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casey31
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We did CIO at 5-6 months. Matty was waking up every 2-3 hours and I was working and wanted to die from exhaustion. We coincided it with nap training too. I never let him cry more than 10-15 minutes- we would go in and say shhh we love you, it's sleepy time and give him his binky. Gradually he started to improve- he is now 9 months old and has JUST started sleeping though from 8-6. I was tough about not picking him up, but I HAD to go in to let him know we were still there and loved him.

ETA- also, we had to do CIO from 5-6am- we did it one day recently- he cried on and off for about 40 minutes- I went in every five minutes and kissed him and laid him back down but I was firm that it was still night time. He has not woken up before 5:45 since....

Posted 8/30/07 10:57 AM

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Posted by maybebaby

Johnsae-I'm sorry you were hurt and made to feel like a neglectful mom...that isn't fair to you, and I'm sure you are doing what you think works for you guys....

I think sometimes people forget that some babies are so so different from others. If a mom is struggling with a baby that cries and cries for no apparent reason for hours on end, I'm sure you feel desperate and do what you can.

In the defense of anyone who responded to you though, I have to admit that I too think 9 weeks is a tad young ONLY because like others said..their nervous system is still immature, sleep patterns are ALWAYS erratic for little babies and sometimes they just need that comfort of being held. That's all.

I think the CIO is established at a certain age for a reason, when babies are at the point of being able to self soothe. Most would agree that 9 week olds haven't mastered that.

At any rate, don't take it to heart, I think we all have our struggles!!

Thank you so much for your post. After the initial posts this morning I seriously felt ill b/c I felt that I had been a bad mother (even though I knew what we did worked). Anyway, thanks for your support. I understand that what we did hasn't been a popular decision. But, it's done and she is still a happy and very loved baby.

Posted 8/30/07 11:16 AM

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Posted by stephanief

well last night, I said I was going to put Mikayla in her crib and leave the room, and let her cry....GASP, hope that does not make me a neglectful mom

She cried for 15 minutes and then was sound asleep....first night success....

Alicia, I am sorry you feel that you have to defend yourself...you need to do what works for your family....

Thanks Steph. Chat Icon

I'm so glad it worked out for you last night. And thanks for sticking up for me. Every family IS different and we did what we did not out of neglect, but it was b/c we thought it would work for our baby and it did. Perhaps we should have waited another month or so to do it, but that is hindsight now....if we have another baby I will wait a little longer to try CIO.

Posted 8/30/07 11:18 AM

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Posted by bayla

johnsae- i am also sorry that the criticism has been harsh, i cant offer any advice on this b/c we haven't even had to think about CIO as we are lucky that my DS is a great night sleeper right now, plus he is only 2 months old and me and my DH feel that if they are crying then yes something is not right and they need that comfort and stability from being held and cuddled from their parents. it breaks my heart to hear him cry for even 5 minutes.

with that being said, i also agree with the poster who said we dont know what goes on in a home and every child is so different and i think that you need to do whats good for YOUR child, however if crying/sleep is an issue then def talk to your pediatrician-even just for some advice, my DS doesnt nap great during the day unless he is held and i spoke to my Pediatrician and he was not concerned at all, and said thats what 2 month olds do and be thankful he sleeps through the night.

I think you are a great parent (even though i dont know you personally- just from your previous posts-you seem to really have it together), so dont think that what anyone says here, positive or negative, can change that. plus everyone here is entitled to their opinions and of course we all have our own beliefs and values so of course people don't always agree

Thank you

Posted 8/30/07 11:19 AM

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Never.

Well, I shouldn't say never. At around 8 or 8 1/2 months, he started crying while he was 1/2 asleep. Whether I held him or put him down. So, I would let him cry. He would usually fall asleep fully in 5 minutes or so. But, if he started to really cry and wake back up, I would go in and soothe him again.

I just can't let him cry. Chat Icon He's just a baby.