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dm24angel
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by Lisa
this is a prime example why people on LIF have to stop using the "bullying" term all the time. If you dont know the back story, you won't understand why the people posting are doing so with such anger.....
This is not bullying,...it the TRUTH!
Just to clear it up, because I think some have it confused, I agree, and so do others. THIS ( last few pages) is NOT bullying. It is telling exactly what happened, with some emotions sure ( expected) but it is like you say The truth...
It was the other $hit that no-one gets...when you ( collective you) start behaving like teens, posting thingsjustto get a laugh..... the MESSAGE GETS LOST.
Thats what drove everyone nuts. a lot of posters just wanted to know what happened without all the other passive stuff.
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Posted 3/24/12 10:33 AM |
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jennylu
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by Lisa
this is a prime example why people on LIF have to stop using the "bullying" term all the time. If you dont know the back story, you won't understand why the people posting are doing so with such anger.....
Ths is not bullying,...it the TRUTH!
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Posted 3/24/12 10:37 AM |
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tara73
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Name: Buttercup
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by dm24angel
Just to clear it up, because I think some have it confused, I agree, and so do others. THIS ( last few pages) is NOT bullying. It is telling exactly what happened, with some emotions sure ( expected) but it is like you say The truth...
It was the other $hit that no-one gets...when you ( collective you) start behaving like teens, posting thingsjustto get a laugh..... the MESSAGE GETS LOST.
Thats what drove everyone nuts. a lot of posters just wanted to know what happened without all the other passive stuff.
YES to all of this.
I wanted to hear what actually happened. I wanted to know the history. Because, to me, it had to run deeper than some radio contests for tickets.
Yes, I did some searching, I asked questions last time and this time.
But until today I didn't really get it. I get it now. I do.
And I feel so very horrible for those of you who were taken advantage of. Know deep down that what YOU did was right, what YOU did was generous and helpful and charitable.
It's a shame that this all happened.
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Posted 3/24/12 10:39 AM |
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Goobster
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by dm24angel
Just to clear it up, because I think some have it confused, I agree, and so do others. THIS ( last few pages) is NOT bullying. It is telling exactly what happened, with some emotions sure ( expected) but it is like you say The truth...
It was the other $hit that no-one gets...when you ( collective you) start behaving like teens, posting thingsjustto get a laugh..... the MESSAGE GETS LOST.
Thats what drove everyone nuts. a lot of posters just wanted to know what happened without all the other passive stuff.
I agree. Keep the pics and jokes and personal knocks out of it. Just tell it like it is and it will be understood clearly.
Message edited 3/24/2012 10:42:26 AM.
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Posted 3/24/12 10:41 AM |
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KristenRSF
LIF Toddler
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Name: Kris
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Ron was only trying to protect her and saving the money for what was NEEDED so she wouldnt piss it away on other shit. The house, etc. Ron, from what I remember was there with her every step of the way when her husband was in the hospital. He didn't just get involved because she needed a new house. This site and the owners did A LOT for her.
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Posted 3/24/12 10:42 AM |
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luvsbob4603
To a healthy 2013
Member since 5/05 21840 total posts
Name: To a brand new year to a healthier me
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by MsKS511
Oh Janet, Janet, Janet.
Since I am positive you are muddying up my name behind the scenes to the few people who actually feel sorry for you, I have a few minutes between cleaning my house and getting ready to start my day to let everyone here know what I called you out on. The reason people were telling me you were making threatening Facebook statuses about me, the reason you flipped your shit and went on a rampage telling people I can not be trusted.
Janet posted on a FB group that she wanted to win tickets to the County Fair. Begged for votes, posted about it numerous times to ask everyone to vote for her picture of her and her co-workers. WELL, some of us went to vote and saw that she was only losing by two votes. Low and behold, Janet eventually won the contest. I did not vote for her but clicked on the names that DID vote for her. Here is one of them:
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000180540296
I cannot seem to find the other but the other name was Janet under a name like Oplanet Janet or some shit like that.
Now, you tell me this. Is that a FAIR way to win a contest? Is that right that she used the Facebook page of someone who is deceased just to win a few tickets to the County Fkn Fair? Please note that the only thing visible on Keith Orlando's FB page is that he "likes" the county fair. I'm sorry but that is sick.
