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MsMBV
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Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
Here's the scenario:
You get a gift from someone. It is a relatively expensive gift that has adesigner tag. It is a designer that you are VERY familiar with, and that is why the person bought it. They have no wrking knowledge of this type of item, or of the designer.
You open the gift, and are touched, knowing how out of character it is for this person to buy this type of item. The gift giver is visibly pleased with themself that you like the gift.
You look at the gift again later, when no one else is there. You begin to notice some "strangeness." The gift is a knock-off. You are certain of this. You know that the person who gave the gift did not intentionally buy a knock-off, and was ripped off.
WWYD?
(PS. - before I get flamed for being shallow or ungrateful...this did not happen to me. It is something that happened to another person, and came up during a social event last night. I am just curious to see what everyone would do, because last night the conversation surprised me a bit.)
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Posted 3/27/09 9:23 AM  |
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Gertyrae
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
I honestly would just use it. If it's a fake, so what? Wouldn't bother me in the least. The person who bought it, purchased with good intentions so I would just use it.
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| Posted 3/27/09 9:29 AM |
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MrsA714
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
Posted by Gertyrae
I honestly would just use it. If it's a fake, so what? Wouldn't bother me in the least. The person who bought it, purchased with good intentions so I would just use it.
I agree. It was a gift after all. To say something to the person would be rude IMO. It's the thought that counts.
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| Posted 3/27/09 9:36 AM |
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LightUpOurLife
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
I don't know.....
Did they buy the gift at a knock off price and try to say they paid a lot of money? I would just use it when they were around.
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Did they buy the gift for a lot of money and get scammed? I would hope they could get money back if this is the case.
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| Posted 3/27/09 9:41 AM |
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sunflowerjesss
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
Posted by Gertyrae
I honestly would just use it. If it's a fake, so what? Wouldn't bother me in the least. The person who bought it, purchased with good intentions so I would just use it.
ITA!
The only part that is tricky to me is the giver of the gift just got s c r e w e d.
I would want to let the person know to be more careful just so they don't blow their money. But I am not sure how you could do that in a nice way without seeming like you are ungrateful for what they gave you.
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| Posted 3/27/09 9:53 AM |
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Domino
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
The only way to be nice about it IMO would be to use the bag the next time you saw the person and do something like...."I cant believe how good of a knockoff this is. Nowadays you cant tell a fake from the real thing. Great shopping, you really did a good job picking this out." Or something like that...almost being happy that you got the knockoff and complimenting friend that they got such an "authentic" looking one. Then it kinda puts it in the friend's court if they want to say something. I don't know...thats the best I could come up with.
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| Posted 3/27/09 10:02 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
Posted by sunflowerjesss
Posted by Gertyrae
I honestly would just use it. If it's a fake, so what? Wouldn't bother me in the least. The person who bought it, purchased with good intentions so I would just use it.
ITA!
The only part that is tricky to me is the giver of the gift just got s c r e w e d.
I would want to let the person know to be more careful just so they don't blow their money. But I am not sure how you could do that in a nice way without seeming like you are ungrateful for what they gave you.
i agree. i couldn't care less if it was a knock-off BUT i would hate to think my friend paid good $$$ for something that wasn't actually worth that much.
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| Posted 3/27/09 10:03 AM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
Posted by BJandDan
Did they buy the gift for a lot of money and get scammed? I would hope they could get money back if this is the case.
They paid retail and thought it was real. Got completely scammed
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| Posted 3/27/09 10:06 AM |
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jerseypanda
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
Honestly, I would use the bag because I don't really care about brand names or designers.
But the more I think about it, the more I don't think I would say anything. If you do say something, regardless of if your reason is to let them know that they were ripped off, the gift giver is going to feel terrible.
They will either feel terrible because they got ripped off, they might feel terrible because they are embarassed that you realized it is a knock off, or they will be embarassed because they knew it was a knock off and didn't think you would notice.
Any way I look at that, the person is going to feel bad. And no matter what they paid for it, they feel good about themselves because they gave you something that they knew you would like. I don't think I would want to take that happiness away from someone.
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| Posted 3/27/09 10:08 AM |
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Ophelia
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by BJandDan
Did they buy the gift for a lot of money and get scammed? I would hope they could get money back if this is the case.
They paid retail and thought it was real. Got completely scammed
you have to say something in that case.
that is complete BS.
I would just say...I love the item. I know you paid a lot for it, but I wanted to tell you, you paid far too much, and here is why.....
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| Posted 3/27/09 10:09 AM |
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Jenn627
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
Well if they got scammed - and you know where they bought it from - I would go to the store and make a scene.
i.e. Let's say it was ABC dept store. I'd go in and ask them to authenticate the bag, if they identify it as a fake - I'd make a scene. Then I would get all the info I could - talk to mgr, get names, write down info and THEN go back to the person who bought the gift and have them bring the receipt and yada yada yada.
