Do you wish you had kids earlier/later?

I had DS#1 at age 30 and will be having DS#2 at age 32. I had children exactly when I planned and wanted.

Most of our friends still don't have children. They continue to focus on their careers and travel around the world. I can't help but wish that we waited a few years so that my friends and I could be on the same page. In my circles, it seems much more common to have kids later (35+). I have made new mommy friends but it's definitely different from sharing the parenting journey with my closest friends pre-baby.

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Had DD 1 when I was 33. DD 2 will be here when im 34. I think its perfect. Alot of our friends still do not have kids so we are in the same boat as you

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I had DD when I was 27. I wish we had babies earlier, just b/c I want like 20 of them now.

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I had my twins at 23 and another at 25

It's exactly what I wanted and am very happy that it happened that way

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I had DS1 when I was 26 and DS2 when I was 29. I think I was pretty on target to when I wanted to have kids.

DH and I were talking about this today and he told me today, "you can be a grandma by the time your 50"

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I had my DS at 17. Goes without saying that I should have waited... But if I hadnt, things would not have worked out as well for me in my life as they have, so I am grateful. DD1 and DD2, I had exactly when I wanted. I was 23 and 26, respectively. I really like being a young mom.

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Posted by Mommy2Boys


DH and I were talking about this today and he told me today, "you can be a grandma by the time your 50"

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DD when I was 28
DS when I was 30!

Perfect timing for me!

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I wish I had them earlier. I had DS at 32 and will have DC#2 at 36.

Life didn't work out that way though... and I'm very happy as things turned out. I have friends who have much older kids because they had them earlier and friends who are just starting to have kids.

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Very content with my age, DH's age, and age we had our children.

When DS was born I was 25, DH 27. When the twins come I will have just turned 28 and DH is 29.

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I had DS when I was 38 and I'll tell you...I'm tired We are TTC#2 and if all goes right I'll be 40 when they are born but I cannot imagine how exhausted I will be then. I wish that life would have put it in the cards to have children earlier. I was a lot more energetic and patient when I was younger.

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As far as where I was in life when I had them (established career, married, financially ready, house, etc), I was exactly where I hoped I would be.


As for my chronological age I wish I was about 3-5 years younger.

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CF but i wish we could have kids (its why i post on here now) everyone we know is having kids or just had them and its very tough on me now. I was pretty much the youngest in the family and no relatives/family friends to play with except for one. I will be 32 and DH 39 and feel completely stuck in a bizarre place. I feel like a social outcast for being CF or for my single friends I am an outcast because I am married. I feel pressure now to have them since everyone else around me is and i feel if i keep waiting our baby will be like me, alone. But you need money in order to have a baby and since we purchased our house last year we have NO money. Ugh i think if your fortunate to have the means to have a kid then just have them when you can but I have to say I would of never wanted them in my early/mid 20s because man it was such a good time being crazy those years.

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Of course, I wish I had had DS earlier. But then I am not sure how it would have turned out. I did not meet DH until I was 35. I don't know what kind of man he was when he was younger. I was a different person too in my 20's.

Obviously if I had met DH earlier we would not be the same situation as when we both met in our 30's.

I don't wish for stuff like that. Life is a chain of event, changing 1 parameter means your whole life would have been different. KWIM? My life and DH's experience molded us to be who we are, who we will be, who we were.

Ideally I would have met DH earlier in life, we would have been exactly the same as when we met years later, we would have had lots of time to travel and waited a few years to make babies, making the same income as we were older, and we would have had a house that we only got in our 30's.

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I'm happy with it. We had DS @ 26, and we'll both be 28 when #2 arrives. DH always said he wanted to be done by 30, so i guess 28 works too.

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I had DS @ 25

Wouldnt want it any other way.

Trust me none of my friends have babies and NONE are on the same level us as. They all go out still and wonder why we dont go out EVERY weekend!

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I had DS at 32 and wish we had him sooner. I want to have 3 kids and would have liked to have been done by the time I was 35. Doesn't look like that's going to happen because DH wants to wait at least another year and a half before TTC again.

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I had DS exactly when I had wanted to have my first. I was 30, we had been married for 5 years and together for 10, we owned a home, I had finished my doctorate 2 years before and we both have stable jobs. But, life throws a wrench in plans and when he was 8 months old my mother was diagnosed with cancer, and I wish I had had that year CF to be able to focus on her needs since it was hard to balance working FT, caring for DS, and caring for my mother.

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i was 29 and DH was 2 days shy of 35. i always said, married at 26 and 1st baby at 28. i got married at 27 and 1st baby at 29. so im only a year behind schedule. i also said i want my next by 32. so we'll see...DH is getting old!

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I'm happy with the way it worked out. I was 28 when I had DD. We would still like to have one or two more so I feel good about when we started.

Part of me thinks having kids a little younger would have been good too...I vaguely remember all nighters being a bit easier then . But if I did have kids sooner, I wouldn't have had a chance to party as much as I did

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I had DD at 24. I am happy to have had her when I did because I always wanted to be a young mother. We really don't have friends with kids, though, but I don't wish I had waited, I wish THEY would hurry up!