an infant is crying for that long IMO they need something or want something. I won't let DS cry for that long b/c I dont even think it is healthy for them to get all worked up and sweaty and they are scared. They don't know any better. They are looking for reassurance that the only people in the world who they know and trust are there for them to comfort them and soothe them when they need it most. When I put DS down, if he is fussy I try to rub his back and tell him it's ok and try to calm him down. If he cries for a few minutes than I will pick him up and rock him, kiss him and tell him it is ok and help him to calm down, than put him back in his crib. Maybe I am up and down for an hour or so trying to calm him down, but I could never leave him there alone and let him cry that young. It's not like he is 2 having a temper tantrum b/c he doesnt want to go to sleep or he wants to sleep with mommy or daddy. This is JMO.
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| Posted 8/29/07 10:21 PM |
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Re: CIO
I also would never let a baby as young as 9 weeks CIO!!! They are NOT developmentally ready for this. Many peds do not recommend it until 5 months old - big difference.
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| Posted 8/29/07 10:48 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: CIO
Posted by jellybean1420
We started last week (9 weeks) and it's been AWESOME. The first night she cried for 50 minutes, second night 40 minutes, 3rd night she didn't cry at all, 4th she cried for 10 min and last night she didn't cry at all! And she's been sleeping through the night each time we do CIO. Highly recommend it.
IMO 9 weeks, even 5 months, is too young to let a baby CIO for 50 min. I won't let DS cry for more than 15-20 min. at the most. I actually think it is mean in a way. I dont think you can spoil a child at that age. They are looking to be held and rocked b/c they need it for their growth and development. Of course you do not want to hold them all night, b/c if you do it constantly you can establish bad habits, but if an infant is crying for that long IMO they need something or want something. I won't let DS cry for that long b/c I dont even think it is healthy for them to get all worked up and sweaty and they are scared. They don't know any better. They are looking for reassurance that the only people in the world who they know and trust are there for them to comfort them and soothe them when they need it most. When I put DS down, if he is fussy I try to rub his back and tell him it's ok and try to calm him down. If he cries for a few minutes than I will pick him up and rock him, kiss him and tell him it is ok and help him to calm down, than put him back in his crib. Maybe I am up and down for an hour or so trying to calm him down, but I could never leave him there alone and let him cry that young. It's not like he is 2 having a temper tantrum b/c he doesnt want to go to sleep or he wants to sleep with mommy or daddy. This is JMO.
Thank you. I couldn't have said it better myself.
Even doctors don't recommend CIO before 4 months. 9 weeks is way too young in probably any experts opinion and definitely not for 50 minutes. Sorry but that is just cruel IMO.
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| Posted 8/29/07 11:05 PM |
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NS1976
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Re: CIO
Thank you. I couldn't have said it better myself.
Even doctors don't recommend CIO before 4 months. 9 weeks is way too young in probably any experts opinion and definitely not for 50 minutes. Sorry but that is just cruel IMO.
I 100% AGREE!!!!!!!!!!! That is definately cruel and unnecessary imo. I actually feel really bad for your baby to be honest.
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| Posted 8/29/07 11:50 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: CIO
Posted by nycchic24
Thank you. I couldn't have said it better myself.
Even doctors don't recommend CIO before 4 months. 9 weeks is way too young in probably any experts opinion and definitely not for 50 minutes. Sorry but that is just cruel IMO.
I 100% AGREE!!!!!!!!!!! That is definately cruel and unnecessary imo. I actually feel really bad for your baby to be honest.
I have to agree, as well. And I am absolutely PRO-cio. I have my own daughter CIO. I even think that 4 months is too early. I didn't start CIO until my daughter was 8 months old.
I highly recommend reading some literature on CIO. Here's a snippet from Ferber's revised book:
Cry it out. In the preface of the new book, Ferber takes pains to clarify his position: "Simply leaving a child in a crib to cry for long periods alone until he falls sleep, no matter how long it takes, is not an approach I approve of. On the contrary, many of the approaches I recommend are designed specifically to avoid unnecessary crying." Ferber's "progressive waiting" technique encourages parents to frequently comfort their child during the sleep training process.
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| Posted 8/29/07 11:55 PM |
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mamaA
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Re: CIO
Sorry, have to agree- 50 minutes, seems negelctful- did you actually read about how the technique works before you did this?