Tell the gift giver you brought it in for a repair or to buy a matching something and they said it was fake.
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| Posted 3/27/09 10:10 AM |
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KGools
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by BJandDan
Did they buy the gift for a lot of money and get scammed? I would hope they could get money back if this is the case.
They paid retail and thought it was real. Got completely scammed
In this case, I would absolutely say something.
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| Posted 3/27/09 10:18 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
like others have said - my primary concern would be that this person got robbed! not that I don't like fakes.
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| Posted 3/27/09 10:43 AM |
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dpli
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by BJandDan
Did they buy the gift for a lot of money and get scammed? I would hope they could get money back if this is the case.
They paid retail and thought it was real. Got completely scammed
you have to say something in that case.
that is complete BS.
I would just say...I love the item. I know you paid a lot for it, but I wanted to tell you, you paid far too much, and here is why.....
With the added info, ITA. I would tell the person how much I LOVE the bag and would love to keep it, but wanted her to know she was taken. Then let her decide what she wants to do (return it, let me keep it, whatever.....)
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| Posted 3/27/09 11:25 AM |
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sweetie101
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
this happend to my friend her father gf gave her bad. she throught it was a real coach bag. she brought it to a coach store and it turn out to be a fake.lol
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| Posted 3/27/09 11:56 AM |
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
While I would want them to know they got robbed, I would want to be ABSOLUTELY certain that it was fake. So I would bring it to the store first and then once it was confirmed I would tell the person.
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| Posted 3/27/09 12:22 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
well my only thing is -- how could you be 100% certain that they didn't know it was a knock off and are trying to pass it off to the receiver as real? like they SAY they got it at retail for full price -- but maybe they could just be saying that so the receiver believes they paid full price.
since i couldn't be sure i'd probably just keep it and deal.
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by BJandDan
Did they buy the gift for a lot of money and get scammed? I would hope they could get money back if this is the case.
They paid retail and thought it was real. Got completely scammed
you have to say something in that case.
that is complete BS.
I would just say...I love the item. I know you paid a lot for it, but I wanted to tell you, you paid far too much, and here is why.....
In this instance, since you know the gift giver thinks it's real, I would handle the situation exactly like this.
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| Posted 3/27/09 12:28 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
like others have said - my primary concern would be that this person got robbed! not that I don't like fakes.
ditto
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| Posted 3/27/09 12:33 PM |
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WNA01
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
like others have said - my primary concern would be that this person got robbed! not that I don't like fakes.
Couldnt agree more!!!
However bc this person is a friend/relative it would be terrible if u didnt tell her she was ripped off.
What if she purchases another gift at the same place for someone else and gets ripped off again? wouldnt u feel awful?
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| Posted 3/27/09 9:15 PM |
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Cheeks24
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
Does this person know this designer well? If they don't, then I would let them know that "someone" told you it was a fake.
My uncle had bought me a beautiful gold necklace for Christmas one year and he truly thought it was real gold. Well it wasn't. It was gold plated. He was ripped off and he was so pisssed when I told him what had happened.
Message edited 3/27/2009 9:20:14 PM.
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| Posted 3/27/09 9:19 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
There are so many variables to this scenario that would make my answer change.
For one...how do you know what someone paid for a gift they bought you? I mean, it's not like people say, "Do you like my gift? I paid SO much for it." Who says that? So you don't really know if they paid full price.
Second, I'd guess they bought it off the street somewhere or at a "pocketbook party" because what department store or any store, really, sells knockoffs? Unless I just don't know about it, I don't really know any reputable store that sells a knockoff at the real thing's price.
I'd probably assume this person knew it was a knockoff and just keep it and use it. If this person doesn't normally buy designer stuff, then it's not likely to happen to them again, and if I like the gift anyway, then no harm done, they still bought me a good gift and can still feel good about that.
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
I think they probably bought it at a pocket book party or off the street too. A coworker would buy "tiffanys" jewelry at a jewelry party for gifts. She believed it was real and she was getting a great deal.
The chances of buying a fake at a department store are so slim. (Another reason for stores having strict return policies.) If I truly thought they got ripped off, I would ask for the gift receipt and say that there was a tear or something was wrong with it.
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| Posted 3/28/09 2:52 PM |
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LemonHead
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
I wouldn't say anything to the gift-giver and put it away. I wouldn't use it b/c I don't condone knock-offs (it's stealing from the designer), but I'd thank them and never mention it again.
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| Posted 3/28/09 2:59 PM |
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sticklee
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Re: Getting a gift that is not what it appears...WWYD question...
I agree with faithann. I don't like knockoffs, and wouldn't use it.
I actually have received a fake LV bag as a gift - I did not say anything to the gift-giver. I listed the bag on ebay (with full disclosure that this was a fake) and someone bought it.
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