Does anyone know if DH allowed overnight at NSUH?

I was reading one of the other posts on this board and suddenly realized I may be forced to stay overnight BY MYSELF. I am quite independent, but overnight in a hospital bed alone is a frightening thought. Any one know or have any ideas. I hate rules and regulations...

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I agree with you and have thought the same thing. I am delivering at Winthrop and am not to find of staying in a hospital bed alone by myself.

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glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. Really, you need an extra set of eyes and ears to look out for you and the baby while you're in there. No one will take care of you like your family!!!!
I absolutely hate hospital rules and regulations...having been subjected to them when my father was in the hospital. People need loved ones around when they are trying to recover. I have learned, however, that there are ways around the rules :) :)

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I delievered at NSUH and went into labor at midnight...DH was allowed to stay with me throughout the labor process...DH is allowed to come and go, but im not sure about him staying there after you deliver...I dont think they allow it.

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At NS Manhasset Dh stayed with me overnight when I was in L&D, but when on maternity he didn't stay with me either time.

The first time my roommate's husband stayed one night but she was having some medical issues.

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I delivered there 6 years ago, so i dont know what there rules are now. But i remember them saying DH is welcome to stay throughout the laboring, but i dont think after the birth. I didnt want him to anyway, i was uncomfortable in there and didnt want him to be uncomfortable too. He needed to be well rested for the next few days.

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I work at a hospital in Westchester, but usually if you are in a private room (no roomate), you can have your significant other stay. The reason behind not letting him stay if you are in a shared room is for privacy. I do agree though that someone should be with you as much as possible since the first night can be difficult.

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I am so lucky that the hospital I am delievering in (in charlotte) has a brand new maternity ward and DH can stay with me all night if he wants. He may go home to sleep, we'll see. But i like that I have the option

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My SIL delivered there in April, no complications (vaginal birth) and DH was allowed to stay overnight...he stayed with her for 2 nights....she didn't have a private room either....

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Just to play devil's advocate here, unless you are paying for a private room, as your possible roommate I would feel very uncomfortable having someone's else's DH stay in the room with us.

I know he is your DH, but he's just some strange guy to me.

No offense, but unless it's a private room, JMO, I don't think it's fair to the roommate.

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We are grown women -- I don't really understand the "need" to have DH there, unless you are in a serious situation. And as stated, I would feel uncomfortable with someone else's DH in my room.

Most moms will tell you they were so tired after giving bith they wanted to be left alone to sleep a bit.

I had surgery 3 years ago and spent 4 mights in the hospital - alone. It was fine. You need the rest.

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I also agree that if I was sharing a room I would be uncomfortable with someone's DH there. You will be feeling like crap and bleeding and having a man in my room when I was walking out of the shower would make me very uncomfortable. If you have a private room I can see that it would be no big deal.

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I delivered at Northshore and my Dh was allowed to stay overnight. You have to find them but there are chairs that turn into a bed for the husbands otherwise they would have to sleep in the uncomfortable chair...

We decided that it wasn't necessary for him to stay.. We figured,at least one of us would have a good night sleep in our own bed.

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Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH

Posted by esquire

Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH

Just to play devil's advocate here, unless you are paying for a private room, as your possible roommate I would feel very uncomfortable having someone's else's DH stay in the room with us.

I know he is your DH, but he's just some strange guy to me.

No offense, but unless it's a private room, JMO, I don't think it's fair to the roommate.

TERESA - no one asked for your opinion. Glad to hear you are so brave and mighty. After giving birth, and for a person who's never been in the hospital, its nice to have that extra security. Especially nice to have someone to look after the baby, because I don't trust anyone, not the doctors, not the nurses, not anyone with my newborn or myself. Trust me, I'm a medical malpractice attorney, I know all about it.

I know you claim to feel uncomfortable with another man in the room, but don't forget, you are in a hospital with many people walking in and out all day long, so one more man isn't going to make a difference.

I don't know about your DH, but mine would like to stay overnight. Perhaps yours doesn't so you are just playing the devil's advocate for that reason.

I am just playing devil's advocate.

I do not feel that it is necessary for my DH to stay with me. I'll be fine in the hospital overnight by myself. If I needed him there, and thought it was appropriate, he would be there.

Apparently, there are others on the thread who feel the same way and/or who gave their opinion on the matter. Why not single them out by name as well?

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I think that even if my DH were allowed to stay overnight I would send him home to get a good nights sleep. I also can imagine that I will be passed out so there's no need for him to sleep in a chair to watch me sleep. If it were an emergency of course I would want him with me - but otherwise - he can have our nice King bed all to himself.

He'll need all the sleep he can get anyway because his butt will be up during the night too once that baby comes home.

ETA: I just read your response to Teresa and I think that was a little harsh. She was giving her opinion just as the rest of us were.

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I delivered there @ 6 weeks ago. My DH stayed with me for a short while after we went to my room which was about 4am and we felt it was OK because at the time because there was no one in the bed next to me. He didn't sleep there,he just made sure I was settled in before he went home to shower & sleep a bit. The next day,when I got a room mate, he did NOT stay. I definetly feel it would have been unfair to her, my DH is a strange man to her- as her DH was to me. Plus, you have an option of having your baby in the nursery at night or with you. As for someone who chose to have my child with me, I would not want another man there in the room.

Men and Drs do not go in and out constantly as someone said..I found all the nurses ( in both Monti & Lippert) to be female and they pretty much leave you alone at night- to rest and recover. I'm a pro and regular on the 3rd floor- I have been in/out constantly over the past 4 months.

Esquire, Theresa was just pointing out the ovious and with hormones going wild it is very easy to take something out of context. Maybe as a little splurge to yourself, a push present if you will..get a private room. The cost was about $400 a night extra. That way you'll be sure to have privacy and control over your environment.

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I actually have the NSUH "Having your Baby" Guide" where they discuss their policies and objectives.

According to the guide:

Visitor's Hours: 11 AM - 8 PM daily

Then there is something called: "Couples Evening Dessert" - 9:30 PM - 10:30 PM

The guide states also you may have your baby bedside with you 24 hours a day if all is well with you and the baby. This will necessitate someone coming into the room, it states, to check on the infant's care round the clock.

Apparently, it doesn't state anything specifically about whether DH can stay overnight, but if DH is allowed to be there until 10:30 PM and there is someone in the room on a 24 hour basis to check you out, there doesn't sound like there is going to be time for privacy.

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I delivered at NSUH 6 weeks ago- I had a C section and my DH stayed with me on the sleep chair almost every night. My roomate's DH did too.

We had the curtain for privacy. But, if her DH wasn't there too I might have had DH go home so she wouldn't be uncomfortable. It was nice to have him there because it was hard for me to sit up from a laying down position.

On a totally different topic though- don't mean to hijack but I had roaches in my room at NSUH- we had to change rooms!

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