This is just a small wave in the sea of absolute SHIT that Janet has produced but I am not going there.
All I know is that if I couldnt pay my property taxes, or afford to by myself a 10 dollar keyboard:
Anyone have a spare keyboard?
or my daughter needed a camera for school:
Help!
I would't care that much about:
NKOTB
Ron and Liz and MANY people on this site have gone above and BEYOND for you Janet. Do you forget the time you told me you had no money for Christmas gifts and the next day I Fedexed you gifts for your daughter? Or how about when you needed something to wear to a formal event and I offered to take you shopping or come to my home and pick something out, but apparently you got a better offer?
For all of you wondering why people are pissed off, these are only a few of the reasons why.
And with that I am sure this name will be banned or this thread will be pulled so I hope everyone has a lovely weekend!!!
They should let you come back kris i hope they do!!
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Posted 3/24/12 10:43 AM |
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Goobster
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by MsKS511
Ron was only trying to protect her and saving the money for what was NEEDED so she wouldnt piss it away on other shit. The house, etc. Ron, from what I remember was there with her every step of the way when her husband was in the hospital. He didn't just get involved because she needed a new house. This site and the owners did A LOT for her.
I guess I just wonder, WHY her? So many people have tragedy in their lives. Her story, while tragic, is not uncommon. So why her? Did her story just touch people that much?
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Posted 3/24/12 10:43 AM |
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luvsbob4603
To a healthy 2013
Member since 5/05 21840 total posts
Name: To a brand new year to a healthier me
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
you'll always have a friend in me!!
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Posted 3/24/12 10:44 AM |
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KristenRSF
LIF Toddler
Member since 5/10 487 total posts
Name: Kris
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by Goobster
Posted by MsKS511
Ron was only trying to protect her and saving the money for what was NEEDED so she wouldnt piss it away on other shit. The house, etc. Ron, from what I remember was there with her every step of the way when her husband was in the hospital. He didn't just get involved because she needed a new house. This site and the owners did A LOT for her.
I guess I just wonder, WHY her? So many people have tragedy in their lives. Her story, while tragic, is not uncommon. So why her? Did her story just touch people that much?
I honestly don't know but it was a wonderful thing they did and the fundraiser for her was over the top and amazing. I honestly was proud (at one point) to be a part of it. I don't hate Janet, I don't wish bad on her, and I hope and pray she finds it in herself to just live her life, get on with her life, and teach her daughter to be just as generous as the people here have been to her. We have ALL suffered loss and I don't wish what she went through on anyone but I also know that there has to come a time when enough is enough and you get on your own two feet and start helping yourself. I can't dedicate another minute of brain power to this, I am spent and have to get my eyebrows done. I look like Burt Reynolds.
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Posted 3/24/12 10:51 AM |
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Goobster
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by MsKS511
Posted by Goobster
Posted by MsKS511
Ron was only trying to protect her and saving the money for what was NEEDED so she wouldnt piss it away on other shit. The house, etc. Ron, from what I remember was there with her every step of the way when her husband was in the hospital. He didn't just get involved because she needed a new house. This site and the owners did A LOT for her.
I guess I just wonder, WHY her? So many people have tragedy in their lives. Her story, while tragic, is not uncommon. So why her? Did her story just touch people that much?
I honestly don't know but it was a wonderful thing they did and the fundraiser for her was over the top and amazing. I honestly was proud (at one point) to be a part of it. I don't hate Janet, I don't wish bad on her, and I hope and pray she finds it in herself to just live her life, get on with her life, and teach her daughter to be just as generous as the people here have been to her. We have ALL suffered loss and I don't wish what she went through on anyone but I also know that there has to come a time when enough is enough and you get on your own two feet and start helping yourself. I can't dedicate another minute of brain power to this, I am spent and have to get my eyebrows done. I look like Burt Reynolds.
I am so sorry you were hurt. I don't know you (or do I)? But either way, I am glad you came on and helped make us see the situation more clearly.
Unfortunately we do have to be cautious when we help others. Not saying don't do it again but definitely must be cautious.
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Posted 3/24/12 10:53 AM |
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HeathKernandez
Our Ron is an awesome Ron
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by MsMBV
Edited b/c lb pointed out I'm a dope. Lol.