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| Posted 8/29/07 11:57 PM |
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mamaA
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Re: CIO
Posted by johnsae
We started last week (9 weeks) and it's been AWESOME. The first night she cried for 50 minutes, second night 40 minutes, 3rd night she didn't cry at all, 4th she cried for 10 min and last night she didn't cry at all! And she's been sleeping through the night each time we do CIO. Highly recommend it.
I keep re reading to make sure I read this right in the first place?! Are you for real? What makes you think a nine week old should be sleeping through the night in the first place? My son was still waking for feedings until well after three months in the middle of the night?!!!!!!!! Don't you think she's HUNGRY?!
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| Posted 8/30/07 12:07 AM |
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monkeybride
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Re: CIO
Posted by johnsae
We started last week (9 weeks) and it's been AWESOME. The first night she cried for 50 minutes, second night 40 minutes, 3rd night she didn't cry at all, 4th she cried for 10 min and last night she didn't cry at all! And she's been sleeping through the night each time we do CIO. Highly recommend it.
OK I really can't stop thinking about this. My mind has been spinning since I read this. I literally want to cry for your baby. Please, please, please seek some expert advice on CIO before you do this with your helpless 9 week old infant. She needs to be held and comforted and reassured that the world around her is safe and OK no left alone in her crib to cry for an hour.
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| Posted 8/30/07 12:07 AM |
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mamaA
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Re: CIO
Posted by monkeybride
Posted by johnsae
We started last week (9 weeks) and it's been AWESOME. The first night she cried for 50 minutes, second night 40 minutes, 3rd night she didn't cry at all, 4th she cried for 10 min and last night she didn't cry at all! And she's been sleeping through the night each time we do CIO. Highly recommend it.
OK I really can't stop thinking about this. My mind has been spinning since I read this. I literally want to cry for your baby. Please, please, please seek some expert advice on CIO before you do this with your helpless 9 week old infant. She needs to be held and comforted and reassured that the world around her is safe and OK no left alone in her crib to cry for an hour.
Did yiu see what I posted at the same time as you?! Smart moms think alike! I'm flaber friggin gasted!
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| Posted 8/30/07 12:08 AM |
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mamaA
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Re: CIO
Posted by johnsae
Posted by stephanief
Posted by johnsae
We started last week (9 weeks) and it's been AWESOME. The first night she cried for 50 minutes, second night 40 minutes, 3rd night she didn't cry at all, 4th she cried for 10 min and last night she didn't cry at all! And she's been sleeping through the night each time we do CIO. Highly recommend it.
wow, I admire your strength, I could not let her cry for more than 20 minutes, I do not know why, it breaks my heart
Luckily, Mikayla usually is sleeping after 5 minutes or so
Well, DD was having issues with waking up every time we put her down in her crib. I would literally be spending 4 hours a day trying to get her to go back to sleep over and over again. Now I put her in her crib when she is drowsy and not asleep. So, hearing her cry a little is less exhausting then staying awake for hours on end trying to soothe her back to sleep. It works for us.
Welcome to the world of parneting! That's what life is like with EVERY 9 month old!
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| Posted 8/30/07 12:10 AM |
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Kidsaplenty
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Re: CIO
Posted by monkeybride
OK I really can't stop thinking about this. My mind has been spinning since I read this. I literally want to cry for your baby. Please, please, please seek some expert advice on CIO before you do this with your helpless 9 week old infant. She needs to be held and comforted and reassured that the world around her is safe and OK no left alone in her crib to cry for an hour.
I agree. Please reconsider this approach. EVERY 9 week old acts that way.
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| Posted 8/30/07 12:22 AM |
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CaidensMommy
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Re: CIO
My Pediatrician said not to do CIO until they're at least 6 months old, then he recommends it to parents if necessary. With Caiden we tried it at 6 months old and it wasn't working and he wasn't ready but then we tried again at 8 months old and it worked great. With Connor who is almost 1 year we first tried a month or so ago and it didn't work and I tried it again tonight and it worked. (Knock on wood!  ) I definitely wouldn't even think about doing it until 6 months myself. Anything younger they say is cruel, that the baby needs to be comforted, etc.
Good luck!
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