BULLY!!!
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Posted 3/24/12 10:53 AM |
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JenniferEver
The Disney Lady
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Name: Jennifer
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
FTR I wasn't saying one way or another whether Janet has mental issues. I also didn't say whether or not she is conniving. I'm just saying, if you want to say something about the actually facts at hand (not sure how at hand they are all these years later, but still), that's one thing, making fun of her mom, her style of speech, etc is another.
I really feel bad for this whole situation. Now that I've read about it, I just feel like the whole thing sucks all around and I hope we can just get past it as a community.
if you think janet is so horrible and lookng to start drama, next time she posts IGNORE it. Don't let her stir up drama/get attention if that's what you think she's trying to do.
And one thing about the OP is good, we should all be thinking about end of life decisions because as we've seen, this stuff can happen to anyone.
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Posted 3/24/12 10:56 AM |
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JenniferEver
The Disney Lady
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by dm24angel
Posted by smdl
Posted by colette
12,000+ views. Amazing.
For the folks who are SOOO shocked/offended/tired/ of the drama, and find a way to post that AT LEAST 3x a week, the fact that you're still here tells me you're not *that* bored with it all.
For the folks who are SOOOO offended at the bashing, yet begin their posts with "I don't know the whole story here but..."
perhaps you should step away from your ORGY of self-righteousness long enough to question WHY a community would turn so quickly and so thoroughly on one of their own - whom they've seen fit to help out (putting it MILDLY) for years. Hmmm maybe there's a REASON.
perhaps you should wonder why otherwise "nice" posters would weigh in/make light of a PSA from a poster who has done a lot of really UNKIND things to a LOT of people here, LIF as a business included.. hmmm maybe there's a REASON.
perhaps question why LIF is sitting back letting this unfold a bit longer than they normally would.... hmmm maybe there's a REASON.
Anyone who thinks this is such a crazy volatile unfriendly nasty place that grown women will just up and attack you for NO REASON, I hate to burst your bubble of naivete but that is just not the case. If you worry that the wrath will be turned on YOU at some point, here's a tip: Don't be an assshole and you'll be fine.
I love you right now!
I dont mean to say this in a mean way so I hope it doesn't come across that way, but none of these points are very valid to this thread. They might have been on page say 2, before this became the clusterf@ck it did.
Because almost everyone agreed with them all already.
No-one is saying anyone was attacked "for no reason".
No-one is saying anyone was making 'light of it for no reason."
No-one was saying that the community should NOT " have turned on Janet" .
All your points...We all agree with you.
Many do NOT agree that it ok to behave like children when we are capable of being adults. Simple as that.
Not everything is a freaking joke . Why not just say Janets a jerk because and list it?
The passive agressive, nasty ugly remarks, picking on her mom and her intelligence, etc. Thats just uncalled for and enrages people...almost as much if not just as much as it enrages them what Janet did.
Presentation is everything sometimes.
And it's quite sad because some people were really hurt by actions of Janet, but explaining that without all the passive agressive, just to get a laugh behavior might have made someone take it seriously, most just see those people as ridiculous and evil spirited instead.
This is how I feel. I have intereacted and met several of the posters on tis thread who are saying bad things about janet. I know them well enough to know them as nice people who would not say it for no reason. I just think, that like in janet's original post, the message gets lost.
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Posted 3/24/12 10:58 AM |
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Lisa
I'm a PANK!!!
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by JenniferEver
if you think janet is so horrible and lookng to start drama, next time she posts IGNORE it. Don't let her stir up drama/get attention if that's what you think she's trying to do.
because you are always going to have the newbies that will not ignore her only because they do not know what the past situation was. So then she will feel validated that she is "making a difference" and like any good carnie will look for her next mark.....
Message edited 3/24/2012 11:07:17 AM.
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Posted 3/24/12 11:05 AM |
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HeathKernandez
Our Ron is an awesome Ron
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Name: baby fish mouth
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by JenniferEver
if you think janet is so horrible and lookng to start drama, next time she posts IGNORE it. Don't let her stir up drama/get attention if that's what you think she's trying to do.
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Why should they? Why should they refrain from voicing THEIR experience/opinion?
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Posted 3/24/12 11:14 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
I didn't post that she would threaten to sue LIF over getting the fundraiser money for things like cell phones, etc. because I didn't feel it was my place. But I wasn't going to let Janet paint herself as the victim & then have people be accused of bullying someone who was disabled or mentally ill. You can see by her posts that she can formulate a plan when it comes to winning contests, etc.
Posted by Lisa
Posted by JenniferEver
if you think janet is so horrible and lookng to start drama, next time she posts IGNORE it. Don't let her stir up drama/get attention if that's what you think she's trying to do.
because you are always going to have the newbies that will not ignore her only because they do not know what the past situation was. So then she will feel validated that she is "making a difference" and like any good carnie will look for her next mark.....
Exactly.
If she posted a PSA: Reminder to please get a living will & healthcare proxy signed (which btw, are TWO DIFFERENT THINGS), without the BS about adding in about her drama, none of this would have transpired.
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Posted 3/24/12 11:15 AM |
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JenniferEver
The Disney Lady
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by HeathKernandez
Posted by JenniferEver
if you think janet is so horrible and lookng to start drama, next time she posts IGNORE it. Don't let her stir up drama/get attention if that's what you think she's trying to do.
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Why should they? Why should they refrain from voicing THEIR experience/opinion?
Because, if you think she only wants attention, you're giving her exactly what she wants.
and
2- no good can come of it
I'm just sad about how this thread turned into being about dyslexia, and janet's mom, etc etc.
But it's a free country and a sometimes free LIF.
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Posted 3/24/12 11:16 AM |
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KristenRSF
LIF Toddler
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Name: Kris
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by JenniferEver
Posted by HeathKernandez
Posted by JenniferEver
if you think janet is so horrible and lookng to start drama, next time she posts IGNORE it. Don't let her stir up drama/get attention if that's what you think she's trying to do.
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Why should they? Why should they refrain from voicing THEIR experience/opinion?
Because, if you think she only wants attention, you're giving her exactly what she wants.
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2- no good can come of it
I'm just sad about how this thread turned into being about dyslexia, and janet's mom, etc etc.
But it's a free country and a sometimes free LIF.
If that's all you got out of this post then I really don't know what to tell you. That's NOT what this is about anymore. Did you read how she called out my name in her Facebook status, basically telling people that I am some evil person and to stay far away from me? Have you read the reasons WHY a bunch of us have come out to say something? How in her incoherant ramble last night she AGAIN called me out, this time without mentioning my name? Sorry, this goes way beyond calling her a mental case, her mother, and dyslexia. UGH, I have to go! lol
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Posted 3/24/12 11:19 AM |
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Stacey1403
Where it all began....
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by MsKS511
Posted by JenniferEver
Posted by HeathKernandez
Posted by JenniferEver
if you think janet is so horrible and lookng to start drama, next time she posts IGNORE it. Don't let her stir up drama/get attention if that's what you think she's trying to do.
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Why should they? Why should they refrain from voicing THEIR experience/opinion?
Because, if you think she only wants attention, you're giving her exactly what she wants.
and
2- no good can come of it
I'm just sad about how this thread turned into being about dyslexia, and janet's mom, etc etc.
But it's a free country and a sometimes free LIF.
If that's all you got out of this post then I really don't know what to tell you. That's NOT what this is about anymore. Did you read how she called out my name in her Facebook status, basically telling people that I am some evil person and to stay far away from me? Have you read the reasons WHY a bunch of us have come out to say something? How in her incoherant ramble last night she AGAIN called me out, this time without mentioning my name? Sorry, this goes way beyond calling her a mental case, her mother, and dyslexia. UGH, I have to go! lol
Oh so that's your prob?
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Posted 3/24/12 11:25 AM |
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JenniferEver
The Disney Lady
Member since 5/05 18163 total posts
Name: Jennifer
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by MsKS511
Posted by JenniferEver
Posted by HeathKernandez
Posted by JenniferEver
if you think janet is so horrible and lookng to start drama, next time she posts IGNORE it. Don't let her stir up drama/get attention if that's what you think she's trying to do.
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Why should they? Why should they refrain from voicing THEIR experience/opinion?
Because, if you think she only wants attention, you're giving her exactly what she wants.
and
2- no good can come of it
I'm just sad about how this thread turned into being about dyslexia, and janet's mom, etc etc.
But it's a free country and a sometimes free LIF.
If that's all you got out of this post then I really don't know what to tell you. That's NOT what this is about anymore. Did you read how she called out my name in her Facebook status, basically telling people that I am some evil person and to stay far away from me? Have you read the reasons WHY a bunch of us have come out to say something? How in her incoherant ramble last night she AGAIN called me out, this time without mentioning my name? Sorry, this goes way beyond calling her a mental case, her mother, and dyslexia. UGH, I have to go! lol
It was about those other things first. I still question the value of bringing up all of the past stuff in any case.
I am NOT saying that the bad things you're saying aren't horrible. They really are. Say what you want about that. I just didn't like the making fun of personal thngs, and I still think if your goal is to not have janet post anymore, calling attention to her and her posts isn't the best way to go about it.
I feel very bad about all of this. It really sucks how it turned out. I was here when janet's DH passed away and saw the whole outpouring support she received from everyone. It's sad and disgusting that it has devolved to this.
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Posted 3/24/12 11:27 AM |
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Stacey1403
Where it all began....
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by jennylu
Posted by Lisa
this is a prime example why people on LIF have to stop using the "bullying" term all the time. If you dont know the back story, you won't understand why the people posting are doing so with such anger.....
Ths is not bullying,...it the TRUTH!
I see your and raise you two and a
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Posted 3/24/12 11:27 AM |
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Kazuri
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by Lisa
Posted by JenniferEver
if you think janet is so horrible and lookng to start drama, next time she posts IGNORE it. Don't let her stir up drama/get attention if that's what you think she's trying to do.
because you are always going to have the newbies that will not ignore her only because they do not know what the past situation was. So then she will feel validated that she is "making a difference" and like any good carnie will look for her next mark.....
The easy solution would have been for TPTB to ban her. This whole thread could have been avoided and there would be no new marks for Janet to prey on. I'm confused why she is allowed to still post here after years of this behavior.
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Posted 3/24/12 11:33 AM |
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Goobster
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by Kazuri
Posted by Lisa
Posted by JenniferEver
if you think janet is so horrible and lookng to start drama, next time she posts IGNORE it. Don't let her stir up drama/get attention if that's what you think she's trying to do.
because you are always going to have the newbies that will not ignore her only because they do not know what the past situation was. So then she will feel validated that she is "making a difference" and like any good carnie will look for her next mark.....
The easy solution would have been for TPTB to ban her. This whole thread could have been avoided and there would be no new marks for Janet to prey on. I'm confused why she is allowed to still post here after years of this behavior.
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Posted 3/24/12 11:37 AM |
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Little-J-Mommy
I'm a Big Brother
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by Kazuri
Posted by Lisa
Posted by JenniferEver
if you think janet is so horrible and lookng to start drama, next time she posts IGNORE it. Don't let her stir up drama/get attention if that's what you think she's trying to do.
because you are always going to have the newbies that will not ignore her only because they do not know what the past situation was. So then she will feel validated that she is "making a difference" and like any good carnie will look for her next mark.....
The easy solution would have been for TPTB to ban her. This whole thread could have been avoided and there would be no new marks for Janet to prey on. I'm confused why she is allowed to still post here after years of this behavior.
ITA about banning her!!!
Jennifer we ALL get that YOU don't think it's worth our time and energy responding to her, but that's NOT for you to decide. You've made your point and it's been acknowledged....sorry, but you're not changing any minds here.
To respond to an earlier poster....I think the board responded to Janet because of the sheer tragic events that unfolded in such a sudden fashion. I *believe* (and could be wrong) that it was the 1st time on LIF that anyone had dealt with the loss of a DH so publicly. I think it just struck a nerve with every.woman.here. That, OMG, it could happen to any of us fear and the people of LIF rallied to help this woman as if it was happening to them kwim? It was devastating to watch all the details as they unfolded and people just wanted to help.
For her to have taken that help and tainted it the way she did makes me sick. It is beyond a shame that none of those other ladies who have suffered tragedies were given the same type of support (fundraisers etc) because of this makes me even more sick.
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Posted 3/24/12 11:39 AM |
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jennylu
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
You so funny!
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